I am always there for them, I listen to their crap, put up with them, laugh with them, listen to them gossip about others and eachother, kept secrets for them, everything, but it seems like, after they are through with me helping them, they are through with me! I tell them secrets and they go and tell other people! I try to have a serious conversation with them, and they talk to other people about it, and make jokes about it! I know that they talk to eachother about me behind my back! I told them a secret, and they told someone else, then tried to convince me that I told that person! I hate that person's guts, why would I tell them?!?!?!? Its just so stupid! And I don't know what to do! They are my only friends at this school, and they know A LOT on me! I want to stop being their friend, but when someone does that, they tell their business! I really don't want that to happen! What do I do?!
2007-10-25 03:29:10 · 5 answers · asked by §~You can't judge me!~§ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thank you 7861, I can almost guarantee you a best answer! Can anyone do better?
2007-10-25 03:42:40 · update #1
OMG, I can't choose! I love all of your answers so far! Thank you all!!!
2007-10-25 03:51:15 · update #2
Also, anna, I'm a guy, a gay guy, but a cuy none the less! But, ya, I do get more attention than them, and I am a LOT smarter than them! Thanks for the encouragement!
2007-10-25 03:54:45 · update #3
Dude u seem a nice guy and ur friends r not worth ur friendship. U have ethecis in life they dont. A secret should be a secret why disclose? and give a chance for non sence. Be good and kind to them, make them feel for what they do against u with kindness and more friendship and teach them a lesson. Dont let ur secrets go rounds keep it for urself. Dont try to keep a track on what others do against u in ur absence it only hurts. Forget and forgive. Soon u will have more friends and worthy as well
2007-10-25 03:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by paddy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am sorry you are having this problem. They do not sound like friends at all. They are using you for their needs and entertainment.
Stop telling them anything about you. Anything! Don't even tell them what you have for breakfast. They are backstabbing girls and get their kicks from humiliating other girls, probably prettier, smarter girls. Am I right?
Start talking to other girls in some of your clasees and get to know them. Maybe you can start making a new circle of friends and then it won't matter if these so called "friends" start saying stuff about you.
If they harrass you, tell someone. I believe it is now illegal to get bullied in that way by girls in school. I know there is a movie about that.
Remember, girls will always try to put down girls who they feel are better than them in some way.
Good Luck!
2007-10-25 10:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by anna_90242 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hun. this sounds like high school babble. i will just tel you now, a lot of the friends i have right now, i probably wont talk to half of them after i graduate next year. and i have friends just like the ones you described and trust me, it sucks that they treat us that way.
step one is to stop telling ur secrets to them when u know u cant trust them.
second, you can stll be their friend but dont put up with the BS.
remember, high school dont always last forever. good luck!
2007-10-25 10:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon....
good friends are hard to come by, and during the course of your life, you will probably be able to count all of your TRUE friends on one hand... if you have more, then you are fortunate.
kids in school tend to be competing with each other, can be cruel, and don't really respect what others have to say. if these people are repeating what you say, and acting as if they do not care, then please stop confiding in them. they are immature, and disrespectful of you and your feelings.
you are too trusting, and give entirely too much information about yourself. it would do you well to keep things to yourself.
i'm sure you will find one or two true friends who won't repeat things, and who you can talk with seriously. until then, take care of YOU, don't give and give until you are blue in the face... sometimes we don't need to hear it.
2007-10-25 11:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey, what do YOU want? You need to start looking at your needs and not only your need of love, we all need to be loved, but look at the way people do this. Look at what people are doing. A wise man said that's the only way to know people. By their actions. You need to look for people with good qualities.
You should not hang out with people who are hurting you. There is only one way out of this. Don't give yourself excuses cause you are scared. You are not only whats in you head. You are all your emotions, how you feel, moment after moment, and if you keep hanging with em, unpleasant moments are just going to linger...on and on...cause you CANT CHANGE THEM!! But only yourself. stick it up, the first days are going to be harder, but you will find its easier and easier. good luck!
2007-10-25 10:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by chloe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋