has 2 weeks coming up. He asked that as a coming home gift that I should invite another woman over to let him watch us have sex. We have been together 3 years.
I guess it really bothered me that he asked, ESPECIALLY since given our circumstances. On your two week break you want a 3some? Couldn't it have been after he is home from being deployed? Or even a few months after he is home.
I'm deeply insulted, very disappointed, and I think I feel different today about him.
What do I say or do? Now, I don't even want to see him when he is back on break. I just think it was unacceptable for him to ask I share this brief time with him with anyone else.
Or am I over reacting, and should I just indulge his fantasy? But I think I'm pretty sure I've been insulted. I need advice before he notices Im not answering his emails. I just want to send a photo of my middle finger, but I must be good during deployment.
Advice Please????
2007-10-24 14:36:45 · 12 answers · asked by bosom2bosom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not indulge in his fantasy. Where is he touring? If he just gotten back from Iraq, I would ignore anything that comes out of his mouth that is out of character from him. That is a brutalizing experience ( My husband is in the military also) and they are really not themselves. Dont hate him, but if he really has changed then tell him that you are not into that sort of thing ( never indulge on a fantasy to please a man. NOT worth it, now if you are into that, go for it but it sounds to me that you are not.) Just reevaluate the situation when he comes back. Three years is a pretty long time to be dating someone, I wouldn't just throw it away over him being a dumb man with dumb comments.
2007-10-24 14:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a kinky partner. I suppose you don't share the same interest with him. It will be best according to my opinion to inform him about your feelings toward his request, nicely. Not an email but a call is most advisable to get the message sent as you intended. Let him know that you felt insulted being asked or requested to share that most awaited day of his break with you with someone else. You can also add that maybe you can do such kinky fantasy when he comes back from his tour, for good. That is if you are interested in doing it then. Also, answer his emails so he can concentrate on his job better.
2007-10-24 21:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by Baby Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oops. He should not have done that. I expect that his lonesomeness has resulted in him reading/looking at a lot of porn, that has caused him to fantasize a lot. By all means DO NOT sent him such a photo.
You might reply that you only want HIM while he is home and that you are not interested in anyone else, male or female.
2007-10-24 21:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by plezurgui 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
military spouse here as well....iraq or not, this is just disturbing. i know soldiers experience terrible situations over there, but what does that have to do with wanting threesomes? thats not an excuse at no point. i can totally understand that you are insulted by this and that you dont want to spend his R&R with him. i dont know what kind of things he got going on over there, but i know some soldiers get out of hand during their deployment as far as sexual experiences.
2007-10-24 22:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by not this way 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a female in the military ive seen allot of guys that are suppose to be in "realationships" but as soon as they let the lines off (untie the boat to the pier) the saying what happens in a foregin port stays in a foreign port. what im saying is this. Males are influenced by what others say and we fortuatly get this freedome that no one eles gets, we go where we want do what we want and "groupies" as i like to call them flaut to this kind of trait. unfortuanalty allot of males forget to grasp the porpose of a relationship it could be just a thing but never the less you should never allow yourself to be little yourself by allowing someone eles to come into your relationship, hear me when i say this its YOUR relationship not some radome person. thats just sick dont get involved its only going to hurt you in the long run. never ever lower your standards for someone eles its just not worth it. take care
2007-10-24 21:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by shimmer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Insulted is right, you were. (What if that email got redirected)
He could of waited till he got home and asked if you would.
If your not in to that kind of stuff if you fell uncomfortable of doing it I wouldn't do it. If the place your living is yours not his that picture would be a good thing.
2007-10-24 21:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he shoudl have kepy it to himself untillater. But he's horomones are goign out of wack with out a woman. SO forgive the poor idiot and just don't listen to him and enjoy his 2 weeks with him adn if he asks again just leave and give him the finger. And if you need to chat just IM me anytime
2007-10-24 21:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are over reacting at all. Honestly if I was not married I would get rid of him, if I was there would be a lot of serious talking to do.
2007-10-24 21:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, i wouldnt be too insulted. its more mind candy than anything else. you see, as veteran of the army AND navy, if you are out in field for a long period of time, you HAVE to get your "rocks" off. you better be glad he is asking you to do this favor for him, he could find someone else who would be willing. just be glad that you are the one he wants to see being pleasured.
2007-10-24 21:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by unidentified female 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps he knows you wouldn't go for this. and its his way of having you break up with him. so he doesn't have to do the dirty work. if he pisses you off enough. you'll tell him to take a hike perhaps thats what he's betting on.
2007-10-24 21:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋