ok i am sooo not happy?

Question

seen my midwife yesterday and all the way through my pregnancy i have told her im worried about how big my baby will be coz my last was 9lb 14oz and i was 12 days late and she said she might let me have a scan to see how big my baby is when i get closer to my due date well now she said idont need a scan because i can do big babies and i didnt have any problems with my last and they will still let me go up to two weeks well now im scared any tips to get this baby out soon please i cant do bigger than my last that was hell

Answer 1

First of all, don't assume your next baby will be bigger. That does not always hold true. My first baby was 7 pounds, my second was 8.5 and my third was 7.5 (a pound lighter).

My sister's first boy was 9.5 and her second boy was less than 9 pounds.

Secondly, your midwife is right. If you pushed one out successfully, then it should be easier this time.

Labor hurts no matter what size your baby is. And remember, if it gets unbearable or you feel totally overwhelmed, then ask for a narcotic to take the edge off. Midwives can usually dispense these forms of pain meds.

All the best to you!

Answer 2

well, first of all, you can't assume that you are going to be that late again with this baby. you might very well be early or on time.... and some people just tend to have bigger babies. i am also one of those people (my first two kids were both over 9 lbs. and I think this third one is going to be even bigger). the other thing is that I am a big believer in letting things happen naturally... you shouldn't try to make your body go into labor. It will happen when it is supposed to and you will be fine. Try not to worry about it so much and just take it one step at a time. If you are really that unhappy with your midwife, get a new one. You should be happy with your prenatal care, so there is nothing wrong with you leaving and finding a new midwife. the other thing is that this is your body and your baby... if you want an ultrasound to see how big the baby is, you can demand that. You are paying for this medical care and you should get what you want. There is nothing wrong with having an ultrasound... stand up for what you want if it's that important to you.

Answer 3

All i can say is good luck hun.
Baby will come when ready too. You have managed a big baby before so if this baby is in the 9lb mark then you can manage think positive because there is not a lot you can really do.
The other thing you can do is when you see your doctor/consultant next ask them if you can be induced to be on the safe side.
Good Luck and Best of Wishes xx

Answer 4

My neighbor's daughter had a baby that was 13lbs 2 oz. She is a tiny petite thing, (small frame, 5'1') her husband tall big football player 6'3'. She delivered normal, (but walked a little funny the next day) but she survived just fine through it.

It's usually better to let them run their course. Developing in you to their full term is best for them & the healthiest. Theres' a possibility you won't be late, or at least not that late for this baby. Pre-natal excersizes will help with the delivery as well.

You could inquire about a c-section if you are pain phobic, but not all providers will agree to it, they are more expensive, & then there's "The Scar".

I hope you have an easier labor this time. Will cross my fingers for you! Good Luck & Congratulations! Breathe!! :o)

Answer 5

the exact same thing is happening to me at the moment. I am getting a sweep today at 39+6 to see if anything moves along but to be honest, if you've had one large baby you CAN manage another. Big babies are healthier and apprently easier to birth.

I was scared that this one will be bigger than my first, who was 9lb 4oz but in all honesty, as long as the baby comes out healthy and strong i don't care what happens to me. its taken me till full term to become comfortable with the fact im carrying another large one though. But thats nature for you.

nothing will get the baby out before it's ready.

all the above listed methods don't really help. you need to eat as many as 7 fresh pineapples to have a possibility of the enzyme in them reacting with prostaglandins in your body but it will only work if baby is ready. Same as all the others. All they mainly do is upset your stomach, and do you really want the runs whilst you're pregnant! .... sex is the most reliable due to the hormones in semen being able to soften your cervix BUT its widely reported that it actually works better if the semen is ingested orally!! .... and where's the fun in that hehehe

just wait sweetie, it will happen in its own good time

ps. raspberry leaf tea does not bring on labour, it just tones the uterus muscles

Answer 6

just because you had 1 big baby, don't necessarily mean you will have another, every pregnancy is different .. you may have a 7 pounder in there and are just carrying more water weight,, on my last baby i was 3 1/2 weeks over due,, and it didn't feel to good when he decided to show up , but it went quick and the pain quit as soon as he came out ,,to get the baby out sooner,,lol,, have a good roll in the hay with your husband,,, for some reason that always seems to do the trick,,,good luck

Answer 7

You have rights. Tell them that if the baby has not arrived on time or close to it you want to be induced and will not accept going two weeks. It is your body that will have to deliver the baby not theirs and that you are not happy with this decision and you expect a scan at 37 weeks and if baby is too big that you want to either be induced or have a c-section.

all the best

Answer 8

I can totally understand your fear, but in all honesty, if you delivered a large baby successfully before, your body can do it again. It's not a physically enjoyable experience no matter if you deliver a 6lb baby or a 10lb baby - seriously. Do lots of Kegel exercises to get those perineal muscles in shape!

First babies often come late, but with subsequent pregnancies they don't tend to go as far overdue as the first. So try to stay positive.

Good luck!

Answer 9

I know how you feel, I'm 38 weeks pregnannt with my second. My first was 9pound 7ounces. I had him naturally no stitches and born in three hours. I'm terrified my baby was going to bi but i told my doc i wanted another ultrasound and he gave it to me. Instead of the midwife ask your doc he might give in. As for trying to bring the labour on, there are a million and one things and i've been trying but i think the baby will come when its ready not when we are! And i know how much that sucks too...

Good luck

Answer 10

It's very common to worry over the size of the next child, although my first was 7lb 9 and the second was just over 9. It depends and I know you are worried but don't be. If it does happen that the baby is big then they will help you.

They certainly will not alllow you to go through it knowing your pelvis is too small.