Have pcos and wanna have kids,but...............?

Question

I have pcos and wanna start trying to have kids with my current bf of 2 and a half years, he told me he wasn't ready yet, i told him that i'd wait till he is ready, but really wanna start trying asap........what should i do

Answer 1

Almost every woman will at some point want a baby - its human nature. However you cant talk your boyfriend into fatherhood until he too feels ready. Ask him when he is thinking of starting a family & why.
It could be that he wants to get financially secure & enjoy a few years of just you & him before having a baby.
I cant say that there is a certian age thats best for a person to have a baby, but if i was forced to i would say late 20s. because by then you still have youth on your side, but will also have taken time to let your relationship grow, have a home, finished education, got savings in the bank etc...
Without thinking about your wishes for a baby - instead think of the ideal situation you would reccomend that a friend be in before she try for a baby.
I know we dont live in an ideal world, i would would say its better to have the following *ideals* in place - if possible - before you have a baby;
~ have finished education
~ worked on a career path
~ be able to support yourself if you ended up single
~ have your own home
~ have experience with babys / kids
~ be in a long term relationship
~ be debt free & have savings in the bank

Answer 2

I know how it feels to desperatly want something only to have your significant other tell you they are now not ready. You have two choices start trying with out him knowing you are skip the pill or what not or simply wait. But ask for a time frame like ask him when he feels that you can start trying 9 months or less? Or so it makes him think about it seriously. What would you rather fall pregnant and have him angry with you or wait until you are both ready? i know this is hard and not nice but you have to do what you think is right for you both!
if your worried about your time then seek medical help and ask about treatments if you need them. if you want to talk more feel free to email me...
My best advice and its up to you whether you take it or not is to wait for him to be ready, the baby will come to parents who loved each other and tried for him or her when they were both ready. And that is the secret to keeping a storng relationship as if you tricked a man into becoming a father some of them dont take it too well. good luck.

Answer 3

I to have pcos and wish I did no from long time before ttc, try taking care of your body now so when he's ready you could be pregnant in a month or two, ask your dr for metformin, it helps real good with pcos ladies, exspecailly if you are overweight, not ovulating, unwanted facial hair or have ireguler periods, it would better your chances to conceive real good, so start taking care now, I have been ttc#1 for 4 years now, just got diagnois with pcos in April of this year, did clomid 4 cycles without any luck, now I am taking metformin and this is my 2nd month on it, it gives me alot of hope

Answer 4

I too have PCOS, I understand the difficulty getting pregnant and how you want to start trying. I wanted to have a baby with my boyfriend and he wasn't ready. So instead of pushing it I got my body ready to have kids. I decided to get my pcos under control naturally, I ate really healthy, exercised, lost 20 pounds, took vitamins. It worked and when we were ready to have a baby it was easier to conceive.

Give your boyfriend time, he'll come around. take care.

Answer 5

Well i really think u should make him change his mind but not in a force way, Tell him exsactly why u want to have his baby, and convince him how much fun and joy it'll bring to both of u. Maybe he'll start looking diverently at the hole thing and change his own mind. Good Luck!

Answer 6

I would advise you to wait, because if he doesn't want the baby he can leave. He's not married to you, so legally he doesn't have a commitment to you and being that he doesn't want the child he'll have even less of a reason to stay with you.

Answer 7

I would wait or find someone else because otherwise he will feel trapped and used. He has made his feelings clear, if you can't live with that end the relationship, don't ttc if he doesn't want a child right now. Trust that when its time it will happen or find someone else who is more in tune with your schedule!

Answer 8

Just wait. Having children before BOTH parents are ready will be the biggest mistake of your childs life.

Answer 9

WAIT!

Answer 10

not sure