As my wife of ten years no longer desires me, I plan on going out to find some piece of a$$ that wants to go at it all night. And before you answer all about never cheat and all that b.s., I don't want to hear it. You haven't been through my hell. I just gave a 40-minute foot rub that put her to sleep, and then she went to bed. No rub back, and I don't mean my feet.
And no, I'm not going to get a divorce before I do this. That would take too long. I don't want that hassle. As a married man, I just want to get laid. So, what I really want to know, and prolly from guys is, should I set some standard? Should I only hook a slap-on-the-back-from-the-guys kinda babe (which obviously might be a little more work), or should I go with a non-ugly kinda cute girl, with nice T&A? Or should I hook up with the first non-male that wants to?
Especially from dudes who've cheated, or just some single guys out there, do you set a standard?
Thanks.
2007-10-24 16:47:31 · 21 answers · asked by lovinglifeina69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm crazy about my wife. But this no sex thing is killing me from the inside. It's not just tonite.
And there's no chance of giving my wife an STD if I happen to contract one. That's kinda the reason why I'm gonna do this.
2007-10-24 17:00:09 · update #1
Thanks Amber
2007-10-24 17:02:29 · update #2
Sloegin, no worries, I've talked until the sun came up. It doesn't appear to make any difference. She just plain has no interest in sex. At one point recently, she exclaimed, "How many times a month do you wanna have sex?"
How about before I have to count two periods having come and gone.
2007-10-25 02:36:34 · update #3
i dont think you should settle , i think if your going to cheat on your wife at least get some HOT woman to do it with . Make it worth while silly, im not saying im for cheating but if shes a b**** then wtf go have some fun and go hit up a hot a**! :)
and yes im not a male but i have goood advice ;)
2007-10-24 16:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Amber N 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you told your wife you feel this way, I'll bet things would change around home. Or are you afraid to talk to her about it? Maybe you don't want to talk to her about it because that would take away your "fabulous excuse" for cheating.
Keep in mind that there are consequences for what you plan to do. When they come your way, don't say you weren't warned.
I've been cheated on for the very reason you are talking about cheating. Do you know how much it hurts to be betrayed like that? Do you even care? If you have any respect at all for your wife, any little speck of love in your heart for her, you won't do this.
By the way...what is this you are talking about "setting standards"? It is evident that you don't have any if you do this.
And...I don't care what kind of BS you didn't want to hear...you asked a question and I gave you an answer. Deal with it.
2007-10-25 04:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really gunna do this don't set a standard. It'll just make it harder for your wife later. Make sure shes at least a little bit uglier than your wife.
One question for you that i didn't quite get from your thingie above: Do you love your wife? Im just interested, not looking to give you sh*t.
EDIT: Have you tried talking to her about this? Maybe you guys need to have some therapy.. theres obviously a reason why she wont have sex with you anymore. Hold out on the cheating, try talking to her.
2007-10-24 23:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by jingledelz 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Number 1 - cheating won't make your problems go away.
Number 2 - IF you decide to go through with this, be very discreet! Can you imagine the hell you, your wife, kids and family will be put through if you are "found out"? Divorce is never easy - add adultery, it's a huge mess! And the kids always get the worst end of it.
If you are just looking for a piece of @$$, go to a strip club, a night club, a bar. If you are looking for an occasional "side salad", make a friend who's interested in benefits.
Just remember ... you play, you pay!
2007-10-25 00:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you go out and find a piece of *** that goes all night for you, to your standards. Then what? How long will that satisfy you? Your right back to where you started. It really is not the solution just a band aid fix to which there is immense consequences. I'd think about fixing why your wife isn't putting out for you before you leap into waters you may regret.
A slut you can find anytime, a wife is a precious.
2007-10-25 00:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think she does not desire you did she tell you that or are you thinking that she does not find you desirable. Just because she does not want to make love and you want to have sex as much as you say you can.Look I don't know were you come from but when we get married to a women we don't make ground rules.Other then paying the bills and taking care of the kids.You don't own your wife you can't just tell her you want sex and shes naked and on the bed ready..Cry me a river you rubed her feet and she went to sleep.Was that why you did it thinking she would give you sex for rubing her feet.Dude if you want sex with your wife you don't rub her feet.You give her a full body rub down to get her feeling real good. You don't go out and find a piece of *** because she willn't give it to you.Dude you don't want a wife you want a sex slave some one who will take your **** and let you do what you want.Dude you need help if you think your wife is going to take your ****.You do any thing and she finds out about it she will divorce your ***.
2007-10-25 00:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by the answerman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best thing is to have a talk with your wife. She may be going through some female problems.She may be afraid to discuss it with you.Cheating may cost you more in the long run. Think what will happen if she finds out. or ask yourself if she did this to me what would I do? Think of what you can catch from others, Aids,and many others.If you have children's think about them.You may hurt allot of people.Plus not to mention she may divorce you. Then will it be worth it just for a few moments of pleasure.
2007-10-25 00:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by mongoslade 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ten years is nothing. You have got to be kidding me she probably is sleeping because she disrespects you and is no longer into you. You probably have been whining like a little boy and almost stomping your feet for sex. Grow up and talk to her and let her know, do you think she would want you to do this or would you like her to do it. grow a set and sit her *** down for a serious talk and let her knbow how you feel, get help and counseling.
Try reading How to Hold onto Your N.U.T. S.
If you have given 110% and she still is not desiring you than at least you have tried. Man it could be sooo much better you are pussin out.
2007-10-24 23:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by joecool 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have probably given this a lot of thought or you are just mad as hell. Since you have your mind all made up and are apparently just horny, I wouldn't bother with standards if I were you, as you have already shown you do not have any - you just wanna get laid. Poor you. Wah. It sucks to be you. Go find a prostitute.
2007-10-24 23:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not condone cheating whatsoever however what does the wife expect if she is not putting out. She is not thinking about your needs and wants. I think you should talk to your wife and tell her that you feel deprived and are having urges of finding it elsewhere. I do not blame men for cheating when the wife has zilch sex.
2007-10-24 23:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by Judi W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude, you REALLY need to get counseling with your wife before you make a HUGE mistake.
Seriously.
2007-10-25 00:51:39 · answer #11 · answered by Mark in Boulder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋