what is the best way to deal with this problem
2007-10-24 23:30:49 · 39 answers · asked by william B 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Any adults that show interest in a neighbors kids & not the parents should definately be under suspicion.I have 2 kids & I don't let them out of my sight when they are outside.Can't trust anybody anymore.
2007-10-25 00:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 6⤋
Why is it a problem? are they trying to be physically sexual with her? Or are they just good people who have taken an interest in your daughter. I think you may have a hidden personal problem with this friendship.
Be open with your daughter, talk with her, and listen to her. If there is a problem, let her know she can come to you with anything and she will NOT be in trouble or get yelled at.
I am a lesbian and I love kids, but I would never hurt one of them. Most of the kids in my neighborhood hang out here at times. All the parents know me and who i am.
Be glad these women are open and not hiding anything from you.
2007-10-24 23:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by the fnho 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
When any adult displays a unusual interest in a child, especially, when that adult is not related to the child, this tends to cause me to become alarmed, and when alarmed by another adults actions, I would first try to find out exactly what these two adults have in mind regarding my child, once I have a clearer picture of their intentions, then I will determine if such actions border along child molestion. If it does, I will report them to the local police department for them to investigate to their satisfaction.
If their attention is just a harmless nature, then I would watch them, being extra careful not to allow my 12 year old daughter to visit them or to be alone with them, unsupervised by myself.
It pays to be extra careful with your children!
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure!
2007-10-25 05:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by libertybell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lesbians are people to. Would you be asking this question if a straight couple was nice to your daughter? Most women are naturally very loving and are sweet to children in general. Just because they are nice to your daughter doesn't mean that they want her to be a lesbian or that they're intentions are anything more than just that.
2007-10-25 02:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jheny 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Where I live it's normal for neighbours to show interest in everone. Be thankful you've got nice neighbours and be glad you don't live next door to some of the people who've already answered!! Your neighbours are not a problem.
2007-10-24 23:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask this question in the parent's forum- not the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered forum! What makes you think that people who aren't usually parents would understand this? No matter, how many children you have as nieces, nephews, cousins, adopted children- you can never understand how a parent can get a vibe- about what's right or wrong for their child.
*Sorry, I'm many months pregnant now, and not even my husband will understand the psychic connection I can have w/ our children. But yeah, he can "feel" things out pretty accurately many times, when it comes to other people's intentions towards our daughter.
As a little girl, I had a lesbian try to molest me, so it can happen- keep your daughter far away from these chicks- & I mean no offense!
2007-10-25 00:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by Lynnette_is_a_Lovely_Latina! 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
As someone has said, if you each your kids to deal with inappropriate behaviour by any one, then the need to plant the seeds of fear of lesbians will not arise. of course lesbians might possibly be criminals, but so might anyone else. Give your child the skills to deal with situations where adults try to take advantage of her, don't disable her by planting lies in her head.
2007-10-25 00:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by Ergot W 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This question just shows your ignorance, prejudices and stereotypes of lesbians. The best way to deal with this is to educate yourself on homosexuality . Can I take you out to a gay club?
http://www.avert.org/hsexu3.htm This website reminds me of you....
2007-10-25 05:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a problem.
are you saying that they are grooming your daughter?
or do you simply not like the idea that lesbians can have an general interest in a 12 year old.
who started this interest... many teens and pre-teens are interested in alternative - rebels - people outside the norm...
perhaps your daughter was the driving force in the 'interest' and your neighbours are just being polite and friendly
{edit - I am straight, but I am GLAD as HELL, that i don't live next to some of the prejudiced people giving answers on here}.... ... .... {or some of the people asking questions, either}
2007-10-24 23:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by Vinni and beer 7 · 12⤊ 3⤋
Well,how ''showing interests''??Like ur daughter or attracted to ur daughter? Or being nice and friendly to ur daughter?
There's no big problem here at all mate.
2007-10-25 19:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by Desiree Mu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it interest or friendship let them know you have no problem with them being lesbians but just make it clear the your daughter is straight.i don't think you will ever have a problem again.[or is it your imagination]
2007-10-24 23:40:24 · answer #11 · answered by country bumpkin [sheep nurse] 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋