I am married for three years and there is this lady at my work that is attractive. She is also married, and I feel like we are kind of passing vibes back and forth. I feel as though I have feelings. What do I do, and how can I know exactly what is going on???
2007-10-25 00:25:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK everyone is freaking out because you're attracted to another woman and you're married. We can't control who we are attracted to or when that attraction takes place. We CAN control how we react when that attraction takes place. I've been very happily married for 28 years. You don't think in all that time that I found another guy charming, good looking, intelligent and wondered what if? Of course I did. But, then I looked at what I had to lose if I took the chance. So you have to ask yourself, "Am I willing to risk losing my wife/family over what could be a disaster?" The grass isn't always greener on the other side. And if you take that risk, office gossip is very common. You add the extra risk of also losing your job. So find one of your beautiful wedding pictures and put it on your desk. It will remind you how much you love your wife and the vows you took to be faithful forever.
2007-10-25 00:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be married if you are concerned about some other woman. You vowed to love your wife, and she vowed to love her husband. For the love of your wife, just tell the girl at work that your not interested because your married. She might be pretty, but she can ruin your life and your marriage so don't risk it.
2007-10-25 07:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by mommy_to_mason2006 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The grass is never greener on the other side. Avoid temptation.
Remember....you and your wife have over 3 years together, you have that bond, that trust, that comfort and ease with each other. Think about all that and then ask yourself--is it really worth it to lose that over a "fling"?
2007-10-25 08:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by Kathryn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to all of us, that flicker of sexual electricity.
It's what you do about that determines if you are a man or a boy.
The maturity comes in here, when you make the decision about whether it's worth possibly wrecking your marriage in order to get a few thrills. It simply isn't worth it.
2007-10-25 09:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut it out.
Grow up be a man and care for your wife.
What is going on is your mind wandering to areas better left untraveled.
If you spend half the mental energy on your marriage as you have wondering about this person your marriage will improve.
2007-10-25 08:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your wife enough to marry her...Don't mess it up by going for an office affair that will only lead to you getting burned the most out of it.
2007-10-25 07:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by supermanno4 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never bang people you work with. Find a stranger if your old lady isn't cutting the mustard in bed. Thats the root of this problem. Or maybe you aren't giving it to her right. Bang your wife like a porn star!! :)
2007-10-25 07:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by Jason M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't know what is going on you may as well place your money on bets in the casino. There is no way to know your gooing to win. Stop playing games. Put evil on the back burner and stop playing with the fire. work on your marrage
2007-10-25 07:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Linda S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who cares what is "going on" w/ these vibes... it's probably a warning that she is a bad person to hang around! steer clear! what do you do? stay away... !!! by the way, if I found out my husband became really "friendly" around a lady who was "attractive" because he found her "attractive" I would divorce him, because, it's cheating to flirt w/ an attraction...plain and simple... think of this and think of your wife...!
2007-10-25 07:29:23 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you keep your thing in your pants and you go about your business. you got married for a reason dont ruin it on some fling at work that will end up getting you divorced and fired.
2007-10-25 07:28:59 · answer #10 · answered by monizk 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋