2007-10-25 03:59:27 · 19 answers · asked by Roxxi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you can always be sly about it.
The next time that you talk to that person say, "Hey, I just saw [cheater's name] the other day at [location] and I didn't get a chance to say hi, would you tell them I said "hi".
If you say it that way you aren't accusing, you can let them figure out what's going on.
2007-10-25 04:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by ahhgodzirra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might get caught in the middle if you do. If someone told you that your spouse was cheating, you probably wouldn't believe them unless they had proof. You'd probably even accuse them of wanting to be with your spouse and trying to wreck your marriage, so that's exactly what you should expect if you tell.
Either find a way to anonymously tell the spouse, or get proof - or you're in for one heck of a headache!
2007-10-25 11:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And tell them what? that their spouse is cheating on them over and over? How would you prove it?
I would stay out of it. They wouldn't believe you anyway. All this person would have to say is that you are a trouble maker, and are trying to create problems for them because you don't like them, or something to that effect, and the spouse would just wind up hating you.
2007-10-25 11:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Years ago my oldest brother in law mentioned to me about my other brother in law cheating on my sister. I didn't think nothing of it, I didn't believe him since I have no reason too because there is no proof. I never said anything to my sister. A few years later, she spoke to me and asked me why I didn't tell her. Practically the entire family knew except her. I said to her that I have no reason to believe it was the truth since there is no proof I didn't see anything out of the ordinary. I wouldn't want to go up and speak of such things without proper information, just by word of mouth doesn't mean anything.
One of my closest friend was next. I noticed some weird behaviors from her man and her other friend. Nothing really valid to prove my suspicions, more like a woman's intuition. She took it into consideration after I told her, and didn't take action until she actually gets the proof she needs. (she walked in on them)
You may have certain information, you can either tell them or not, but personally if I were given such information I honestly would not take action unless I get the proof I need for myself.
2007-10-25 11:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by Flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are they already know. It's best to mind your own business. The only way I would tell someone is if they had been my best friend for 20 years ( I have two of those) and I knew that they would believe me and really want to know. But other than that, most people really already know the truth especially if you, an outsider does, and the don't want to hear it from the peanut gallery. What good are you doing? Causing trouble, thats what it would be doing. Leave it alone.
2007-10-25 11:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes save them years of pain and heart ache. Why should the spouse be left in the dark. Im sure more then just you are aware of the cheating thats going on.
2007-10-25 11:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, no matter what! If I consider my self to be a true friend I would do it! I couldn't possibly stand still and do nothing, when some one I care for got cheated on. More less if it's family. Good luck!
A friend.
2007-10-25 11:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by LUNA. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I probably wouldnt call, I would go over there and tell her. If I were his wife I would more than want to know. I wouldnt want to be sitting at home while my husband made me look like a fool. His wife deserves to know so that she can get a divorce and be with someone that really loves her! After I told her I would also tell her that you will be there for her. and then really be there for her. be her strength, she'll need it!
2007-10-25 11:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the situation I guess. I would hate to get involved in something like that but on the other hand if it was happening to me I would want someone to tell me. So most likely I would have to tell the person.
2007-10-25 11:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may not directly call. I guess it would have to depend on how good of friends we are. There would be some kind of contact, even if it was a letter mailed or an e-mail or something.
2007-10-25 11:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋