Help, I'm confused about my sexuality, what am I?

Question

I'm only 15...but it's been bugging me. I can find both sexes good looking. I find women better to look at though. But I don't have a sexual desire for either one. Like I said I can find both sexes nice to look at and attractive, but not a sexual desire for either. I can fall in love emotionally with a women, but not a man.

I guess I could be better off this way. It will probably change. People seem so caught up in sex and relationships and could be doing other things in life.

Some people think I'm "gay" because I am not as masculine as a lot of other people (but still not really feminine), and a lot of friends are girls. But that word's thrown around a lot.

Answer 1

Well you may be bisexual..take it easy..it sounds like your stressing about it...dont...you will figure everything out as you get older..also i wouldnt be going around telling ppl stuff (if you are) they will only fill your head with crap and cause you more stress....

Answer 2

You might be asexual. Some people have less of a sex drive than others. Women are sensual symbols in our society, so it's understandable that you find women more attractive than men. (I'm heterosexual and I find women easier on the eyes than men - I think most people, even gay men, do.)

Don't worry about your sexual orientation - it's possible that you might not really come to terms with it for another ten years. Just remember that you're free to do whatever you want, and you may not ever be that into sex. You're absolutely right, if people weren't caught up in relationships, many of them would be much more productive and wealthier! Unless your heart is 100% into the relationship, to the point where you can't imagine living without the person, there's really no point in wasting the time and energy on it.
Good luck and take care.

Answer 3

Don't worry, babe. You've got plenty of time to figure it out. Eventually, male or female, you're going to experience feelings for someone that will be undeniable and I guess that will give you a clue. I have a really good female friend who dated guys for a long time before she realized that she was actually gay. I think that you're really smart not getting involved with people when you're not sure what you want. You are ABSOLUTELY right that people your age get way too caught up in sex and relationships when there is so much more in life they can be doing. I only wish I had had your wisdom when I was 15!! Good luck but you seem like you have a really good head on your shoulders so you probably won't need it!

Answer 4

I think at 15 you shouldn't be thinking sexually about anyone anyway so this is not the issue and the fact you think women are more attractive than men is great which means you are straight. You want to fall in love with women but at so young, you wont just yet. You are not very masculine because your parents are probably petite, this doesn't make you gay, neither does having a lot of girlfriends, you may be popular with them, that is all. I think you need time to grow up firstly before trying to decide if you are gay. I am female and love men (my boyfriend especially) but find some women extremely attractive, does not make me a lesbian. dont think too much about it now.

Answer 5

U have a lot of growing up todo.. don't hurry, soon you will find someone attractive enough to help u determine which of the sexes u prefer. U are aware that the normal thing is boy meets girl or girl meets boy but at this present age, the world is rapidly changing. Boys meet boys they like and same thing wd the girls. This is really in ur hands, who would u rather be and stay connected with? U don't need to rush, things will just come ur way in the most unexpected places..Be good.

Answer 6

Honey, you are young. Some teenagers develop later and that goes for both sexes. Just because some of your peers are already interested in sex, it does not mean you should be too. My cousin did not have her period till she was 16 and she is perfectly normal and quite attractive. Also some people have more sex drive than others and it partly depends on your hormones. Being a teenager is hard, but try to enjoy this time before you have to take up the responsibility of being an adult.

Answer 7

You are gay if you are sexually attracted to men. You are straight when you are sexually attracted to women. You are bi when you are sexually attracted to both men and women. Since you are just 15, you have some maturing to do and that's good for you. If you want to wear a label, call yourself a late bloomer.

A lot of men are not cave men. That is okay. There is a place on this planet for all people. Just live your life and be true to yourself. Don't see yourself through the eyes of your ignorant peers.

Answer 8

Look at it this way, you can look at a car and say "Hey, that's one sweet lookin' ride!"
but that doesn't necessarily mean that you want to drive it. You brain works in automatic and the car is a stick so you're not sticking around for the trial.

Anyway, anyone can find something attractive. I find chain mail attractive ,but that doesn't mean I will find the person in chain mail attractive, but if you haven't found yourself feeling anything for either gender then maybe you just haven't found the right person. In reality you're blowing this thing out of proportion. Nothing of this sort matters until you set your eye on someone in particular and since you haven't there's no way to make a real judgement on your sexuality.

Answer 9

You could possibly be bisexual; that is, attracted to both sexes. However, I think right now you're a little confused. At 15, you're still at an age of self-discovery, of trying to find yourself and who you are. As you mature, your sexuality will also reach full development, and become more stable. For now, just concentrate on making friends and having a good time. Good luck!

Answer 10

i dont think a sexual desire is important at your age....at that age i never felt sexual at all(i dont think you should). you do sound a bit feminine in the fact that you admit both sexes are nice to look at and attractive. i think sex is overrated totally....emitional love is everything!!!
(i think you are as straight as they come, just perhaps influenced by society)
you just said something, "people seem so caught up in sex and relationships and could be doing other things in life".
that is so very profound...most people do get that realization until they are much older.
my advice is to live your life...dont give a second thought to what others are doing, or what they think!

Answer 11

ignore all of those who have answered you hatefully. I am a bisexual woman, and no it does not mean you're gay, or even bisexual for that matter. This is a time when your hormones fluxuate and can be very confusing. Because you are so young you may believe that you're falling "in love" but later in life you will know weather you truely are. Don't be concerned on weather or not you're gay bi or straight. you're young have fun and enjoy life. as you get older you will settle with the sex you're most happy with, and to remember always be happy with yourself.