which she has been doing for at least the past month. I brought her flowers today. I just went to work on day shift and she says she misses me because she is home alone all day. she is disabled so she can't get a job to occupy herself while i'm gone. Would call this cheating?
2007-10-24 16:11:23 · 14 answers · asked by breeze1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She has never met the man in person, he doesn't know she's married and it is taking time away from me. I work all day and she misses me, but when i get home she gets on the phone.
2007-10-24 16:58:21 · update #1
It seems ok to her to talk to someone, but she just asked me who am i talking to on yahoo answers. so if it's not cheating why would object to me talking to someone. even when i'm not.
2007-10-24 19:04:23 · update #2
is she saying sexual things? does she ignore you? does her disability prevent her from going outside? perhaps you should state her disability so then we wuold be able to tell what she can and cant do. if she ignores you then that may be cheating.
2007-10-24 16:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by djmixah7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
may be she need,s some thing,may be more from you,you just went to work on day,s,she might feel alone and need some to talk to,some time,s we cant tell our felling to pur guy,but we can with outher,s,she might not be doing any thing wrond, gave her a little time,let her know you love her,do thing,s around the house,she will see and that might help to,just keep knowing lrting her that she is the love of your life,and would do anythingfor her,,,,,,,,,,,,mary_ellen22000@yahoo.com
2007-10-24 23:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by mary_ellen22000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is just talking to a friend from her home state then I don't think that is cheating. She is just on the phone. If she was having sexual relations then that would be a different story.
2007-10-24 23:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Madison 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is a lil detached emotionally and trying to find things to keep herself alive.
I think, you need to talk to her and try and understand her needs. I dont think that she is in an easy spot herself.
You should talk to each other honestly and try and understand each other's needs.
With a lil better understanding and maturity in the situation, you both can do a much better job with the marriage.
Keep getting her the flowers. I think she needs a moral boost.
Help her try and build her self esteem and find her things to do where she feels love and respected.
A good communication and lots of respect and trust will make things really better for the two of you.
Continue to show your love and respect for her. She will value and cherish that.
2007-10-24 23:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Romi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to know this bothers you........try talking to her and let her know how you feel about her conversating with another man! If she's not hiding it from you; chances are, she's telling you the truth and just needs a friend to talk to! Does she have female friends? Try reversing the situation and ask her how this would make her feel! Good Luck & Best wishes!
2007-10-24 23:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by shelly_mo67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking on the phone is not cheating. Cheating is in the hearts of cheaters with intent.
Good luck.
2007-10-24 23:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Pleeaasseee!!!!!!
Is she having phone sex??? My gosh, are you just jealous that she is talking to someone else? Have you asked her not to talk to him? Obviously, she isn't hiding this from you since you know she is talking to him....
She said she misses you and she is at home alone all day. That doesn't sound like she wants someone else. You sound paranoid.
2007-10-24 23:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by char the brat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the relationship with the "man from her home state". Do you know him or know who he is?
She shouldn't be talking to other men unless you've met him before. Did this guy not go to your wedding, etc?
2007-10-24 23:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what they are talking about, or what type of agreement you have with eachother. I would just confront her on how your feeling, the only way anything is going to be taken care of. Or ask her so what did he have to say.... ask her questions about it and hopefully she will be open and honest with you and maybe its nothing, but the only way to find out is ask!
2007-10-24 23:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by kmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating unless she's talking about sex. It could be bad for your relationship, still not cheating because cheating needs to be sexual, if she is ignoring you for him.
2007-10-24 23:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋