How do I tell my best friend she is making the biggest mistake of her life?

Question

She is 18 years old and thinks that she is pregnant. She moved out of her house because her father dissaproved of her wanteing to have a child. She is still in High School, but now living with her boyfriend, im not sure if she is still going to school. She is in her senior year of school and I think she is making a huge mistake. What do I do?

Answer 1

Unfortunately, it's not your place to be telling her what to do - all you can do is be there for her and be supportive

Answer 2

I don't agree with the people saying it is basically none of your business. If we all felt like that towards our friends then we wouldn't be true friends. Friends are there to help us, talk to, help go in the right direction.....I would put her in the car and take her to the homeless center, the welfare office, jobs no one wants, etc. Don't tell her before hand. When the little tour is over, tell her that is where she will be with no education. She cannot count on her boyfriend being there for her for the rest of her life. In dream land, sure...in reality....probably not. They are too young. Tell her the comparison between 7 more months of high school and a lifetime of being on welfare and working crappy jobs is a no brainer.

Answer 3

We all have views and to be honest our view are different! I understand you feel that your friend is making the biggest mistake of her life and I feel even if you explain things as to why you feel she is wrong, she may not like it. This is what I have to say... As a friend no matter what happens you need to tell her what you feel. I am not saying you are right or wrong.. but at least I know one thing for sure... you care! and this is what you need to tell her... well... somewhere within her heart she might be scared ... might feel she is doing something wrong.. no harm sharing your views ... I would say a true friend would speak his/her heart out... u might change her life and yes if you feel she is making a mistake.. tell her... but also tell her that you would be their for her even if she makes that mistake..

Answer 4

You can tell her you're worried, but not get on her case. You can't make her change her mind, but if you talk to her, she might see that this isn't the way she wants to go. And, if she continues on this way, stick with her. If anything bad happens, she'll need a friend.

Answer 5

what can you do you cannot physically change the way she has chosen to live her , but what you can do is support her and be a good friend ,because the path she has chosen will be hard for her at her age , support her, assist her to develop herself ,whilst not judging her ,there will be way too many people who will fulfil that role

Answer 6

just tell her! if she treats you as a trusty friend, then she will at least consider your advice. don't get impatient and frustrated on her. be real patient and persuasive when you talk to her. come straight to the point, and no hesitation. if you don't tell her now, it may be all too late in the future!
go for it!! :)

Answer 7

well , you're such a good friend ..
anyways ..
u can help her by means of advices n' try to talk to her ..
but if she doesn't want to hear your opinions or u are just adding yourself into her problems .. u can go on .. besides its her choice .. n' i think the best way to do is to pray for her ..ツ

Answer 8

Support her decision, that's what best friends do.. You can't make her change her mind she 18 already..

Answer 9

IF SHE IS YOUR FRIEND JUST TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL . IF SHE STILL DOES WHATEVER SHE WANTS TO , IT'S HER LIFE , AND YOU CAN JUST MOVE ON.