Last night my soon to be ex and I spoke about our sick child and ended up having a decent conversation about getting the divorce over with. It ends up that after comparing what he was told to what I was told, our lawyers are "playing" us by blaming everything on the other person's lawyer. We made some of our own decisions then and we are going to start having letters with agreements written and notorized instead of waiting for our lie-ers (lawyers). Will these be binding agreements if they are notorized? We're both more disgusted than ever now !!!!! Has anyone else been in this situation?
2007-10-25 03:03:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes and you can have the dissolution of the marriage w/o a lawyer at all. Put down a list of all the assets, bills, child care arrangements ect. Both of you sign it and have it notarized. Then dissolve the marriage at the courthouse. File the paperwork that you both signed for public record and it will be official.
2007-10-25 03:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by Diane A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are set on getting divorced (dont stay together for the kids sake no matter what anyone tells you, it's not good for the kid in the long run) and you can both agree on everything (that part is important) then just go get one lawyer and use them together. When I got divorced we agree on everything, but on the first meeting the lawyer flat out told us that if we ever started fighting before the divorce was finalized then he wouldnt be able to represent either of us. But everything went wonderfully. So if you can keep from argueing over things until the divorce is final then just get a new lawyer for you both to use.
2007-10-25 03:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by janierenel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. The next time that the kid's go with their Dad and you know when they will be home, say around 5pm. Call the police and tell them you want a "WELFARE CHECK" They will go to the house and "SEE" How bad it is and take a report and then they file it and you get the copy, hire a lawyer, and go to court asking for full custody with him having visitation. If you don't act now, the judge will be mad that you dont care about how there living.
2007-10-25 04:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and the soon to be ex agree on things, then TELL the lawyers what you want. After all, they work for who is paying the bill, not the other way around.
2007-10-25 03:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by bootsontheroad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father is a retired lawyer, he says can release both lawyers and handle the divorce yourself. You find all kinds of information online, just type in divorce.
2007-10-25 03:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by Christine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you both can agree on everything then you don't really need a lawyer. Or only one of you needs a lawyer (the plaintiff) to draw up the papers if you don't want to handle all of that yourselves.
2007-10-25 03:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a mediator. They're less expensive and all the decisions are made with both of you sitting with the mediator at the same time. Good luck!
2007-10-25 03:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well personally i havent, but its always best to do your way, notorieties are a great idea to keep the agreement that you guys had in tact. lawyers, besides lie they steal. so i think what your doing is good.
2007-10-25 03:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest then, getting one new lawyer and do a mediation.
2007-10-25 03:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need new lawyers... Turn these two into the board.
2007-10-25 03:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋