I think my Husband and my sister in law have a inappropriate relationship. My sister in law is my Husbands brother's wife. The work together talk on the phone, and she is coming over to my house almost ever night to hang out with him. She drinks.... ALOT. Every night. She doesn’t hang out with her own husband or go any where with him, but she will come over and hang out with my Husband. I think she treats him like her husband. She bought him cold medicine when he had a cold, she goes and buys him lunch all the time, and now she’s starting to buy my daughter alot of stuff. It's really starting to bother me. People tell me their relationship is very inappropriate, and I don’t know if im getting mad at nothing, or if threes something to be bad about. Tonight they went 40 miles together to the closest Wal-Mart when I was already planning to go with my friend, but he decided to go with her instead because her husband just broke his leg and couldn’t go. Am I over reacting??
2007-10-24 16:26:19 · 35 answers · asked by randi_jenik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk to ur husband about this tell him its really brothering u if he says nothing then u say that if he dose nothing about this then u will and tell him that afterwards dont blame u on what u did,his sister in law is trying to get ur family or ur husband,if ur husband dose nothing then talk to his sister in law if she does nothing then talk to ur brother in law he may help u a bit or try keeping her away from ur family as far as u can dont let her come every single day to ur house or ur family and make u and ur husband life a little romantic put a little spice if u do this then hell never even think about anyother girl expect u.........
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2007-10-24 20:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you are overreacting. You should talk to him though. I would even go so far as to insist that you two spend time together without her and insist that she not come over anymore. If your husband has a problem with this, then you have a major problem. I would just ask him if anything inappropriate is going on between them because it seems like there is and that is what everyone is saying. See how he reacts, if it is crazy then he is GUILTY. Try working her too to see how she reacts when you want to spend "quality" time with your husband.
I hope we are all wrong but I can't help but think it's true.
2007-10-24 16:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not over-reacting at all. Seem there is a bit more to this relationship than either want you to know. She should want to be with her own husband, not yours. This must stop now and you must put your foot down. If your husband becomes angry and annoyed by your asking him to stop spending all this time with her, then something more is probably going on. Take some action now, before it is too late for you, your sister-in-law or your husband.
2007-10-24 16:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to have alittle heart to heart with the SIL AND the husband...but separately. Maybe she feels a certain way that your not aware of...and you need to set straight. Maybe she feels that she had to get him cold medicine to take care of him when he was ill, because you weren't doing it. Not saying that you aren't a good wife and mom, but maybe SHE doesn't think so. Don't get in a fighting match with her, just talk with her and see whats going on in her head. Does she like him...or does she need to talk to someone and it seems like he's feeling the same as she does. Also talk with your husband and see how he's feeling. Is he unhappy? Does he just hang with her and drink, or does he just watch her drink. All in all, no your husband should not be hanging our all the time with his SIL. I wouldn't do that with mine, but I enjoy his company and hang our with my husband and him together. There is something fishy here, find out what it is without confrontation if you can help it and try to fix it. Good luck.
2007-10-24 16:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by sun day 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you're not over-reacting. I don't want to accuse him of anything, but it sounds like he may be cheating on you and having sex with this woman. You need to get to the bottom of it- he should not be dumping you to be with another woman all the time. You should spend more time with him than anyone, especially if they see each other at work. Your friends may be bringing this to your attention because they know he's cheating and don't want to flat out tell you. Hire a private investigator or something. This is ridiculous, and you have every right to be angry!
2007-10-24 16:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by BlackDahlia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds a little fishy. That is just way too much togetherness. What does her husband think? I wouldn't say anything is happening yet, but it could be in the works. I can't imagine myself hanging around with my husband's brothers. She's nursing your husband's cold, but won't stay home with a husband who just broke his leg? Hmmm......sounds a little weird.
2007-10-24 16:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by zento1110 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds very inappropriate. (Remember Charlie Sheen and Denise Richards? I know they weren't related to the other couple but its the same type of thing). It sounds like she has eyes for your husband, and if they are disappearing together I would be suspicious. Talk to him about it and find out what is going on.
2007-10-24 16:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not overacting. it's normal, why don't you talk it over to your husband. Explain to him that it's bothering you, make him understand the reason. Marriage is about communication.
She have her own family, she should go spend more time with her own family. If that bother you, then it's should bother her husband as well. Maybe you should talk to her husband, to see if he notice anything wrong. Maybe their marriage have some problem and she is trying to avoid it by going to your house constantly.
2007-10-24 16:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. They are doing it. I'm sorry but I was put in a situation with my ex's sisters where one was doin the others husband and she knew it. She didn't want to believe it when I told her but finally she found someone new and left him- then you know what, he went to the other sister. In your case the other brother is your husband and you need to express your concern to her husband and to yours and confront her but if you dont think it will stop then leave, but get your proof to use in divorce court first.
2007-10-24 16:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't overreacting. This is very inappropriate. They both should know better than this and it is extremely disrespectful to both you and her husband. I'm surprised a brother would act this way to his own brothers wife, and that she would be this ridiculously clingy to her brother in law.
2007-10-24 21:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋