When he's acting totally out of character and is usually well balanced and asks for what he needs?
But recently is resorting to manipulation and behaving like a big tart, when he knows full well my tolerance for such emotional outbursts is minimal.
I don't want to lose him as a friend but his behaviour is making me go ewwwwwwwwww!
Most ppl are telling me to dump him and my natural instinct when confronted with this type of behaviour would be to do just that, but I can't just walk away because 1) I also have a business relationship with him which requires notice and 2) he has been a good friend in the past and this type of behaviour is only recent since he dumped his old boyfriend and found a new man. So I think it's only fair to give him a chance. Unfortunately, I am getting very upset mainly because I feel my friend has been captured by aliens and he has been replaced by this big snivelling girlie thing.
Am I being too fair, or am I being a total b*tch?
2007-10-24 23:13:31 · 8 answers · asked by Louise H 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hello Louise H.,
I honestly think you're being fair and tolerant of your friend's melodramatic behavior.
I suggest for you to politely tell your friend that your tolerance and patience for "melodramatic" behavior is becoming smaller and that although you are appreciative of the friendship, that you prefer a peaceful, harmonious and mutually respectful friendship with him.
Louis H., I sincerely hope that your friend is open-minded and agrees with you to refrain from burdening you his melodrama and focus on establishing a friendship that evolves harmony, peace and mutual respect towards you.
Sincerely,
Mauricio
2007-10-25 02:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by embassydiplomat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I believe these guys can become more emotional than a female when it comes to certain things. Looks as though he may be having some adjustment problems with his new relationship.
The Hollywood way to handle this would be to grab him by the collar and backhand him once across the chops. Of course this not only isn't socially acceptable, you stand to either lose a friend in the process or you get a knuckle sandwich in return. If he's so good a friend as you state, best to sit down with him over tea and hash this out. Stick with non-alcoholic drinks unless you think he won't turn into a blubbering fool after a few cocktails.
I'd bring his mood swings and attitude change to his attention...asking him what parcipitated this or hit on the new boyfriend thing and ask him if this is the reason he's being so whiny. In any event you have it out in the open and have made him aware of it. Tough sh*t if he stamps his feet and throws a tantrum if you bring it up. Its obvious someone needs to show him he's acting like a little girl. If not a close friend then who will?
2007-10-25 00:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friendship is as deep as you say it is, then you should probably tell him how you're feeling. Especially since you go way back and have a business relationship going.
The stress of the dumping and the finding of a new guy definitely can be attributed to that (although not conclusively). Give him space after you talk to him. That might help.
2007-10-24 23:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by Joeyboy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you all have had a good past relationship - can you not talk to him about this and tell him that you really care for him and are a bit worried about what's going on. maybe he has noc lue that he's acting this way and is just all caught up in the moment of things?? sounds like you have invested in the friendship and hate to see you just walk away from it!!
2007-10-24 23:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you prefered it when he was with his old boyfriend.... no doubt he will say that's what everybody is saying go back to the old boyfriend.... but point out that its only since he started going out with this new boyfriend that his behaviour had changed and sadly for the worse!!!.. and that you are considering finding another business partner or selling your share of the business because you cannot put up anymore with his erratic behaviour, if he cannot see then that he is the problem, then carry out your threat to see if that shocks him back into reality ????
wish you luck in xxx
2007-10-25 02:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by ICEMAN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to 'save the drama for her mama' that sooner or later reactionary persona become trying and the antics get old quickly.
2007-10-24 23:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Eclectic 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well tell him to calm down and not to pull the drama thing over you cuz you know him better than that and be upfront and honest with him, im sure he will understand.
2007-10-24 23:24:01 · answer #7 · answered by michael t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
show him this question
2007-10-24 23:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋