Have you ever changed yourself to suit others?

Answer 1

Never. I am what I am and will be who I'll be.

If you don't like me for who I am, then your not someone I want in my life anyway.

Answer 2

People should always want to change in the sense of self improvement - everyone who is saying take me as I am is actually saying I might be rude, loud or annoying and people should just take me that way which is ridiculous you should always try to improve your bad qualities - like vanity or selfishness and how you are around people, if you have a take me or leave me attitude you are not going to make a positive impact on the world, it doesn’t hurt to alter you self around someone else’s personality for a little while and you will learn some thing new from every person if you try to see the world the way they do, I’m more sarcastic then potty humour but if it makes me connect with some one I couldn’t of otherwise thats got 2 be good

Answer 3

We all change ourselves to some extent. If you have respect for someone and your behavior, actions, foul language, etc. might offend them, you tone it down. Example: you wouldn't act the same in church or around your parents or while attending a funeral as you would being your normal (?) self around your friends.
Even in romantic relationships, change is inevitable as long as you are both compromising with each other and it's not taking away from who you are. However, if YOU don't want to change and the other person can't accept that, then let them go. Never lose yourself or be dominated by someone (unless you like it!)
I am who I am, and if someone doesn't like it, tough sh#t ! As Pearl Jam says, "I AM MINE!"

Answer 4

No, I do not change myself to please the others (that's a problem sometimes). Above all I do not like ... mmm ... how can I say? ... compromises (in my mother tongue this word is stronger and more negative than in English, I reckon ) I mean the fact that, in order to achieve agreement, you have to become an apostate of your real self or to lie etc.

I am a free thinker and, even when I try to not hurt the feelings of the others around me, I always have the habit to tell the truth, expressing what I think and I feel in the most authentic way.

I hope I didn't make too much mistakes in writing ...

Answer 5

I think this is really intersting because many people will say that they would never change themselves for anyone, but if you take a humanistic psychological perspective then we are all aiming to be our ideal self, the best we can be and get unconditional positive regard, meaning that many people will change themselves in order to gratify this need for love. So in my oppinion people may not consciously change themselves but it happens on subconscious level, so we can recive this positive regard from the people around us, as every human being needs this unconditional love.

Answer 6

I think almost everyone does at times during their lives.
Without ever compromising my very firm principles I like to think of myself as something of a chameleon.
Blend into the conversation, then choose the right moment to strike (when ones point of view will be most accepted by those to whom you have been, and remain polite.)
I guess it's a two edged sword in my case. I change to persuade others of my point of view. It often works! - and is a lot better than outright aggression! - don't you think?

Answer 7

No, and I never will. I'm me and that's all I know how to be. Though I have learned how to put certain sides of myself more forward depending on the people I'm around, and being an empath, I do tend to pick up stuff from people. I can accentuate certain aspects of my personality depending on what the person I'm with needs. I've heard it termed as being like a chameleon, but for me, it's got more to do with my empathy.

Answer 8

Ya, and it was a misstake. Be your self at all times, if they don't like you the way you are, then you are better off with out them.
If you try to change to suit every one you want to be around, then sooner or later you are looking around to find out where the real you went.

Answer 9

Yes, well i've tried to. Im stupid that way. I don't like the thought that someone who is dear to me doesn't like something about me..so i have tried it. But now iv'e got a little more sence to understand that if people can't accept you the way you are then why change for them, as they certainly don't care enough about you.
Though sometimes chnaging bad habbits is good, but you shoudn't chnage something that 'is you'

Answer 10

Yes, I've been to court, been pulled over, met a girlfriends parents for the first time , there's tons of reasons where society dictates a certain behavior different from your own.

Answer 11

Many many many times. And to such an extent that I was once called a "relationship chameleon" by a very good friend of mine. Its all in the past now though.