i judt found out 5 hours ago i'm pregnant. First person i call is my husband...who i left 3 weeks ago...due to him being an asshole.....the thing is.....hes not exactly a good person...and though i told him...i regret it...what do i do?
2007-10-24 15:11:40 · 8 answers · asked by diva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, nothing you can do to take it back. If you all are not together anymore then you will be a single parent. He can't move back in if you don't let him. Woman do it all the time I am sure you can also....good luck
2007-10-24 15:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question only you can answer. There are a number of considerations as well as religious beliefs, family, and your economic situation that may influence your decision.
There are a lot of single moms out there who do just fine, if not better without a man in the picture. They seem to find time to care for the baby, have a career, go to school, keep house, and some of them even date and find a nice guy. (believe it or not there are still a few of us out here looking to find a great woman). They have normal, happy, healthy babies who grow up to be well adjusted adults.
Having a two parent family is less and less the norm lately. Which is unfortunate, but if the partner is abusive, drug user, alcoholic, or a myriad of other problems, then it's best for the baby not to have to grow up in that situation.
There are two other options available to you, 1- have the baby and give it up for adoption or 2- have an abortion. Either of these choices have repercussion's or religious implications that you may not want to consider them. But they are there none-the-less.
If you elect to keep the baby, be happy, pregnancy is a wonderful time of life for a woman. Bringing a new life into the world is a special gift many women would love to have and be able to do but can't.
2007-10-24 22:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At a time that is suppose to be joyful you two need to put your problems aside and talk about what will happen to this baby.
Will you have it or not? Which I hope you will. Is the father going to be in its life? The father will most definitely have to support it.
You will need to decide yourself if you have the means to support a new born baby. Do you work? Or will you have to take time off from work? There is just alot of questions the two of you need to work out until this newborn grows up.
There is a life at stake here. Are you two going to make the best choices for this life?
God Bless
2007-10-24 22:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are totally convinced that your marriage is over the first thing you have to do is realistically evaluate your situation concerning the child. Are you financially and emotionally ready to raise a child as a single parent?If that answer is no than you are going to have to make some heart breaking decisions.Remember the only priority is the welfare of your future child.Good luck,be strong.
2007-10-24 22:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had a right to know. And now you need to get on with your life and see what happens. You cant force him into being a dad good or bad. Just make your plans for the new baby and dont worry about him. all you can do
2007-10-24 22:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you are in this situation, but if you tell him it isn't his then you cannot collect child support (which I don't know how important that is to you), but if you tell him, then you sound like you have a mess on your heads. Try and do something legally to avoid any problems. Again, sorry, and good luck.
2007-10-24 22:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get ready to have a beautiful baby!! The father will be responsible for his child(so says the laws). good luck & enjoy!!
2007-10-24 22:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and have the baby and get as much child support as possible.
2007-10-24 22:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋