marriage at a young age?

Question

HI WAS UP MY NAME IS SARA AND IM 18 MY BOYFRIEND IS 20 AND IN THE NAVY HE IS TALKING BOUT GETTING MARRIED I WAS WONDERING WHAT PEOPLE THINK BOUT MARRIGE AT A YOUNG AGE

ok srry for the caps lock and iv know him for 4 years and hes a navy man so he wont bee home much any way maybe that helps

Answer 1

Hey, good question! Im 23, got married at 18, have a 5 and a 2 yr old...and a soldier husband. A lot of soldiers/sea men/airman marry young...its kinda different in the service...the rules are a little different and in some cases dont apply at all. Now, heres the kicker...ppl change a lot between 18 and 21. And sometimes, you dont always grow in the same direction. Sometimes, i think this is the best decision i ever made, and sometimes i wish i was still in college partying my *** off and not having to worry about feeding my kids. This is really a time when you have to ask your self some hard questions. Are you ready to become a part of another person, ready to make sacrifices if he need arises? You hear ppl complain a lot, oh he/she changed when we got married. well everyone does, its hard to explain, but basically u both complete each other and even out the rough edges, so u do sort of take on a new identity. What is you relationship like now? Do you live together? If you dont, can you imagine waking up and going to sleep with the same person every day. for the rest of your life, or (bt personal but necessary) sleeping with the same man the res of your life? You also have to throw in a few different angles...the military comes first and foremost for any service member...they do what they are told when they are told, if they have to work until 930 at night, they dont have the option of leaving. There is an added stredd being a mlitary spouse and it takes a strong breed of woman to handle it. And no, being seperated when hes not on shore leave is not going to help. You have to dea with the seperation, and with that comes a certain degree of drama...family members will nag, why dont you come home, how can you stand being married to someone whos gone all the time. Non military family do not understand the way things roll. When you become married, you become married to the military nd you form what we call a "military family" these are the people who will be your life line, your shoulder to cry on, your neighbor who comes over everytime you lite the grill etc. I personally think, if you feel your ready then your ready, and you wont know unless you try. So if you feel like its right, and you can answer all these questions, go for it. All the best of luck!!!
*sorry its such a long winded answer*

Answer 2

Marriage is as passe as T-Rexes. Thats why over 50% end in divorce. Don't get married unless you are pregnant. It is just taking a risk for no reason what so ever. Just because your name is written down on a piece of paper doesn't mean you love each other any more or any less. Plus you are too young to know what you want. You need to date different people until you are at least 25 so you can see what type of men you really like. He may seem okay, and he might be, but what if your soulmate walks around the corner the day after you get married. Your young. Live a little.

Answer 3

My brother and his wife married when he was 19 and she was 20 - and it has been very success full (you should have heard him talking about her a couple of weeks ago- they really still got it)

But they are the exception, not the rule. What I can tell you is that I, as a person, matured so much between the age of 18 and 24. And most people I know did as well. Not that you don't change after that, but by getting married that early, you need to be sure that you have a VERY strong commitment before you take that step. Just by the way you indicate that "he is talking about getting married" I just get the impression you are not sure. If you are not 125% sure that you are ready to get married and stay married for life, give yourself a little time to grow up before you make that decision.

Answer 4

At 18 I was ready to marry my then boyfriend. We broke up about 6 months later after dating for more than 2 years.

I am now very happily married to so one else. We both have college educations and stable jobs. We plan on having children in a few years. My ex boyfriend has been in Iraq voluntarily for the past 4 years as much as possible. He has a wife at home who gets very lonely and likes to "experiment" (cheat) because they married soon after they started seeing one another at the age of 19 and 20, and experienced little of anything else.

Answer 5

i say go for it. if u luv him that is. :) i got married when i was 18 and he was 20. We started going out when i was 15. Of course we have had our ups n downs (he was in the army) but i wouldnt change it for the world. We have 4 beautiful kids and i am so happy. I am 23 almost 24 and look forward to a 100 more years with this man.

Answer 6

Marriage at a young age is fine to me... Age doesnt matter all that matters is that u love each other and that u want to be together forever and u know that ..... Everyone says u get divorced b-c u got married to young... No I dont belive that is true its b-c I believe u get divorces b-c u get married b-4 u are really in love and once u get married u relize no love is there... So.. Yea..

Answer 7

I think that age is not always a factor to the marriage thing. I think if the people in the relationship are able to handle the responsibility of the marriage and understand what a good slided marriage takes then I say go for it!

Answer 8

Young Marries + Military = Divorce down the road. I've been a married military wife in my thirties and its was too overwhelming even for a woman in her thirties..an 18 year old will never ever be able to handle it and make it out okay!

Answer 9

wow! that is young! i think well i wouldn't do it quite yet... the longer the wait the better it pays off. I think maybe 22 or 21 sounds like a reasonable age for you to get married. it matters where you live. I hope you have a happy life together! good luck

Answer 10

wait until he's out of the navy so you all can be together then ! Some men like that can meet other women while away from you !! I wouldn't want that myself !! wouldn't you rather be married to someone that you can be with and see everyday and not far apart ! So much could happen while your apart!