2007-10-25 03:28:48 · 40 answers · asked by April 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names - John F. Kennedy
2007-10-25 03:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by Chief BaggageSmasher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, forgetting is not the same as forgiving, because what is forgotten can be remembered.
Once something is truly forgiven, it can (and should) be forgotten, not to be remembered or reminded from then on. My dad always adopted this philosophy and I always respected it. My mom had trouble 'forgiving' and would often bring up things from the past. With that attitude, though, it's hard to move forward.
If there's something you cannot forgive, it's best not to try and forget until a) you can forgive, or b) you've moved on to someone other than the person who wronged you.
2007-10-25 03:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by BZR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I can forgive someone for something, and with time it gets easier to live with, but I RARELY forget being burned.
It's normal. Do you forget a stove eye is hot the first time you touched it as a kid, or that if you play with the stapler, your finger will get impelled with a staple? To forgive means to let it go. To forget is to let it vanish as though it never happened.
I can forgive and STILL not forget, and I wouldn't want to forget because that helps ME take care of ME.
2007-10-25 03:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not the same for me. I have forgiven many things but have not forgotten any of them. I can forgive a person for doing a wrong action, but I can not forget the action that caused me to have forgive.
2007-10-25 03:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by Erica D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they arent the same. I can forgive relatively easy, but to forget is a whole different issue. Its definitely easier to forgive than to forget.
2007-10-25 03:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by julez 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They aren't the same thing.
Forgive means you do not hold that issue against the person who did it, but it has nothing to do with you remembering what happened.
Forget is to not remember, and it's pretty hard for us to intentionally forget something (indefinitely). We can put it out of our mind for a time, but it will often pop back in at some point.
We can choose to forgive but ya can't really choose to forget (because your memory may bring that event back whether you wish you'd forgotten it or not).
2007-10-25 03:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In forgiving we are not saying that the person who committed the offense was right or that it was ok for them to do that we are simply accepting what they have done. You can't just forget because you WANT to, it doesn't work that way, but if you truly forgive in your heart it shouldn't come back to haunt you!
2007-10-25 03:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some things you cannot forgive or forget.
2007-10-25 03:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have something to forgive, you may not want to forget so you don't get hurt again in the future. So for me they aren't the same. You may temporarily forget as you life your life, but it's always there somewhere isn't it.
2007-10-25 03:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant forget what happened.. that will always be there on the back of your mind.. and you can not forgive..
So no, you cant forgive if you cant forget
2007-10-25 03:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋