Why do so many people think that a woman who is successful in her career would be "high risk"?

Question

I would think that a mature woman, or one who is ready for a serious relationship with a man who is also serious ab. her, would be happy to learn to balance her career life with her home life. Are high-powered career women really such a risk? I would think such a woman would be an asset. She would be able to pull her weight and be a true partner to a true partner.

I was married for ten years, and back then I never made my career or graduate studies a priority over my husband. I had a well-balanced life.

If I should ever marry again, my husband would not be neglected. I am very relationship-centered. My career and my creative work reflect that: I am a college English/Speech/Humanities prof. who also writes poetry, performs poetry, and sings.

If my "Mr. Right" ever makes an appearance, we would put our heads and our hearts together, reframe our priorities. and make healthy compromises--as equal partners.

Answer 1

I agree with you. I think if a person is passionate enough to be dedicated to his/her career, he/she can apply the same passionate quality to his/her relationship. Only people who feel insecure, intimidated and not on your level would consider you as "high risk." When they are on the same page and understand your ambitions and have the same options as you do, they see it as normal. So anybody who considers you a "high risk" wouldn't be compatible with you anyway, no loss there :)

EDIT: I agree. I'm very career oriented, but I care as much about my intimate relationships. I believe strongly in taking care of both. Having a career wouldn't stop me from pleasing my man and being there for him---and I know the same is possible for a man. Feeling satisfied with my career would only make me a happier person and when you're happy, you can give more to others too.

Let's look at it this way...would you be able to love your husband more and have a more healthy relationship, if you felt unaccomplished, unsatisfied with your career and ultimately yourself?

Answer 2

Despite what some of the other posters are claiming, both men and women with successful/demanding careers are high risk. That's because such people are more focused on their careers than their families or relationships and those careers will always come first in their lives. Look at all the successful male corporate executives who have been married and divorced several times. They can attract women because of their money and status but then when the women marry them, they find these men aren't good husband material because their wives will never be a high priority in their lives. People have to decide if they really want to marry somebody who can provide them with material wealth but likely will be gone nearly all the time or go for somebody who isn't as career driven but will be home more and make them a higher priority in their lives.

Answer 3

Marriage is a race, a three legged potato sack race. The team that gets to the finish line wins. In my marriage I have been the only breadwinner, the breadwinner who earned the most money, the breadwinner who earned the least money, and the guy in front of the TV while she worked. Each of this four events occured for different and unrelated reasons during our marriage. I am not a jealous person. I don't worry about her having cheated on me. I don't worry that she doesn't love me any more or less. And the issue of salary has never been involved in our marriage. I was glad that she got the promotion she deserved or the raise that was long in coming. It showed me I had chosen wisely and how proud I was of her. During the last 10 years or so, I went from a successful one man business owner, to being totally disabled. We lost our house to forclosure. We moved into a terrible appartment. She lost her job because she had to spend so much time with me. I could not drive anymore and needed rides to the Veterans Administration Hospital. Through all of that she was proud of me and I was proud of her. When our finances were finally put back on the right track with disability pensions, we were able to buy a beter house then the one we lost.

Like I have said before, behind my eyelids she is still that 19 year old girl with long dark hair and deep green eyes I met at a college party. I loved her then and I love her more now. Money, career, grey hair, a few pounds here or there, or the fact that I sleep with a grandmother now never entered my mind. I am positive that I made the right choice then and even more so now. Hang in there, high-powered career women are being more and more the rage. Heck, even HP fired their woman CEO this year for abusing her power. But that act has not affected a woman's chance in the workplace. If your mate to be is so petty as you discribe he might be, you won't bother to get to know him in the first place because he won't be your style. Remember "SMILE"

Answer 4

Some men opinion about a successful woman is inferiority complex, coupled with their daily activities / appointments / engagements. While some men considered them or her to be an asset in the home and pride in his community and beyond.

Based on the above, the right person (compatible) will definitely appear at the right time, am only saying or contributing the views of some men who are not opportune to see this question.

Answer 5

The issue is the same with a man. Here is what your dealing with... If you are successful you never feel like one partner needs the other to exist. Breaking down one of the most important parts of a loving relationship... The basic need to have one in whole. When either party says..." You don't have to do that cause i can get it"..... This is a common flaw in the relationship equation... Which is why a male or female successful in their career is high risk...

Answer 6

You have achieved such great things in your life already, and with you being very successful, not to mention a great artist with your music and poetry talent, I think you would be a true blessing in a man's life. Someone who titles a woman a "high risk", is someone who is threatened of her accomplishments.

You would definitely compliment the opposite gender! :-)

Answer 7

It's hard being a career woman ( I'm one myself) but if you find a high powered and successful man, he will want an equal more than likely. My husband sure did. It is difficult balancing home life with work though, we have a 20 month old and its a huge job, that I get stuck with caring for her most of the time because my husband's career is even more demanding than mine. But dont' get discouraged, he's out there, you will find him :)

Answer 8

The man is more like the provider in a relationship or at least, one that has what it's necessary to fix things when things go wrong specially in the financial aspect. A sucesfull women can only be called sucesfull when the man makes less money, because if you put the same woman next to someone who makes millions and millions, she is not sucesfull in her career. It depends next to who you put her, and yes, it's high risk to put a woman like that next to someone who makes less money, because she will always have the need to have some kind of man that will support her and the family, and she knows she doesn't have it, hence, she will try to avoid it, but in somehow, will keep looking around for that man she needs. The thing is, is she is an abusive person, most likely she will go after a man that makes less, to have control over him, but that's a different issue. In that case, she will be sucesfull and most likely bring her man to live in her home, rent him a room, reduce the mortgage, and to kick him out, it would be easier than turn off the switch of the light of the living room.

Answer 9

high risk as in the relationship would be more likely to fail? Well, perhaps they believe that her focus would still be on her career? It all comes down to priorities. A woman who has a successful career has obviously given her careen priority in her life, but like anything else, you talk about your goals, desires, views on marriage and life....

Answer 10

Quite often people with successful careers get there , and stay there by putting in long hours at work and therefore are not the settle down type, they have a routine and it works for them and they are not apt to change it for a husband or wife.