Do you think a woman should have her own life built up to a peak before ....?

Question

she considers serious relationships?
I'm not talking about just an education and/or career but a well rounded whole i.e everything from being a gourmet cook to learning spanish or whatever each woman's ambitions may be.

Katiana: Very interesting take! How does one know if they are at that point though?

Answer 1

In my opinion, based on what you've mentioned, being a gourmet cook, learning a language, or any other ambition that is external... no, I don't think it really matters, as she can acquire these within a relationship, as well as, outside of one.

However, I do think it would be emotionally and mentally beneficial for both her and her partner, if she was defined as a person, in touch with her own mind, character and body... before attempting to share herself with someone else, as most partners don't enjoy having to be a constant shrink or parental figure in a relationship, but appreciate having someone who has much to offer as an individual.

What do you think?

Edit: That's the tricky part. To me, independence is a significant part of that, being able to rely on yourself and content with who you are and what you have...that being said, it doesn't mean that there isn't room for improvement in one's life, no one is perfect. I'll use myself as an example, I'm content with my mind, character and body, but also recognise that there are areas of myself that need improvement and/or change, am taking the steps that I believe will help me obtain what I wish to, of myself.
Not saying that this is how other women should or should not come to terms with who they are, but rather, a way to demonstrate that one can be independent and satisfied, yet still in need of tweaking, he he. :-)

Answer 2

Not necessarily, you can achieve those things while in a relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years now and I've done a lot of growing up and changing during those years. I think it's been going having him there through all of it, though I do want to be a bit more established before I get married, so go figure?? He has his career and I want to wait just a little longer until mine is off to a good start too.

Answer 3

Never peak.
No matter how good you get at something, there are many ways to enjoy and or improve on "it".
As for relationships, most people want one, and it shouldn't be something you consider as an alternative to a life. All people have the ability to live every part of their lives as a whole, but most people seem to be more inclined to act as if they can't.
It's not an either - or thing. Children do make people have to make certain considerations in career choices but even that can be part of the challenge and spice of your whole life.
Women are supposed to have the total package too, so live and be happy.
~Sláinte~

Answer 4

no, I don't think so, provided she's with a guy that encourages and helps direct her growth. (see my answer to "taker" question).
Life is a journey, and not a destination. I wrote down a list of things to do before I die, and I'll have some un done I'm sure, but it is the seeking, pursuing, and the endeavor that is worth while, and the accomplishment is the testimony to the journey taken. There is much to be said about helping each other grow.... it fosters an intimacy that others cannot touch.

Answer 5

I think she should be able to survive on her own. You never know what is going to happen divorce or death. You don't need to be a gourmet cook I think some ambitions are better with the one you love achieve them together like traveling.

Answer 6

There's no definitive answer to this question. Life is a constant process of growing, learning and changing. Sometimes you walk that path alone, sometimes you walk it with a friend, sometimes a lover, sometimes with a family member. But you're always walking it. You never stop learning things. You never stop editing your life. Never. Until you're dead.

How sad to think that anyone has only one peak in their life. I myself have had several.

Answer 7

Well part of her ambitions may to have a relationship, so no. She can have a relationship with out achieving any of her other goals.

Answer 8

I think the most important thing is that a woman is happy with herself and where she is before she is married.
happiness has nothing to do with finding the right man, career, education or accomplishment but being comfortable with who you are and where you are.

Answer 9

Well, a knowledge of one's self is a very high requirement. Another thing to do is to never bring extra baggage into a relationship, cause you do means trouble and, or it's doomed from the get go.

Answer 10

not necessarily but she should only get into a relationship with someone who will support her in her attempts to learn to do those things whether it is job, career, or a new language and perhaps have goals of his own and not want to dominate her.