Im in love with my husband but he feels like im not good enough for him.?

Question

I want to talk to him he have nothing to say.He feels like I dont have upclass conversation.When we met we use to talk for hours know it like its blank.He not even attrated to me sexually.The only thing he do is complain about everything.He talks to his family more than he talks to me.I cook ,clean, work and take care of the kids and still no love or respect.The good thing is he comes home every night, but some time I wish we can go back in time.

Answer 1

my suggestion to you is that you get a book called "love must be tough by dr james dobson" I think your man still loves you, he just needs some excitement- do something unpredctable- like ignore him- i know it sounds odd but it gets them everytime. What you and him have to realize is that before there was a him and you- there was just you........Find yourself, love your self, stop being so concerned about what he thinks about you- tell yourself you're the sh*t and he's lucky to have you and believe it. Walk around the house like "you dat b*tch and" and aint nobody else got nothin on you - men love confidence, even of you don't feel that way act like it anyway and soon he's going to be wondering how can HE please YOU. Yeah baby, he loves you- you just gotta show him that you IT and that HE'S the lucky one. it will be difficult but from this point on be cordial- not nice, not upset- more bored and preoccupied, stop chasing him and breaking your back trying to please him- let him do the persuing. Still do all the things a woman is sapose to do- but cut out all the talking. And when he asks you whats up give him some generic reply like- nothing I'm just tired- or better yet don[t say anything at all - casually shrug your shoulders and walk away as if theres something you gotta take care of in another room- My husband was like that until I did everything I'm telling you- now he sweats me and I'm the one like ***** please.......The reason why is because I realized I'm worth wanting and I'm acting that way- not arrogant , just happy and confident. confidence is sexy, puppy eyes, needyness, and depression is not. Girl let that man know that you the ace B I up in there but don't tell him - show him. Get your hair done, nails done, toes done and work it!

Answer 2

I know things get a bit crazy when kids come along and you really have to work on your relationship during those years. For instance, how about a weekly date night? Even if you just put the kids to bed early and cook a nice romantic dinner for the two of you. On a personal level you could keep yourself informed of current affairs and keep up your reading so that you do have things to say when you are together. A night school class could be a good idea too and you will appreciate the break.

Answer 3

i sometimes have the same problem but it comes and it goes i think it is a me thing because im overwieght not huge just overwieght. But he dont complain about that he does complain if i mention diet, so im not sure about it. Let me ask you and im not insulting you, but do you still fix yourself up or have you kida resoted to sweat pants and tee shirts? Maybe try fixing your hair diffrent and dressing in a skirt if u got the body for it. if that dont work get rid of the kids for a weekend and rent a cottage somewhere then sit him down and nicely say i miss you whats wrong i miss us, see what kind of reaction you get- he might just be really stressed- or there might be someone else- hope this helps

Answer 4

It almost sounds like he might be cheating. When a husband becomes distance for no reason, there is something taking him away from his family. Trust me. I have gone down this road. He sounds like what I went through. Is there someone at his work that might have grabbed his attention? I would say counseling, but it didnt work for me. I just realized how important my family was and started doing more of the small things. I would say that he has gotten bored of his marriage. Act now before its to late.

Answer 5

Go on strike. Stop doing the cooking and cleaning. I find that when a man has nothing to eat and no clean underwear they change their attitude real fast. Don't let him treat you like a second class citizen. He courted you and treated you good once......let him know he better start treating you better or he can find his way to the door. If he likes being around and talking to his family so much tell him to go sleep with them next time. Sorry I sound so bitter, but I hate when men treat women this way. Good luck.

Answer 6

Ever heard of the 5 love languages? Book I just read. Sometimes people give a different "language" when they're dating and then after marriage, it stops. The languages are: notes or compliments (words), acts of service, physical touch, quality time, and gifts. Does he FEEL like you love him? Figure out whichever language he feels love with and alter accordingly.

But, I'm a loon on a computer. Marriage counseling would probably help more. I wish you luck!

Answer 7

Use to, Use to, Use to. Welcome to married life my dear and with kids too. My husband use to open doors for me -- please that went out the window the day after we got married. We use to talk for hours too but now the computer does the talking to him and yep he comes home every night at the same time too. I cook, clean, wash dishes, cut the grass and do house maintenance too while he does nothing. Unfortunately, I think I may have trained him that way because I have been doing these things from when we first got married and so that is what he is used to -- me doing everything!

Answer 8

He doesn't love you.
He doesn't respect you.
He doesn't make you feel good about yourself.
He doesn't talk to you.

You cook.
You clean.
You work.
You take care of the kids.
You love him.

You know what this sounds like to me? It sounds like HE isn't good enough for YOU.

Have some respect for yourself and get a divorce. Do it for your kids too! You don't want your children to learn from him how to treat a woman, or how a woman should be treated.

You are a caring and loving wife, and you deserve better. Do you know that? If you don't, you should.

Leave him.

Answer 9

I honestly believe some people fall out of love. Hes not trying to save your relationship so why are you. You are going to use all of your time and energy on that, kids, and work. You are going to get tired quick. Is it possible someone else has gotten his attention? You can try doing things out of the ordinary or spontaneous as long as its respectful and you honestly are ok with it. This includes sexually.

Answer 10

I would say, just take a vacation leaving him alone at home with the kids to tend to, and when you are on vacation make sure you only call him once every day.