When someone who is straight claims that homosexuality is a choice and yet when discussing his own sexuality says this: >>I can't help that I'm straight. I was born this way. I think I should be treated as equally as anyone else here<<<
Now I don't like to point fingers or anything and I mean no disrespect but isn't this a little bit contradictory? He wants to be treated well and no reason why he shouldn't be treated well, but, if his claim that sexuality is a choice he can not say that he can't help but be straight but not give the same consideration to homosexual orientation.
No offense intended. Just seems to me that if a person constantly says gay is a choice can not in the same breath claim he has no choice but to be straight. Seems to me to be something wrong with this assertation.
2007-10-25 02:16:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are correct that this is a big contradiction, and in my book rather hypocritical. Persons who put it in that way are purporting a double standard.
We are all born either male or female. It's simple as that. Just because it is more prevalent for people to choose oposite sex relationtionships does not make those that choose same sex relationships different or wrong.
The thing is that most people to some degree, have bisexual tendencies, but most people would never admit that they have thought about or had sex with a same sex partner, for fear of being judged abnormal.
It has been proven that at least 30% of adolesents sexually experiment with a peer of the same sex, but I think this number is actually higher. It's more common than people are willing to admit, that this is normal adolecent behaviour to have a same sex partner. It's done as a secret pact that "we're not gay, we're just helping each other because we can't get girls/not ready for boys". This is a secret that most people never tell anyone, unless they choose to remain exclusively same sexual.
Even in places like India, where adult same sex relationships are considered a MAJOR taboo, it is considered perfectly normal behaviour among adolesents.
I get really tired of the attitudes people have about sexual orientation. I really don't see why people should have a problem with what other adults do in their private life, as long as it doesn't involve animals, children or un invited force.
If two people are happy together, others have no right to judge.
2007-10-25 02:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Jack ® 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
When people protest to much they are dealing with their own issues, this person that claims being gay is a choice but they are straight has problems accepting what is really going on in his or her own head and wants to think its a choice so he or she can feel good about not making the choice to accept who they know they really are..
and people deserve respect if they give it and for no other reason.
2007-10-25 09:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by howie r 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes it's fun to flip the perspective to see if it works in all cases.
You get real funny answers where people are forced to twist to get to the conclusions they are seeking.
For example, many people want to see this site restricted to just those who agree with them, while also demanding to be accepted everywhere. This seems contradictory to me, but make perfect logic to other. And I find this interesting of human nature.
2007-10-25 09:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The theory of Majority Rule.
If 90% of people wear red hats and 10% wear green, obviously that 10% has made a choice to be different, the other 90% are acting "naturally."
:-)
2007-10-25 10:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by Glenn P 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Usually those are the type of people that say that everyone was born "normal" and that we decided to be gay. They usually think that they were born straight, and so were we, but at one point we consciously made a decision to be attracted to the same sex.
If only it were that simple....
2007-10-25 10:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by gopher646 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Logic 101 should be required at the High School and College levels.
2007-10-25 10:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by Ben Aqui 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree completely, but I've actually run into the nutjobs who then try and tell me they actually chose to be straight because it was the "right" thing to do.
As if that's any excuse for their hatred and discrimination.
Or you get those who say that it was a choice for us because "we're" sick in the head....or that our souls are contaminated....or some other, just as lame excuse.
2007-10-25 09:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by DEATH 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Right on the money. You have no more choice to be gay than you have to be straight.
2007-10-25 09:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by chasm81 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
That's because sane logical thinking is not part of their thought processes. To them, everything is slanted toward one, very narrow, point of view. If anything conflicts with this, they flounder and fall.
2007-10-25 10:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by ron s 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
never thought of it that way.... I always believe that what you do in bed doesn't make you the citizen or human you are.... within the reasonable limits as you are not hurting another person
2007-10-25 09:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by M J 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋