When should a mom step in on bullying .?

Question

My son is in his first year of high school and as he should wants to handle this on his own. how much is too mush and were do i draw the line?

Answer 1

Does your son have any friends at school? If so call his parents and see if they are getting any information at home.

If your son is giving you names of kids doing the bullying, you should make an anonymous phone call to the school. Simply say "my child tells me one of his friends is getting treated very badly, I thought you should know that (insert kids name) has been bullying others, since the school has a policy against it. (Almost every school has a policy against bullying).

Give it a couple of days, and if you get the feeling nothing has changed, call the school and ask who you need to talk to regarding a child being bullied. Never assume it is the principal. And make sure you have a copy of the school policy in your possession. Most schools send home all this info on the first day of school. You will honestly be able to say "I am hearing from other parents that this is happening, and my son confirms it." Your conversation will be more effective if you meet in person, rather than handling this over the phone. Do not be aggressive or hostile, just calmly state what is happening and that it is not acceptable. Ask the person you meet with what the school will do to take care of the problem without "outing" your son.You should mark in your personal calendar every time you have contact with the school about this issue, because if it isn't settled or if the bullying escalates you need to have a record of your efforts with the school.

I hope your school personnel are cooperative, as it is in their best interest to respond to these complaints quickly. If they are not, move up to whoever is above them: principal, administrator, superintendent. Unfortunately if they will not respond to your satisfaction you may have to involve the police or your lawyer.

Trust me, your child wants you to make this magically better.

Answer 2

Report the matter to the school principal and teachers. Enough is enough, there is a limit to bullys some children can take it some cant, it may have a long term traumatic effect on his mental health. The bullys should be sued causing mental damage to the childs personality and his education.Also advice your son to get strong and build up a good strong body and mind and do exercises and go to the gym and eat well and be fit.

Answer 3

Use your Mom instincts! If you fear for his safety then it's your job to protect him, even if he thinks he can do it himself.

The first thing I would do is send or give the principal a written letter making them aware of the situation. Ask in the letter for an appointment with both the principal and your child's school counselor. Put in the letter that you are worried about your child's safety and worry that the stress is going to effect his school work and ask them to keep an eye on this problem until your meeting. Make sure that you cc a copy to the schools Superintendent! Now they know that you are taking this seriously and that they need to also. Plus as it is in writing there is now a paper trail, so if something was to happen to your child on campus you have a great chance of suing them and winning.

Answer 4

First of all Bullies are cowards they only pick on easy targets. Get your son in a martial arts class or boxing, this will give him the confidence to stand up for himself. Bullies do not like to pick on someone that will stand up for themselves. As a martial arts instructor I see this a lot and know that the bully will move on to an easier target if your boy can learn to stand up for himself, not to mention what this could do for your sons self esteem.

Answer 5

Hey, i got badly bullied at school and i told my mum exactly the same thing but really i wanted my mum to step in. He's just saying that because he dosnt want to make thinhs worse than what they are. Really he is crying out for help. If nothing is done then things will get worse for him. Good luck

Answer 6

if it starts getting physical or interfering with normal everyday schooling or activities then yes get involved. He is right though to want to handle it on his own. If mommy gets involved now, that that give the bully another reason to be a bully.

Answer 7

I would step in. He should not have to deal with this. School should be a safe place for him to go. Call the principal and talk to him about it.

Answer 8

I think that if he feels that he can't consenterate in school something should be done. And if he asks you for help.