I have a new girlfiriend, we met about 2 years ago though an online dating site called millionairecupid.com but actually started dating in April, she is a soriority chick and has an ex with which she has to do greek stuff and alot of buddies that she used to hang out with.
I am out for summer from town and on the first day i was out she went out with her ex for a dinner, on the second she went with her buddies to the bonfire and snuggled with one of them...
is there any reason why i should not brake up with her? i like her alot and she calls me like every 2 hours, but i just dont know...is it normal for 20year olds to go for dinners with ex's and to snuggle with male friends without making it sexual?
Stuff she does just annoys the **** out of me, i just dont know if i should let her know about it or just dump her before i fall for her too hard
let me know wat u think..
2007-10-25 04:35:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time for you to grow up. Are you looking for a woman with no interest and who you can control? Maybe you could lock her up in a castle where nobody could see her. Woman need to be active as much as you do. You need to build a relationship on trust. If she calls you every two hours than she is in to you. Talk to her tell her what you are felling. You may be surprise what her response may be and you may find that she is really into you and is just looking fot something to do until you get back. Of course, you may find that she is not as interest in your relationship as you are. Two way communication can build the relationship.
2007-10-25 04:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by John R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let her go. At 20 years old, she should act more mature and be more considerate of you. It's okay to be in a sorority, but one has to keep things in proper perspective. She can't expect to have a relationship with you, while she continues to hang out with her ex and do the buddy-buddy snuggling thing with the guys. It's also rather insecure of her to be calling you every 2 hours. This obvious insecurity may explain the snuggling and other such behavior. You can let her know about it, but it won't make a difference. She'll only think you're jealous of her friends, or come up with some other bogus reason why you're hassling her. You would be wise to just dump her and find a more mature woman. These things happen, so just chalk it up and move on.
2007-10-25 05:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact you met at millionaire.cupid makes me wonder if you have a lot of money and whether she is after that.
If stuff she does annoys you, and she goes out with ex boy friends and cuddles with male friends makes me thing she isn't ready to get into a relationship that is serious with anyone so it could be better to just be friends and not let yourself get too involved with her. It would be better to make a lot of friends in the real world and look for someone you can be compatible with that way rather than an online dating service where you don't truly know who you are talking about or why they are there. The fact that she went to a site which would make her think you may be rich may be the only reason she is interested in you.
2007-10-25 04:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that you should let her know before you decide to dump her. She is not a mind reader and I can't imagine someone that calls you that often not really being into you! So it may just be a difference in behavior between the two of you. I mean she is a keeper if she understands how you and doensn't mind comprimising. As, far as it normal for her to be snuggling with different people. It depends on her, I mean it could be harmless to her, she could think its not a big deal and she is entitled to that. We are all different and have different ideas of what normal is. The point is can we compromise and get somewhere in the middle where both needs are met.
Good luck!
2007-10-25 04:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an older woman, I have children your age. I asked my son about your answer and he said" Why does she not take him with her if she is involved in a one on one relationship with this guy?" Now we feel that she is messing you over. You need to go ahead and get out while you can. Sounds like she is one messed up chick. You have a whole life a head of you and why spend your special time on someone that is running around with old flames, cuddling with other men and letting the one that is suppose to be the special one sit back and wait on the silly guilty phone call. Please walk away! Find you one that wants to take you with and cuddle with you. One that wants to spend her time with her mate. Best of Luck dear. Look at the big picture here. You are the one being left out. Also, I don't believe in her faithfulness either. You may get something you can't wash off. Turn your self around and get a dinner date with a real lady...Have a great weekend..
2007-10-25 04:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think you two need to have a good discussion about what each of you find acceptable in a relationship before giving her the travel card. You didn't mention your age but did say she was 20. It's nice that her and her ex remain friends, much healthier than being enemies and speaking poorly of each other. But in order for all the stars to line up properly you should be having a good heart to heart to put all your cards on table. I also met the lady that I married on line. Was chatting with a lot of losers and users before I was lucky enough to meet this woman so be careful when talking with these gals on line. Anyone can claim to be anyone or anything they want on line, and often being someone completely opposite of their description, and this is true of both sexes. Best of luck.
2007-10-25 04:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a sit down and let her know that it makes you very uncomfortable that she is so friendly with her buddies. If she insists that is the way it is, move on.
I have more male friends than female. Holding hands, snuggling, etc.. is more than friendship. It is rare that a male friend & me would even hug (except comforting from death of a close friend/relative). RED flag does appear in your situation.
2007-10-25 04:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by Carole Q 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you seeing someone or a girl you like. We learn each other personality. She is different because she is happy about herself. Dinner with her ex, there still a little chemistry feeling there. Talk to her about your feeling and be honest about it. I know you like her very much, but be safe now rather then be sorry. Relationship is hard to judge if gonna last long or not. Really just how you both working to develope a healthy couple.
2007-10-25 04:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by beaupamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we are developing at a rapid speed in all respects, one has to remember that we are really developing without developing our faculty. Quite a chance your choice could be wrong or you are not that along with the changes going around. Keep up with the pase or make your own. How, ask another time.
2007-10-25 04:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by sgog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're uncomfortable with it, you should bring it to her attention. If that's how she is, then she may say, "Screw you" anyway. But...it's better to get it resolved now, before you get in too deep. The biggest mistake people make is IGNORING red flags waving because they like someone so much, only to kick themselves in the tush over and over years later for NOT paying attention to what they KNEW would be a big problem....while, "hoping they would change". Wise up now.
2007-10-25 04:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋