We've been together for 2 years. We have a 5 month old. We obviously aren't in a rush if we didn't get married already. But does actually being married change anything? Will our relationship be the same after we get married. Before you place judgement, I came from a differernt backround then some. My parent were never married. Therefore, it was never pushed on me that I "HAVE" to get married. But I'm wondering if it would make a difference.
Thank you,
2007-10-25 04:26:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i say if it aint broke then dont fix it
2007-10-25 04:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by @!#$%^ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Other than legal benefits, it does many things that simply living together cannot do.
If you have any spiritual curiousity, it is definately a plus with God by being legally and officially married, as only He intended.
Also, it puts both of you in a willing committment for life. While being together and not married, you both have your little loophole for simply walking out of the relationship with no legal or binding ramifications. That is the only reason "not" to be married. It's the "just in case it doesn't work" mentality.
It is very hard to work with people (couples) that have been together for any length of time, but still do not committ wholeheartedly through the act of legal marriage.
As well, there are a huge number of social benefits to being married.
2007-10-25 04:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by splashdesign238 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that being married gives you the assurance that the person is committed to you. Being married also says that I am not going to run away from you I will be there for you always. You have a contract with that person which is your marriage licence. It shows to the person you are in love with that you have integrity in your character and that you are serious about the relationship.
I know that a lot of people out there will disagree with me on this one and just say that it is just a paper. Well if it is just a paper then what is the problem of not go ahead and getting married.
To me talk is cheap, it's the action that counts.
2007-10-25 05:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, it didn't change anything. We dated for 3 years before getting married and lived together for 6 months. After the wedding everyone would ask me "how is married life?" and I would always tell them that it is exactly the same as it was before. It only has to be different if you want it to be. If you are both happy with the way things are now, then getting married shouldn't change that.
2007-10-25 04:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by casejo2002 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well..
My husband and I lived together for a long time before we got married. When we did, nothing changed except my last name. We still get along and the sex is the same. If you already live together, you know how frequent you have sex - just because your husband and wife doesnt mean the sex will go down. It's different for everybody!
If you feel like it would be good, then go with it! Talk with him and see what he feels is best.
2007-10-25 04:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The law will most definatly see it as different, they will have more respect for you being a 'Mrs', it shouldnt change your sex life at all, it may make you relationship with your partner more serious and mature (not in a bad way) and if you married i think it woud symbolise both of your feelings for each other, it should pull you closer together.
2007-10-25 04:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure, 2 years really doesn't seem that long, but no offense.
But, I think the relationship changes most when you have a child, and you have gone through that already. If things are still strong after that, I would say why not?
2007-10-25 04:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by {:3) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
legally, yes. if you're married you can claim each other on medical insurance, life insurance, etc. if you should split up, you can get child support, alimony, etc. however, if you split up and want a divorce, you have to pay a lawyer big bucks to get it...if you're not married, you just split. if you are married and you split, you have certain property rights (depending on the state you live in) but if you're not married, you can just decide who gets what on your own. unless you're religious and your religion says you should be married, the main reason for marriage is for legal reasons. otherwise, why bother? the main thing is, do you get along, like to be together, are you committed to the relationship, and are you faithful to each other.
2007-10-25 04:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to my advice very carefully and try to follow it if you want to. You should obviously get married with a man whom you love. Dont think that marriage is done to prove socially that you both love each other. It is about a commitment and a true life partner who will stay with you forever and ever and will never leave you. That promises are called marriage. All relaitons stay in this world on promises and that promises are marriage and you should do it if you think that you both love earh other truely.
2007-10-25 04:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by Raj Chan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yea it makes a difference, sometimes better sometimes worse, that's the scarey part. And it definetly makes a difference if you decided you want out because it's much harder to leave. If you don't have "marriage" values then I would leave well enough alone, as your daughter get older you may want to reconsider this as you probably don't want her growing up like you did and being totally confused about love, marriage and committment.
2007-10-25 04:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you want to be with this man until the day you die, yes get married.
2007-10-25 04:56:07 · answer #11 · answered by Brittney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋