So, my dad travels some for work and one of the places he frequents in Florida. He owns a business that I work for and when i came in this morning, i found a cell phone belonging to a woman from Florida. I looked thru the phone to discover rather dirty pictures of her privates sent to my dad. And I know she's from FL b/c of her area code. I don't know how long she has been in town, but for about 3 times, dad hasn't come home. He's been rather distant with my step mom as well. Should i confront my dad? This is disturbing to me, and I don't know if I can just let this slide.
2007-10-25 03:59:16 · 11 answers · asked by Willo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not sure of the reason he and mom got a divorce, i've heard different things from both, but I was 4 when it happened. I would confront my step mom, but what if it's not true. Then again, why would a woman send pics like that. I'm stuck in a bit of a pickle.
2007-10-25 04:08:19 · update #1
Sweety its unfortunate that you found the phone, he should have been more careful with it. It sounds like to me that you are a very caring daughter and seems like your dad has seen another woman. I think you would be doing all of your family a favor if you discussed this with him. After all, you saw the pictures there is no denying it. I think you would feel better inside if you shared this with your dad. Good luck.
2007-10-25 04:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really cant live your life for your dad you know, if he and your STEP mom are fine then let it be, besides why would you want your dad to be mad at you for his personal life. Seems like hes taking care of you and giving you a job and all. I mean let pops do his thang unless your looking to get extra credit points from your step mom. Im sure your pops would not tell on you....especially to your girlfriend that is no kin to him, u know...
2007-10-25 11:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart if it bothers you that much, try to get in touch with you father and let him know how you feel! Blood is thicker then water and it is not your place to tell your step-mother anything! Let your father know, how would he feel if a man you were dating did the same thing to his mother or you and how would he feel!!!!!!!! Sometime hitting the gut really allows the person to see..... Try to get your point across! But trust me as a woman, your step-mother knows what's wrong and what's not right in her marriage without you or anyone telling her anything! Then again she may be in denial but telling her would only draw a major rift between you and your dad! I think another suggest to you is find another job outside your dads business that way it can't draw any of your attention and focus to what's going on in his life! Just in case something goes down between him and your step-mother! You and I both know you'd be the first to look at that he would want to blame!!!!!!!!!!! Keep in mind out of sight, out of mind!
That's the meaning for finding another job!!!!!!!!!! I know you feel funny about betraying your step-mother but you have to allow her and your father to solve there own problems without your input!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
God Luck and God Bless!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-25 11:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... your dad will either tell you it's none of your business or he will deny it... then again, I could be wrong... if I were you, I would tell your step mother... whether or not you confront your dad... was he divorced from your mother? I can see why! ugh... =(... either way the step mother should know about this... good luck, do the right thing... I would want to know if I was your step mother... =(...
2007-10-25 11:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Um. I'm very sorry to hear that.
It's disturbing to you, so I'd say yes. He's supposed to be one of the people who you can trust with anything, and this is going to ruin that. Damage control now is better than later.
2007-10-25 11:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Dilettante 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps letting him know that you know would wake him up. But ultimately, it is his life. If you feel that you have to talk to someone about it, it should be your Dad. Let him know that you're shocked and upset. Have an adult conversation with him. It might be easier and more fruitful than you think.
Good luck Sweetie.
2007-10-25 11:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by cherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a bit of a dilema since your dad is one person you should be able to trust. Maybe you should just be honest with him and tell him what you suspect and see how he reacts. You are both adults and should be able to discuss this.
2007-10-25 11:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't in a pickle, your dad is. Mind your own business, its his life. Don't get in the middle of something that isn't any of your business to begin with. Who your dad sticks his ding dong in, is none of your business, unless its ruining the family business and that only matters if you have shares of that business.
2007-10-25 11:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a right to tell him he's behaving like a child, but it's his life and he does have a right to live it any way he wants. His infidelity doesn't have any impact on you really, other than making you mad, so just express your disappointment and move on.
2007-10-25 11:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business
2007-10-25 11:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋