My son's father does not help me take care of my son. He does even work. I filed for child support because of this and now there's a warrant out for his arrest. I told him that I would never keep my son away from him no matter what we go through but he doesn't even take care of him. We got into an argument because he want me to take him off child support so the warrant will go away. He says that I'm a only thinking about money and not the fact the spending time with my son. Now he wants me to bring my son to his house so he can spend some time with him. But I told him he has to come here if he wants to see him. I'm uncomfortable with letting him go because of the arguments we have and i don't want him to take him one day. Here are the other reasons, He has no job, he doesn't really want a job cuz he's tryna be a rapper, he has no fixed address, i live in MD and he in VA, he sleeps at different peoples homes. He has no money, and he sometimes com pares himself to jesus! Am I wrong?
2007-10-25 03:37:26 · 9 answers · asked by 15 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Yea he's wacked get a restraining order
2007-10-25 03:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by vladoviking 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are absolutely positively RIGHT. This fellow wants to have the fun of being a "daddy" without the responsibility of being a father. It doesn' work that way. You are being more than fair in allowing him to visit and spend time at your place, though with a warrant outstanding this may not be appropriate.
Still, you are going above and beyond the call of duty. I wouldn't deliver him to to the father, or even let the child out of my sight, if I were you. If "daddy" doesn't like it then he always has the right to complain to the appropriate authorities (which he won't do, with the warrant outstanding). You're the one taking care of the kid, you're the one sacrificing and paying the bills.
If I remember correctly, Jesus was tortured to death on a cross for HIS children. And this guy won't even kick in a couple bucks? He needs to grow up, and he needs to do it quickly.
2007-10-25 03:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by oakleafmold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong at all. He needs to be established someplace if he wants visitation rights. If you havent set up visitation through the court system, I would do that to protect yourself. By doing that you can establish that you have full legal physical custody of the child, (because if he does take the child without an order of custody in place, you could look at a lenghty legal battle to regain custody of your son) make sure you tread these waters lightly, because the court will not approve if they think you are using his time with the child as a weapon against him. Good Luck.
2007-10-25 03:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by Doh Doh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right
he shouldn't get to be a dad only when he's gotta pay
I live in MD too, and there are laws that protect you and your son. If he lives outside of state it falls into the federal jurisdiction and him avoiding getting a job so he doesn't pay support can mean jail time!
Check out the site and pester the crap out of CSE! I've been doing it for 2 yrs, and am just starting to get results, so hang in there and get a judge to give you sole custody! If he wants visitation, HAVE IT SUPERVISED AT ONE OF THE DESIGNATED SITES!
http://www.dhr.state.md.us/csea/state/state.htm
2007-10-25 04:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by dee_dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right! This is not a person you can trust with your child. Also, NEVER allow an out of state visit, unless court ordered. It's an easy way to abduct a child. I knew a girl that allowed her ex to take their baby out of state to visit his parents, and while there they filed for full custody, and it took her 3 years to get her kid back.
2007-10-25 03:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by missbeans 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's the regulation to might desire to pay newborn help, and you ought to have filed for it some time past. If the guy desires to be a element of the youngster's existence, he needs to help advance him, too... and that contains financial help. you're appropriate desiring him to flow to the youngster THERE and not commute around like a gypsy together with his dad. you additionally can handle the courts in this remember, and that they might set the visitation arrangements up so as that he has to flow to the youngster THERE.... from time to time it relatively is terrific to flow in the path of the courts the place visitation is worried. and that i may be careful of every person who compares themselves to Jesus.. does the guy have schizophrenia or some thing? (i'm no longer joking here). He does not seem very reliable, and from time to time those with psychological illnesses do no longer cope properly in the actual international. I specific desire issues paintings out for you and your newborn.
2016-10-14 00:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by stinnette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 sons and am in a similar situation. Personally, I agree with you and understand that you are only trying to protect your child. You have the right to know that your son is in a safe environment and that you are able to contact him if necessary.
First of all, do you have a parenting plan/visitation schedule in writing that was court approved? If so, the law requires you to "reasonably" honor the agreement that you made with your ex. In order to be court approved, it has to be pretty specific regarding dates, times, and approved forms of contact. **Mine also lists that if either of our personal contact information changes (phone number AND address) we have a maximum of 10 days to report it to the other parent.**
You mentioned arguments; I certainly do not condone fighting in front of your son or refusing visitation just for the hell of it, but if your ex isn't living up to his part of the agreement then you have the right to return to court and request changes. You MUST have proof of violations to your agreement. I suggest that you keep a calendar and document everything! Track how often he calls, visits, etc and note times. Especially in your case, I suggest that you MAKE him tell you where they will be and with whom - If you find out differently it will certainly help your case. Unfortunately, there is no law (that I am aware of) connecting child support and visitation rights, meaning that contact can not be denied regardless of employment status.
Hopefully this will not apply to you, but just in case, the police will sometimes help with enforcing parental agreements. I personally would not resort to this unless you feel your son is in danger. It may be more harmful than helpful for him to see his father with the police. Just mentioning to your ex that you are considering alerting the cops may be enough to straighten him out - especially since he has a warrant out for his arrest!
You definitely need to consult a lawyer if you plan to return to court to alter your existing agreement. Just remember to remain the responsible parent by always doing what is best for your son and trying your best to keep your cool in all dealings with your ex. Also, keep in mind that BSCE can only help you in matters regarding support orders.
Good luck! I wish you and your son well.
2007-10-25 05:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by tracy_janine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon you got a major loser there... why didn't you think about that when you were making a baby with him. I feel sorry for the boy, he will be pushed and pulled for the rest of his life because you had to have unprotected sex with this guy.
Get that piece of paper that keeps that guy away from you and the baby!
2007-10-25 03:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cannot even get a Blockbuster card without that info..He wants a kid...
2007-10-25 03:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by jvwatson4 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋