What can I do to get through to Hubby?

Question

After work my husband has beers with his construction coworker guy friend a few times a week but what pisses me off is he wont answer when I call his cell phone! He makes excuses like It was turned off or he didnt have it on him or hear it. Im being cool about letting him stay out with friend but I get so upset when he doesnt answer expecially since Im pregnant and close to due date! Its 9pm and I havent seen him since he left at 5 this morn. I just lectured him 4 not answering earlier he sounded buzzed and he said he was sorry but I just tryed calling again and same ol story, no answer! What can I do to get it through his head that this is wrong and annoying! Should I be worried?

I know he's not cheating cause he's really really dirty and stinky after work with sweat, torn clothes and all (construction) and doesnt come home to change when he does this. They get together and drink in their yuckyness!

Answer 1

I have been the same experience and the same position as you....but when i was on labour he was there for me and very supportive....well im like you too im cool about it and i trust him .. but there are times you need to show him that you are mad and it is not okay...you need that anger to be out ..if not you'll end up like me ..spoiling ma husband too much ...actaully until now he stills goes with his friends and drink but not as much as before because he realise that he ends up spending too much money .. and that he knows he needs savings and things to provide for the baby..

its normal to worry and you will always feel that way esp. when the baby comes you'll get more emotional..so i suggest take care of yourself and be more strong....cause in the future you cant always depend on your husband as you can see the situation ...his not always there for you. you have to be independent and thats what im doing now...

man will always be man and its hard for them to just change in a click..

dont depend on him too much.when your baby comes , your baby depends one and only you...you'll be tough by that time.

Answer 2

Hopefully, he's not ignoring the calls because he's getting busy else where. You sound very trusting. Some guys who can't have relations with the wife because they are so far along still want to be satisfied. So if he's really with the guys, tell him he better start picking up the phone or no more staying out. Next time you call and he doesn't answer, leave a message that your water broke. I guarantee he'll call back. Then tell him false alarm you just had a little accident. Keep coming up with good ones. Like the contractions are coming and he has to come right away. You called a taxi and you don't want to have the baby in a cab. The EMT tech thinks you have enough time to get to the hospital but they'll wait a few more minutes for him. LOL think of some good ones.

Answer 3

You've already informed him that this is disturbing to you and the situation hasn't changed.

Why are you calling him? Maybe you call too frequently and so he turns off the phone. Guys don't like to look henpecked in from of their friends.

The next question, is he where he says he is? Personally, I'd quietly drive by and see if his car is there because the fact that he so frequently cannot be reached by you could be a bad sign. It's one thing to stop for a beer for an hour or so, but staying out to 9 p.m. a few times a week would be too much for me. Besides you don't want him to become an alcoholic.

If you know for sure he is with who he says he is and is where he says he is, back off. Nagging never helps. If you can't rely on him, get a relative, friend or neighbor to help you in an emergency.

PS - maybe it's time for you to start going out with your girlfriends, too. If he doesn't answer the phone, leave him a note "Mary and I are going out for a Shirley Temple - Love ya" and "Joanie and I went to the mall."

Answer 4

The next time you call and he does not answer, don't leave a message. Just take the bag you have packed for your hospital stay and go over to a friend's house and hang out until about 11 PM at night, or later. Hopefully he will get home before you and be all frantic, calling the hospital, etc, to see where you are and if you went into labor. Or leave a note and say you went to the hospital. Maybe that's wake him up.

Sounds like a jerk to me.

Answer 5

this is totally wrong!!!
but if you nag him he will resent it and stay out longer...
give him a scare... why dont you go out and not tell him...

my husband would NEVER do this.

why even have a cell phone?? (I dont and wont own one.. whats the point of having them if half the time you cannot reach the person anyhow.. if you are having a kid.. start saving $ now by ditching the cell phones)

good luck - maybe write him a note..

I dont like Country Music by my co-worker does.. there is a song "why dont you come home and talk to a stranger.. you might even make yourself a friend.. why dont you come home and talk to a stranger.. its the only place in days you havent been"

Answer 6

aw thats sweet, congrats on the baby, but hon your husband has long hard days at work, then just wants to go relax and sip some beer with his buddy theres nothing wrong with that. he knows nothing is seriously wrong if you already spoke to him but if you keep calling back over and over again it may be a little annoying thats probilly why he turns the phone off. you can always chat with him at home but he needstime to unwind and chat with his buddies for a little while. if you let him know that you will start to only call him one time when he's out, i think he will be more eager to answer his phone. may i suggest you try to find some any interesting hobbies to keep you occupied through out the day.?

Answer 7

would be a pair of issues. First, it would desire to no longer have appeared genuine to him. It did no longer for my husband, or brother who's spouse is pregnant, until eventually they'd sense the toddler kick and did no longer quite hit homestead until eventually they held the new child of their hands. So maybe he quite would not comprehend, and the soreness isn't something he can comprehend the two. i'd have him sit down next to me, tell him how uncomfortable and in soreness you're and how...uncooked?...you sense emotionally and which you want a pair days of relax at homestead. provide him pizza funds or order chinese language or something so he would not starve (lol), or deliver him out for nutrition and a action picture and ask which you in simple terms sit down at homestead and cuddle and watch a action picture (no longer a chick flick, get an action or comedy). it would desire to be something that he would not comprehend, yet actually take a while you are able to relax up. do no longer permit his techniques-set push you into doing stuff earlier you're waiting.

Answer 8

Well he can be stressed out and being with his co-workers is the only way to relax. As long as he is not involved in another woman, please give him some time.
He knows with the baby coming and all that he has to do, he may not have the time to relax.
So do not call him if there is no emergency and he will respect you for that.

Good Luck

Answer 9

I would be worried, simply because he sounds like he "doesn't give a ****" you know? Especially, when you have already talked to him about it and you are close to delivering his freaking baby. I'd tell him to straighten up..or else.
Besides you are under alot of stress as it is with you due date getting closer and closer you don't need any more added stress like a husband who doesn't have enough brains to call his wife or answer her phone calls.

Answer 10

quit calling him maybe and he'll wonder why u haven't called
and when u go into labor just call him once if he dosesn't answer dont call him anymore.once he gets home and figures out that your not there because you went to the hospital to give birth he'll feel like ****.after you have given birth and ok to talk then rip him a new one.thats what i would do