you contact for help, if any?
Priest
Counselor
Spiritual leader
Friend
Nobody
2007-10-24 19:11:42 · 19 answers · asked by Wickwire 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Priest? How much could they know about married life..the abstract is a very different thing than the real! If I wanted platitudes, I would go to a priest.
Counselor: my experience with counselors has been mixed...he who talks first usually has the sympathy of the counselor..sort of like judges!
Spiritual leader? He will base all advice on what will land him the most money in the collection plate..advice is cheap, but never free
Friend? I don't need my stuff all over the street..and the surest way of telling everyone is tell a friend.
Nobody? Probably...I would let things cool off and have the talk with those involved...the mate! But, take a valium before the conversation...an angry conversation does nothing but cause more harm!
On second thought, perhaps this is the place to come to first! You will find a wealth of experience, and we, as a rule, are pretty blunt about what we see. BUT if one were to do that, they better be prepared to do a lot of writing about the problem, for "I am in trouble in my marriage" does not warrant an answer.
Peace and love, Goldwing
2007-10-25 06:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I always sorta suffered in silence. My first divorce I literally had a good friend of my hub's come to the house and carry me to his car and drive me to an attorney and pay for the divorce. He said he treats you like s*** and you don't deserve it time to get out of it. I had no problem leaving the guy but I just couldn't do the final step. My divorce was final the day my little boy turned a year old. I stayed single for 7 years. Remarried when the boys were 10 and 7. Spent 19 years with man that did not have an affectionate bone in his body. My boys wouldn't even hardly speak for over a year then they suddenly saw the true light -- they were both grown and married and my daughter was 17. She was amazed when I told her I was getting a divorce. She said you never fought!! Never beat a dead horse, it just doesn't work. Married one more time, filed for divorce less than 4 months later. Very single and quite happy now for over 15 years. Long dull story huh!!
Eldest son--his dad drowned in the ocean when he was just 8 months old.
2007-10-24 19:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by lilabner 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the problem!
I am not a religious person so I would never go to a priest or spiritual leader.
I have a very open and honest relationship with my husband, so if we have problems (knock on wood, we don't, but we do fight good) I would talk to him about it. When it gets a little deeper I would go to a friend and if that doesn't work than 'both' of you need to go to a counselor.
2007-10-24 19:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by StayAtHome MOM 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go to a Marriage counselor first, and then try to follow what he tells you to do. You have to work hard on relationships.Your Spiritual leader can help a lot too. Whoever he is, a Priest or any spiritual leader. Whatever you follow.
2007-10-25 12:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by Telma G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No longer married but were I prone to seeking help it would probably be a counselor....spiritual leaders/priests/ministers tend to place too much emphasis on the covenant of marriage and little addressing of the problems at hand...encouraging women in particular to hang in there regardless.
2007-10-25 08:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counselor
2007-10-25 01:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by John I 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Pastor/Spiritual Leader. Being Christian isn't always easy, and only a Christian Pastor would really understand the difficulties. Sorry - no offense to the other professions, but that's how I feel.
2007-10-25 00:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lady G 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Nobody.I was married for 23 years and divorced him.Found out later that I should have told everyone how sorry he is.Now they can't believe I would divorce such a good guy..Drugs was why,a well kept secret....Sorry venting..happy for 4 years now..
2007-10-25 05:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a lot of problems before my marriage ended, and it was a couple of real good friends who helped me through.
2007-10-25 05:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by Roxy. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We try to work things out between us, but if I need to vent I call my friend. So far it's worked fine. Still together for almost 20 years!
2007-10-25 03:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by noonecanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋