Why is it that you can love someone so much, but in the end all they end up doing is betraying you?
2007-10-24 15:56:24 · 16 answers · asked by Dreamer984 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Well, I think the best way I know how to answer this is from experience. Guys tend to be more scared/skiddish in relationships and when something scares them, they run away. Some think that if you get married your life is over. Or, they feel they need to check out every fish in the sea to see what's out there. (This is for women too,not just men). Some dont mean to betray you, that's just how it happens. They don't realize how mean they were until after the fact. And the sad part, some do it just for the thrill of the game. If the relationship doesn't feel 100%, it's probably not going to work out. Just look for the warning signs. They are pretty obvious once you think about it.
2007-10-24 16:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me rephrase your question for better analysis.
"You can love someone so much."
"All they end up doing, is betraying you"
"Why is it so?"
If you can love someone so much, why are you worried about they betraying you.? So was your love, thinking that they would not betray you? Was non betrayal a condition to your love? Can love be conditional? Or is love unconditional? Or what you were giving was not love at all, or else why would they betray you?
May be you loved those who would have betrayed only. Or was it a misinterpretation of yours that they betrayed? Was it that you were not able to read the signals they gave correctly?
In the light of the above, is is possible that you are searching an answer for a non-existent question?
2007-10-25 00:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not very well definied.
There is the Love of being in Love. This can overtake two people and grow. You feel that he loves you, so you send off I love you vibes and the next thing you know you are saying ILU every 5 mins. Probably just to reassure your own questioning logic centers. Eventually on has to say it when they don't exactlly feel it and it comes down like a stack of cards.
There is Love and attraction based on procreations needs. I meant to say LUST. Two people can lust over each other for a time and then one decides that there was no substantial connection besides lust. Then a true connection comes to one person and they see what they were missing.
The only true and lasting love is agape love. You should have this for every person on the planet. With your mate it is usually a late derivation of Lust, or Love for Loves sake. At this point you are comforable secure and looking out for the other persons best interest as well as your own. However this is with love of the person as they are.
BETRAYAL, that is a hard word. If you were only feeding the flame of his desire to be loved and not really all the way to agape then you were selling him short and it is his realization that you just wanted him to pump up you ego and went looking for someone a little less needy.
2007-10-24 23:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by Asclepius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is because the choice of who you went out with and fell in love with is flawed in some way. those who choose wisely, and I agree that there is not enough of them, have happy marriages and never betray each other. the greatest example of this, and I suppose the greatest love story, is Charlie Chaplin who was 54 years old when he married Oona O'Neal, 18 years old. they were married for over 34 years until his death in1977 and she never even dated again because of the love they shared and in fact became an alcoholic after his death because she couldn't stand life without him, the only sad part of that story.
If the choice of who to go out with and who to fall in love with is good, the marriage will be good as well but if the choice is bad, betryal often follows.
2007-10-25 01:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all things travel in the path of leased resistance, if you want to know why, apply that what they did, they could of did with no less resistance. In their own mind they have an idea of what is easy and what is hard, so they go for what is most easy (the path of least resistance)
The thing is with that concept, is that if you truely find the answer to why they did what they did, you will feel no ill will towards them, cause to expect them to do anything exept travel in the path of least resistence is extremely selfish
2007-10-25 01:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find out, let me know. My mate of 16 years lied to me for years in various ways and then died after telling lies about me to other people to include his family. They were hot to inherit from him and didn't care what they had to do to get rid of me. In the end, I was asked to not attend the memorial and to not ask for anything from our houses or his estate. Starting all over in middle age sux.
2007-10-24 23:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Opportunism.
2007-10-25 03:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Freddon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are very selfish. You have to go for someone who loves you more and themselves less. This might be why....
2007-10-24 23:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by savahna5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the way the world works.
2007-10-24 22:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by Al G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the way it is and i think that's what makes only ONE love so special that lasts forever.
2007-10-24 23:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by Neda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋