Did having a baby improve your life?

Question

Though you had concerns.. did having a baby improve your life? Was it a good change?
Would you change anything at all about timing?

Did you have any concerns that turned out not to be a cause for concern?

Answer 1

My life is now complete now that i have my too beautiful girls. It has improved my life completly, i used to get so lonely and depressed but now i have my girls to keep me going. If it wasn't for them i don;t know where i would be today. Every time i get down my three year oldgives me a cuddle and everything is fine again. my nine month old just has to give me a cute little smile and i see her one tooth sticking up and it makes me laugh everytime. I did have my first when i was 19 and sometimes i think i should have waited but then i wouldn;t have my girls. They keep me strong and i would not give them up for anything. i am proud to be there mum. i was concerned i wouldn;t know what to do, how to stop them crying or little things like that, but you just get through it. Being a mum isn't a chore it is a privalige.

Answer 2

Yes. It did. I’m so inspired to learn all that I can and be the best person I can possibly be for my son and to set a good example for him. If I didn’t have him, God knows where I would be. He's the reason I'm a good person and feel that I am so successful in so many different ways. And yes, I had concerns. His dad passed away during my pregnancy. I worried if he would be born healthy because of the stress and depression I was facing and what do you know? He's not only healthy, he's smarter than average children his age. He is truly a blessing. I can't even explain it. I wouldn't change anything. I feel that everything happens for a reason and I can tell when I observe his behavior, analyze his personality thus far and look into his eyes that he's the kind of boy who will grow up to the kind of person who puts people in awe because of his talent and charisma. He's going to silence rooms when he walks in...the famous type (if he don’t actually end up famous) lol....I wouldn’t change anything. However, I do wish his dad was here to love him and be there for him with me. Although my son is going to be more than okay like he is now, when he's older, I still worry about the pain he might feel from never knowing his father. I wish I could take it away now because I know those days will come but I cant :( Honestly though, I feel like people that don’t have children or even want them, are missing out on so much....a whole new and better world. Having a baby should improve every parent's lives. If not, then what kind of parent are they? Sorry my answer was so long but thanks for asking. It's a good question and to tell you the truth, getting all of that out was quite therapeutic for me :)

Answer 3

Wow, big question! We feel our child was a year too early.. we were planning one for a year or so from when we got pregnant.

I would say it launches you into another 'phase of life', that is not very recognized. Just like the different phases every 7 years for child development... then there is the parenting phase.

If we start living like 120 years, I would easily say not to have kids until you are at least 35.

For us, we feel we really needed more time as a couple and now, 4 kids and 17 years later, we are getting reacquanted now that the youngest is about 8.

There is quite a lesson to be learned from parenting. You have to give time to the child.. and if you are selfish and wanting the world to revolve around you, you will have a tough time. Children are about unconditional love and are a great way to learn those lessons. But some people seem to know they don't need or want to have kids.

My main concern about being a good enough mom, is STILL a concern! Every child is different and you need to be so flexible and it is challenging. Best wishes.

Answer 4

No one can tell you in words what it is like to have a baby and how it changes you and your life. Because what you feel when you hold that new life is the only thing that makes sense!
I was worried I wouldn't be a good mom, that there wasn't enough money, that our marriage might not be ready for the strain, that I was too selfish to share myself so totally with another living creature.......and when I held my first child that first month of her life the only concern that stayed with me was that I would not be worthy of her or be a good enough mom. She is 17 and graduating from high school soon and that one worry has always been with me!
Yes she improved my life, as has her 2 sisters and 1 brother and the changes were for the better in most ways. And no, I wouldn't change the timing or they wouldn't be exactly who they are!

Answer 5

Definitely! My son came into this world when I was 28. I seen the world differently from then on, I knew that every decision I made was no longer about me but now what was best for my son. My values and my priciples changed for the better. I stopped drinking and partying because I didn't want my son in this kind of an environment (my personal choice). I was worried that I wouldn't know what to do or how to be a good mom, neither of my parents raised me so I was not sure what to do. Once your baby is in your world it all comes natural to love, protect and guide your childs path. If your worried or concerned don't be just welcome this child with all your love.

Answer 6

Yes - in ways that I couldn't have imagined. I was always a flighty person - no real goals or purpose in life - just getting by and enjoying life as it came. Now, for the first time I feel I have purpose and the ambition to do the very best I can. I love it and would not change a thing.

My only concern was being alone with the baby for the first time - what was I going to do with a baby for 24 hours? Well, it was no big deal and I enjoyed every second!

Answer 7

I thought that having my baby would really change my life in some bad wayslike not being able tto hang out with friends and having my body looking horable but I was wrong when I had her all i could do was smile seeing her and knowing she was health was all that really mattered shure i had some streach marks but they faided as time went on and i got backin shape prettty fast. I think it changed my life for the better I started slowing down and understood all the respoinsiblilitys if I didn't have her i might not be as well off as i am now. It was totaly for the better and i just had a secound baby I love them both so much.. You'll see what I mean when you have one.

Answer 8

"Improve" is not the word I would use. There are many changes in your life as a parent, but there are many joys as well. I think maturity is more important than age. If you want to have children, don't use the pill or condoms and let it be a surprise for the first child. Good to time the rest at least two years apart for your body and nerves to recouperate. Don't be afraid. Make sure you are having a child for the right reasons and into a good environment. Its a normal thing in life-enjoy it.

Answer 9

The answer is mixed. It did bring new meaning to my life. It brought a new sense of responsibility. All of the experiences that go along with raising a child...seeing them laugh for the first time or walk for the first time....have been amazing.

My wife and I both work so it has brought stress to our lives too. Trying to be both great employees and great parents is a constant challenge. I constantly feel like I'm not giving 100% to either my job or my children. Sometimes my kids are sick and I have to stay home with them, which can impact your career. Some evenings I have to work and spend less time hanging out with the kids.

You have much less 'me time' which can suddenly cause stress. You have less time with your partner.

I wouldn't change things for the world. You just need to understand that it's not all happy days. There are responsibilities that go along with it. The experiences are great though!

Answer 10

Anyone who has had an unplanned baby can tell you that it can be distruptive to their life, and it can.

But this is mainly because your priorities often change as you are now in charge of a little life!

All of the things that you stress about in the beginning are often unfounded and become illigitamate once the bub comes along.

It will be the most challenging and rewarding time of your life.