First off my gf is bi. but she says she loves me and says how shes mine blah blah blah.... and then today she was saying that if she makes out with a chick that it is not cheating because their a girl. and wouldn't be her fault if she did it because she wouldn't be able to stop herself because she also finds girls attractive. but i believe that it does not matter what gender some one is cheating is cheating. so shes telling me not to be mad if she does it cause she wont be cheating...BS! so am i wrong cause i feel this way?
2007-10-24 16:13:23 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and no im not into 3 sums im not that kind of person i believe in only one person at a time
2007-10-24 16:16:10 · update #1
and she hid she was bi from me for the first couple of months dating
2007-10-24 16:16:53 · update #2
It doesn't matter that she's bisexual, because once you make the conscious decision to commit yourself to another person, you shouldn't be going off making out with someone else. Your gf's problem is not her sexuality-- she's using that as a crutch-- but her lack of committment.
I would suggest leaving this relationship and pursuing someone who doesn't want to use excuses--bisexual or not-- for their lack of committment and trust.
2007-10-24 16:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymousgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You are wrong because you KNOW that you're girlfriend either IS currently cheating on you or has all but assured you that she will be doing so soon. You also know that it's wrong what she's doing to you. Further you know that by doing so, that makes her a manipulative, lying *****! Yet, you don't have the stones to leave her, because you too are a snivveling little user yourself. You heard me! YOU are a user!
You figure that it's better to have sex with her--even if it IS her--than to not have sex at all. In other words, if you had another girl lined up right now, you'd be Mr. High-And-Mighty, saying to her: "I don't have to take this!" But since you don't have anyone lined up, you keep looking down at your hand. You ask it, "Do I REALLY want to start dating YOU again?" You figure that the worst sex you've ever had with a woman is better than the best sex you've ever had with yourself.
Sort of makes you and this wonderful girlfriend of yours two of a kind, doesn't it? See, your problem is that you're torn between taking a stand on principle and getting laid. Tough decision. Good luck with that.
2007-10-24 16:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by Just_One_Man's_Opinion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have only 2 choices:
1. Live with the situation as it is (but it sounds like you would never be happy)
2. Leave her to pursue her pleasures, and find someone else.
I agree, making out with someone else (no matter who or what they are) is cheating on your relationship. And being bi, if she's willing to cheat with a girl who's to say she won't cheat with a guy?
Not worth the heartache, my man.
2007-10-24 16:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I agree with you that cheating is cheating. It makes no difference whether it's with another guy or with a girl, because she isn't considering you to be her one and only. If you really want my advice, I'd find a girlfriend who only has eyes (and everything else) just for you, my friend. Sharing is an admirable trait, but not when it comes to relationships. Good luck!
2007-10-24 16:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk with your girlfriend and let her know your frustration. Cheating is cheating, no matter the sex. She may be attracted to both males and females, but that doesn't make it any different. You may want to approach it as how she would like it if you made out with a girl that you are attracted to. Same thing, really.
2007-10-24 16:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by PsychPrincess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating, regardless of gender, and she knows it. I would take that as an insult; it's as if she thinks your dumb enough to believe that. You've got double trouble. Not only do you have to worry about losing your gf to a guy, but also to a girl! If I were you, I would stick with the straight ones...
2007-10-24 16:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's bi which means that she's attracted to girls and boys. Her statement is that she wouldn't be able to stop herself because she finds girls attractive. What's to stop her when she meets an attractive guy? By her reasoning you can do what you want with other guys.
I say you need to find a real woman who has a brain and at least one loyal bone in her body.
2007-10-24 16:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, your not wrong for feeling this way. Cheating is cheating weather its with a male, female or a damn horse. Would it be cheating if you made out with another guy? YES! It would. And it is her fault if she "cant stop herself".. that ridiculous. You have every right to be po'd!
2007-10-24 16:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by collctor2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not at all
she shouldn't even be doing that!
it's fine to mad but not cause she is bi, because she would be making out with an other girl. And if she brought it up, it prolly means she already did and told you not to mad cause she's gonna tellyou soon. But make sure this isn't a joke either, cuz you never know
2007-10-24 16:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree - even if she is bi, if she find someone else attractive - guy or girl - and acts on this it's totally cheating - being bi is not an excuse for doing the dirty!
2007-10-24 16:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by KiwiChick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋