We had 2 kids of which are living with him and his mother....We live kind of close to one another and neither of us has filed for it because we don't want anyone putting limitations as to when we can and can't see our kids, depending on which of us will have them, we have been separated for 4 years now and I want to get the divorce..I have been in a relationship during that time and now have a baby. We are all doing well with things the way they are, but i need to get a divorce and would like to know how to file i was kind of thinking we could do a joint custody, neither of us wants to pay child support as we both already do alot for our kids.
2007-10-25 04:00:37 · 12 answers · asked by ~leah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its really sad to know that you have moved on and have a new baby and yet your other kids are not with you...The most important aspect should be about your KIDS and nothing else...You should retain an attorney and try to work out the details between you and your "ex-husband" for the benefit of the kids..As long as you both state what it is that you both want no one can oversee both your rights as parents...But there is no reason why your children shouldn't live with you...You both live close to one another so you both can make the sacarfice for visitation..But,honestly speaking they should be with you...I couldn't imagine not having my three boys with me..The process of separation/divorce is hard enough, children shouldn't have to suffer...I hope this works out for you and your children...They should be the main FOCUS throughout all this...
2007-10-25 05:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gotta tell ya, if I were a judge and you came into my courtroom filing for a divorce after having started a second family while you still had responsiblities to the first one, I'd be a little leery of granting you custody, joint or otherwise. I have no idea how things work over there, but it seems to me that this would be something you might wanna think about. Also, the fact that they've already been living with your husband for sometime now could be a factor as well. Many judges would consider changing that arrangement as somewhat detrimental and uprooting to the children...
2007-10-25 12:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all stuff that you would need to discuss with an attorney. Some states will require that the custodial parent pays child support, even with joint custody. Legally, you both need to be covered regardless if anything ever happens to the kids so that DFS (or CPS in some states) doesn't come back on you.
Good luck!
2007-10-25 11:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for an un-contested divorce. This provides the least hassle, and costs far less.
If you both agree on equal visitation with the children, state so.
Remember This: As long as you remain married, you are responsible for any and all debts incurred by him. Meaning, every time he misses a payment or is late, it is on your credit report.
Get the divorce for legal protection of your assets.
If you are in a relationship and are pregnant by another man while still married, he could get upset and wind up getting full custody of the children.
Do it now while he is amicable for as simple divorce.
Things could catch up to you and do more harm then good.
Good Luck
2007-10-25 11:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by Sgt Big Red 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are in the UK you dont need a solicitor to get involved in a divorce, go to/phone your local court to get the paperwork, it still costs around £350 but if it is amicable you can go "halves" on this. Maintenance is only an issue if the person the children are living with are on income support, if it is an arrangement you are all happy with at the moment you need not worry too much about it.
2007-10-25 11:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the thing about divorces---If you and your ex can settle on something, then THATS what goes in the divorce papers. If you all want joint and no child support---DONE just tell your attorneys.
Get it done, you will be much happier, and I am sure your current partner will appreciate the fact his girl is no longer married....Good LUCK!
2007-10-25 11:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by brooklyn7582 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you get a divorce, and you both agree on everything, then there is no reason for the courts to put a limitation on visiting or anything else.
you and your ex have the right to make your own plan and schedule of visitation, etc. no one can tell you what to do or how to handle visitation etc.
as for child support, talk to a family law attorney for advice, and see what they have to say.
take care
2007-10-25 11:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to an attorney together. If you share any attorney, you will be able to work things out together. This will also save you time and money in the long run.
Good luck!
2007-10-25 12:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is what you make of it, both go to the lawyer together and have them draw up the papers. It isn't difficult if you both agree and have the paper drawn up so that both of you agree on everything.
2007-10-25 11:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a lawyer and file for one
why people move onto new relationships without finishing previous business only makes for a big mess
2007-10-25 11:06:22 · answer #10 · answered by ann s 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋