His wife accused him of abusing her emotionally which ended in divorce, he abused me also making false promise of marriage,abusing me and took advantage of me.
He has got married recently. Do you think that he is ging to abuse her too?
2007-10-25 01:10:02 · 17 answers · asked by Amina L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This man is too smart........he promised certain things and then used to go back.,hurting me all the time. No matter what I was bearing all andI wasth eonly one suffering and making sacrificing nad he got from me what he wanted. If I also had money I could have filed a case against him. I accuse him of abusing me sexually,he used me for his lust.
2007-10-25 01:19:57 · update #1
What most hurts that despite he did wrrng to me he is enjoying and I am suffering.
2007-10-25 01:23:34 · update #2
yes he likes his victims to be submissive.count your blessings that your out of it. that other women is in for an unfortunate awakening in 3 to 6 months.
2007-10-25 01:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by seanomc70 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not be concerned about whether this man is
happy or not. That is REALLY what's "getting you." The fact
that he hurt and abused you ... And now you feel that he has
moved on to some type of "blissfully happy" relationship with
his new wife.
You need to be concerned about taking care of YOU!
You need to grow and heal. You should be determined that
you will triumph OVER and IN SPITE of your relationship with
this man.
And while it may seem to you that this man is happy now.
Remember .... He is an abuser and a USER. Unless he
has gotten therapy or counseling .... His cycle of abuse will
continue. He is NOT happy ... which is why he abuses in the first place.
It is important that you learn from your experience with this man. Hopefully you can now recognize the "signs" of an abuser. Hopefully ... You now understand that it takes time to REALLY get to know a person. Hopefully, you have learned that REAL men that have character and integrity ... Don't use and abuse the women that they are suppose to care about.
You now know (about) the type of man that YOU DO NOT want for a lifetime partner ... Set some "standards" for the
type of man that YOU DO want!
Besides, how is knowing what will happen in this man's current relationship (whether he will abuse again or not) .... HOW is knowing that going to help you??? (And don't think
for a minute that you could "help" his new wife ... you would
be viewed as the "bitter ex-woman!")
2007-10-25 10:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by kjh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should ever consider being in a relationship that there has been signs of any type of abuse. There must be some sort of underlining reason why you chose to be with this person. Meaning you have some issues that need to be addressed. Only you can stop the madness with in yourself.
Maybe consider some counseling for yourself, and let the other individual continue on their own path of destruction.
You can't change this individual with "love" and no matter how "dedicated"you are to this person they will drain you of every ounce of your mental & emotional well-being. Is this what you want for YOUR life? Consider yourself lucky and move on...
2007-10-25 09:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by Pixie48 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. Your happiness is too important to waste over a guy like this.
Of course he's going to abuse this other woman. Violent men don't stop, they just get worse. Be glad you got out while you did. There's always a positive to every bad thing - and your positive is keeping your life. I doubt his new wife will be as lucky.
2007-10-25 08:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never know maybe things will be different this time round for the both of you. some people do learn from their mistakes. just thank yourself lucky that you got out of your marriage when you did. now you can move on like he has and take charge of your life and be happy. if he hasn't changed then that woman will envy you and think that youn were a smart woman and follow in your footsteps. please just be happy that you are no longer in that situation anymore, forget about the past and focus on your happy future. best of luck.
2007-10-25 08:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to have to say this, but from what you say I think it highly likely that he will. Clearly, he feels a hatred/inferiority complex towards women, but this in my view is absolutely no excuse whatever. I am so sorry that he took advantage of you - you deserve better! Regards.
2007-10-25 08:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by benje111 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, but it's not your business to tell her. You'll just end up looking like a crazed and jealous ex.
2007-10-25 08:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every chance a leopard doesnt change his spots.
people like him look for certain people they can bully who wont stand up to him-hes really a coward
2007-10-25 08:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not... People like this don't change unless they realise what they are doing is wrong and seek help for it, which is most unlikely...
2007-10-25 08:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jasmina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old saying....what goes around, comes around. Have faith, he WILL get his. My ex was the same way and I now am getting the last laugh.
2007-10-25 08:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by cooter726 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋