When you've stayed at almost 20 DV shelters, ran across country for almost 3 1/2 years, called the police, get a temporary protective order (it's now expired), get jobs, get fired (multiply because of him), end up pregnant and homeless with no way to live.
And I never married him.
You've tried every resource you could to get help (even for survival), and you are refused help.
2007-10-24 14:47:01 · 25 answers · asked by Tanya S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm pregnant by another man I used to date months ago. He/she's not my abuser's baby.
2007-10-25 10:51:04 · update #1
You never married him. Excellent. Now get the hell away from him.
2007-10-24 14:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the folks on here have given you some good answers for your desperate situation; however, forget hiring a hit man. That's bad advice, because it can backfire on you, and you could end up in prison for many years. A better choice would be to enter some kind of witness protection program, change your identity and your appearance, and also that of your child. I like the one who suggested finding a bigger and meaner man -- but not mean to you. There are resources for battered women, and other help available. And it's free. You don't have to live like a fugitive the rest of your life, because you haven't done anything wrong. Eventually, you will find the help you need. I don't understand why you were refused assistance. Keep trying. You deserve much better, and so does your baby. Good luck! I will keep you in my prayers.
2007-10-24 22:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok hun, you have been running for so long you done lost your sense.
You would be better with 3 squares and a cot. At least you can get your degree while your in there.
Number one. Go take Martial Arts.
2. Get a Tazer
3. Get a gun
4. Duct tape
5. Foldable shovel and some flares.
6. Funnel.
7. Rubber Gloves
8. Rat poison.
Next time he approaches you or hurts you, you are going to have to pull out your gun and shoot him before he gets ahold of you. Make sure its from the front. If he gets back up tazer him, if he dosent get up then you need to duct tape him and get him to a second location. That is where NOBODY deserves to go through this over and over. You tape his mouth shut and you then pull his pants down exposing his fanny put on rubber gloves, get funnel and shove into guys butthole and pour in rat poison...goes into the blood stream quicker more effective. Watch die. Bury or burn place with flares...yes can be traced but your allready all screwed up so 3 squares and a cot should be all you need. You dont have to do this, but I amsure just the thought is helping your self confidence allreadyl. Take Care
2007-10-24 22:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
domestic violence is a tough situation to overcome.
I'm curious as to what happened during the 20 domestic violence shelter incidents - did he find you there or what? the one we have here isn't allowed to let anyone know who is there. I even work for a social work agency and they don't tell me who is there - if I have a client who is staying there I leave a message and they say "If so and so is here, we'll see she gets the message."
Can't you go back to court and extend the protection order?
does the court house where you live have some kind of victim's assistance office?
what type of resources are you looking for and why have you been refused?
2007-10-24 21:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Cinnamon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have to look at changing yourself first. The statistics tell us the abused woman will return to the abuser almost invariably. So you have returned to him from all these shelters, made a baby, and now you want him to believe that you don't want him anymore.?
In your question you place all the blame on him, what is your part in this?
Please don't misunderstand, I have great sympathy for you, but I am a believer that some people feel so sorry for themselves, that there isn't room for others to feel sorry. What I mean is that some people seem to delight in getting sympathy. I am not saying that your case is like that, and I will pray for you, but you have to make a decision and stick with it.
2007-10-24 21:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by meowqueen1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and watch these two movies:
Enough (Jennifer Lopez)
Sleeping With the Enemy (Julia Roberts)
Why do you keep going back to the guy? I hope you don't think that's love. Are there children involved? Have you ever tried moving out of town? Or, get you a NEW boyfriend who will seriously kick his a**! Most cowards who beat women will never stand up to a man. Dude needs to come up missing. (yeah, I know, I watch too many movies...) But still...
2007-10-24 21:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mama Nuveau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get away from him. Where are your family member or friends or did he keep you away from them. It is really sad when men act like this i really don't understand. My topic for my informative speech in Public Speaking class was Domestic Violence. Read this poem. it stood out to me. I used it as an attention getter.
Flowers
I got flowers today. It wasn't my
birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night,
and he said a lot of cruel things
that really hurt me.
I know he is sorry and didn't
mean the things he said
because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. It wasn't our
anniversary or any other special day.
Last night, he threw me into a wall
and started to choke me.
It seemed like a nightmare.
I couldn't believe it was real.
I woke up this morning sore and
bruised all over.
I know he must be sorry
because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today, and it wasn't
Mother's Day or any special day.
Last night, he beat me up again.
And it was much worse than all
the other times.
If I leave him, what will he do?
How will he take care of my kids?
What about money?
I'm afraid of him and scared to leave.
But I know he must be sorry
because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today.Today was av very special day.
It was the day of my funeral.
Last night, he finally killed me.
He beat me to death.
If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to
leave him,
I would not have gotten flowers today.
2007-10-24 22:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by classy sophomore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the state you live in doesn't have concealed carry laws, move to a state that does. Take the classes, do the training, and get a concealed carry license. Purchase a firearm, learn how to use it, and keep it with you at all times. You have to protect yourself and your children.
2007-10-24 21:51:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope you mean that the pregnancy came beore the violence because otherwise i'd have to say you keep stringing the guy along, thats the reason he won't give up and go away.
if its the other way around if you have a child by him you will NEVER be rid of him unless he goes to jail or stops breathing...
One thing that worked for my sister in law in a similar situation....she married a guy that was bigger and meaner that her tormenter, needless to say she hasn't heard from him in years ;o) lots o luck!
2007-10-24 21:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by dixie_n_pixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i don't know about the pregnant thing but i don't really get it but i'm gonna assume he's like chasing after you right so like the other guy said- church is a really good place you know you;re always with people so technically you're protected & if anything you have witnesses and wellfare and stuff should help you out finacially...good luck
2007-10-24 21:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by slavka123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your name, cut and dye your hair, and move to a far away country. Borrow money from friends or family to do so if you have to. Let the authorities there know what's going on. Learn how to shoot a gun, and carry it with you.
2007-10-24 22:35:43 · answer #11 · answered by pisceswoman87 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋