Picture of him and his ex wife?

Question

My boyfriend and I are in a serious relationship. I do not like to nag him about a lot of things, but he is really disrespectful to me whether he realizes it or not. He still has a picture of him and his ex wife in his myspace pictures. It makes me uncomfortable. Not to mention his ex wife's myspace is FULL of pictures of him and her. I can't control that. I can't ask her to take them down, and I actually get along with her, but I don't think he needs pictures of him and her in his myspace. He deleted a bunch of pictures of him and other girls, but not this picture. I deleted every picture I needed to a long time ago. He knows I do not like it. Should I mention this again? We live together by the way! Maybe, I should just add a picture of my ex husband and me in mine so he will see what it looks and feels like. Or, maybe an ex boyfriend...Two wrongs don't make a right, but is it wrong for him to have it there or not?

Answer 1

If you guys are in a serious relationship you have every right to be ticked off he should put pictures of you and him up maybe you should go in his profile and do that for him you need to mark your territory so to speak..

Answer 2

If they were pictures in an album, I'd say to let it alone because he has a right to his memories, just as you do yours. You are absolutely right about them being prominently displayed. This is your bedroom, too, and you shouldn't have to look every day at pictures of him with his ex girlfriends, and you CERTAINLY shouldn't have to look at a WEDDING picture of him and his ex-wife. You are not overreacting. I would actually go so far as to say that this seems to be a sort of passive abuse on his part. I mean, come ON...his WEDDING picture next to your bed? Don't tell me that he doesn't know that that would bother you. You've just moved in together, and already he's doing things that anyone with half an active brain cell could figure out would be hurtful. Run for the hills. Seriously. My guess is if he's like this now, it's only going to get worse.

Answer 3

I agree that he is definitely being disrespectful by keeping pictures of his ex wife, especially posting them on his myspace! I find it very odd that he made it a point to take all the other ex girlfriend pictures down, but not the one of his ex wife.

Is this the only thing you feel uncomfortable about? I mean does he act odd in any other ways that makes you feel something isn't right. The odds of an ex-wife and ex-husband being friends after a break up are slim to none unless there is still a connection between the two of them. You normally break up with someone because you don't want them in your life and don't want to be with that person anymore. You don't break up to continue being friends. It just doesn't make sense.

I would ask him again why he still has this picture of his ex-wife on his myspace, and why she has so many pictures of him on her myspace. Then explain again that it really makes you feel uncomfortable, if he takes them down then he is serious about you and your feelings. If he doesn't and makes up some sad excuse, you might want to re-think your relationship. And in the end, if he doesn't understand where you are coming from with your feelings, then yes, post some pics of your ex-boyfriends! You will definately get his attention then. If he doesn't make a fuss after that - he doesn't love you like he should.

Answer 4

I do think this is wrong and hurtful. It bothers me that you cause express to him how you feel and he still keep the picture up. If he knows its hurtful to you he should want to remove it. Myspace seems to cause problems in a lot of homes. I cant image that he would display those pictures in your home so without myspace he wouldnt have a way to be an ***. If you dispay your pics then u two are playing games and thats not healthy. I would sit him down and really express how it makes me feel in an adult way. COmmunication is most important in a relationship. If you 2 cant communicate then u really shouldnt be together. If he loves u then he should consider your feeling in the matter. Dont think of yourself as being a nag. If you hold your feelings in the outcome will be MORE negative. TALK TO HIM...good luck

Answer 5

I understand how you feel. I've had that experience with my boyfriend. When I asked him why he's still keeping photos of his ex, he told me that he can't throw away photos like that because his ex had somehow been a part of his life and they are friends so it would make him feel bad if he throw their old photos. Although, I'm still uncomfortable about it, I tried to understand him. So far, it has never affected our relationship because he constantly reassures me that he loves me and I never had a problem with him about cheating. I think you are the best person to assess your situation. If you feel that he has no respect to you and your relationship by posting these photos on the internet, then its time to let go. But if you are quite secure with him despite that, then chill out. Hope I was able to help.. =)

Answer 6

If you have to consistently remind him of something that is important to you or makes you uncomfortable it would seem to me that your comfort level is not as important as you may think to him! Maybe he still harbors some feelings for his ex may I also add that there are many couples that love each other but do much better separated than together. Go figure! I wouldn't bring it up again. You might need to evaluate your relationship by giving it some serious thought especially if you feel you are constantly disrespected! Good Luck!!

Answer 7

It would bother me if my husband had pictures of his ex up. Have you asked him why he still has it on there? Find out the reasoning behind it. You can't really ask him to throw away the pictures of his ex because that was a part of his life, but you do have the right to ask him to not post them up. I was married before and I still have those wedding pictures but I keep them put up. My husband doesn't want to see that stuff nor do I want to see his exe's. Try to explain to him how it makes you fell that he does this.

Answer 8

If he is treating you this way before you marry it will just get worse. By him disrespecting you that is something you should not put up with and you need to put your foot down. You are in this relationship too and relationships should not be onesided. Let him know exactly how you feel and see what he says. If he does not change then there are better men out there for you that will respect you. Love has no room for disrespect. Good luck.

Answer 9

He needs to remove the pictures-- all of them. Tell him if he doesn't, you will have your ex's on your site and around the house as well. Two wrongs do not make a right but this way he will see you are serious.

Answer 10

It may mean nothing but I wonder, does he have pictures of you and him on that space? It isn't necessarily wrong because she was a part of his life, but it isn't all that right either because it makes you uncomfortable. If you add a picture of your ex husband, do it not to make him jealous necessarily but to document your life as well, and it might be interesting to see his reaction of you post a picture of you and her together on your space to see his reaction to that. Just make it a long engagement to make sure that he is truly committed to you and the relationship and that you are not simply a rebound from her.