2 years ago when I was 14 I moved in with my Dad because my mom was abusive to me. I now live in the city and go to a private school, yet I am uncomfortable with both. I love my Dad, but I can't stand to live with him (strict rules, etc.) I have a job and an 18 year old brother that would be glad to live with me. Is emancipation the only way to go, or is there an easier way?
2007-10-24 16:55:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Ok my other details didn't seem to be enough. "Too strict" was for lack of characters. My mother has already been shown as unfit to have custody over me, which led to me living with my Dad. My Dad has chronic fatigue and barely has time to take care of me (supposed to pick me up from school but shows up hours late sometimes, and sometimes not at all, skipped meals because of him being asleep/sick, etc.) Besides that there wouldn't be much grounds for bad parenting, even if I don't agree with his methods (obviously, considering I'm 16 and my opinion means very little.) I live in Illinois.
2007-10-24 17:56:54 · update #1
Try therapy with your father first. The rules might be too strict or you might just be a whiner. I don't know and don't really care either way. All I know is running away from your problems is not the way to live. Face the issue head on and do your best to resolve them.
2007-10-24 17:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin k 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know what the "strict rules" you speak of are but unless they're abusive then they're for your own good. The only way to legally live with your brother besides emancipation is through shared guardianship. You don't say what state you're in, which is important because not all states even allow emancipation, and even fewer allow shared guardianship. Further, most states that do, require the person assuming guardianship to be at least 21 years of age and making enough money to support the both of you, whether he will actually have to or not.
2007-10-24 17:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by Josh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Based on what you said, you won’t be able to get emancipated. One of the requirements for it is that the minor must provide a valid reason why emancipation would be in their best interest. Thinking Dad’s are rules are too strict is NOT a valid reason. Also, emancipation requires that the minor be able to fully support themselves--paying for rent, utilities, food, medical expenses, etc--completely on their own. That does not mean moving in with someone else and depending on them for help/assistance to pay those expenses. There are other requirements for emancipation too.
You can move in with Brother IF Dad agrees to allow it. But even then, there are issues that need to be dealt with, such as brother having some form of custody over you, otherwise, he can’t do things that require parental/guardian consent, such as enroll you in school, consent to your medical care, etc. And you can’t do those either---a parent or guardian has to.
If Dad won’t agree to let you move in with Brother, the only other option is for Brother to petition for custody, BUT he won’t win unless he can prove both of your parents to be unfit, and it takes A LOT to do that. The fact that Dad is strict won’t even begin to cut it. It would have to be a case of abuse, neglect, etc.
I'm assuming that you live in the US. But if you live in another country, the laws may be different.
2007-10-24 17:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can they get entangled? beneficial, she remains a minor in the eyes of the regulation. Will they get entangled? in all probability to not be truthful, extraordinarily if she basically has some months to tutor 18. right here is an concept. with a view to sidestep even a touch of involvement of the police, why would not she wait the few months and pass out while she turns 18? How long have the two fo you been relationship? Is 8 months going to be the version between you 2 surviving or not? Curious nonetheless, in case you're working finished time for a federal monetary company, how previous are you? Does this additionally play into the mothers dislike for you? i would be unable to think of the police getting in contact from a criminal attitude, yet we could face it, the final component you like is worry, extraordinarily on your place.
2016-10-07 13:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to be emancipated. I know it's tough. Private school and all. Just ride out the two years. You probably ned the strict rules etc. at your age. The fact that you cant handle them sort of proves that. The message this would send to your father may cause damage to your relationship.
2007-10-24 17:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by Toodeemo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only options are guardianship and emancipation, and strictness is usually not perceived by the courts as a bad thing. If you don't believe everyone on here, consult an attorney and they will likely tell you the same thing.
2007-10-24 17:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lesley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in Mississippi, Georgia, or Arkansas, you can marry your brother and move right in.
2007-10-24 17:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋