My very best friend and I are musicians. We met six years ago. We live in different states now, and I'm going to community college. My family is in dire straits financially, and I have to help as much as I can. Chances are, if we pull through, things will work out for them.
I want to do music as a career with a passion that is not present anywhere else in my life. I cannot be a "working class hero". I've tasted it and it frightens me. But my parents want me to get a degree in case I fail at my aspirations, which, while having good motives on their part, leaves me with even less confidence for my future.
I have a chance to move to where he lives, and pursue my dream before I'm old. If I do, I will be met with no end of trouble by my family. And as much as I wish to help them, at what point do I have to decide where my future and theirs split?
I know this is a hard question, and may seem quite self-centered. Please think before you answer...no "hate" comments, please. :D
2007-10-24 16:05:30 · 9 answers · asked by KurtR 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way, I'm twenty. I've been playing since I was 14. I play several instruments, compose, and sing.
2007-10-24 16:16:50 · update #1
How old are you? That matters in my response.
Assuming you are old enough to make adult decisions, I would say go for it. Follow your dream and your heart. Just make sure you are being honest with yourself and you are living in reality.
Good luck.
2007-10-24 16:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gather from your question that you are in the States, and I do not know what the opportunities are there for you if you wanted to back into education to get your degree later in life. If you were my child, I would want you to do your degree whilst you are young. It's not so easy later in life when you have responsibilities. I am sure there will be opportunities to play your music at gigs while at College, and you would be gaining experience in the music business. At 20, you have a lot of time to pursue your dream when you have graduated. Bear in mind your parents want what is best for you long-term, and I'm sure they will struggle through, whatever you decide. Good luck.
2007-10-25 00:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by steffi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm this is something that has happened to lots of people. Persue your dreams or secure a career.
No one can really help you with this question. Every one has to face it in thier lives chase a dream or get a career.
But your familys situation adds a complexity to it.
Well look at it this way. they raised you through your childhood up untill this point im assuming. So do what you can to help them get situated then persue your dream. If you can combine them all that will be good. Like move witht your friend and persue your music dreams but try to go to college at the same time consider online classes.
2007-10-24 16:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mr.Gemini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your instincts, think quietly and listen to your inner self. If you want something real bad, you will succeed. One analogy for you: making choices is like going into the grocery store ... lot's to pick from, but them you have to pay at the register. There is a lot to gain from sticking with your passion; a fulfillment you will not arrive at by taking the safest path to somewhat mitigate your family situation. Music was my passion.... I still know it is what I could have done best had I embraced it fully and early on in life. A community college won't get you much more money than you could make playing gigs.... could you study music in college and still obtain a degree? Best of luck!
2007-10-24 16:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Vendetta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents raise their kids to be independent, not to be dependent on. That is the reality. We take care of them because they took care of us, my father in law lives with us...four kids, dogs, etc..it is very trying...but we do it because we feel that it is right. If your parents are in dire straits, the question is why??? irresponsible spending habits or just a turn of bad luck, like losing a job? Your life can wait, but for a limited amount of time. Maybe, six months to help them get back on their feet, then your turn to go forward with your life. They should understand this without guiliting you into staying supporting them. I know it is difficult. I moved back in to take care of my dad when I was 18, I had left when I was 15...so I do know what you are saying, and yes, it is a hard call. Good luck.
2007-10-24 16:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Kiki B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you give up what you like to do, you will regret for the rest of your life, if you leave your family now, it will take some time to everyone to settle but eventually they will be glad and happy for you if you are happy, also as a musician, even if you don't become famous and make a living as a singer, you can still give class on the subject and make a living too, you don't have to endure to study/work things you hate.
2007-10-24 16:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your need to want to help your family out, but they are supposed to raise you not you raise them. I say follow your dream, if your lucky enough to make then you could really help your family. You need to follow your heart do what it tells you and you can't go wrong.
2007-10-24 16:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by dcdaniel1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone in their 30's that didn't go to college: go to college. ESPECIALLY if someone else is paying for it. Don't blow that.
Go part time and/or play gigs at nights and weekends. Compromise.
2007-10-24 16:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have kids of your own that you need to take care of, YOu HAVE to go for it!! If you were my kid, I would kick you in the but% if I had to . Go for it, If you fail, community college isnt going anywhere . Its your life, live it . good-luck.:)
2007-10-25 04:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋