He doesn't watch it all the time or look at it even.. but It really puts me down because I think that maybe the type of girls that he sees on there .. he would be more attracted to than me. We've been together for awhile .. and It really makes my confidence level very low. It makes me feel like sometimes I'm not good enough for him... what should I do?
2007-10-24 14:27:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
We definitly are very intimate!! He gets the goods! lol .. but this doesnt happen often when he does it .. it just really bothers me.
2007-10-24 14:34:25 · update #1
I've talked to him about it but he says its not like hes thinking of them as if he wants to be with them just that he looks and thats it. He said it doesnt mean anything but it kinda hurts me from my point of veiw....
2007-10-24 14:42:05 · update #2
I'm not into watching a porn video with him.. its not how I am.. but I would rather spice things up in a more physical way.. any advice?
2007-10-24 14:43:05 · update #3
Listen very carefully.
Porn has nothing to do with you. It's living in a fantasy. It's not that you're not attractive to him, it's just sheer sex. For example, maybe you read a romance novel or watch a romantic movie. The hero is hot. You fantasize about him. It's not that you wish your boyfriend actually IS the hero, it just makes for a nice fantasy.
So long as porn doesn't take the place of sex in a relationship, it's a casual thing, realize it's normal. Guys like to see naked women.
You can talk to him about it, how it makes you feel, but it's really not about you for him.
2007-10-24 14:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally porn is something different for men than women. most of the time most guys watch just for the fantasy of this other person or persons having sex. If it takes the place of sex with your partner then it is something else entirely. You said that The sex you have is very good, but if the frequency is down, that doesn't mean it's a problem, It's normal over time to change. If you feel inadequate because of this porn, you shouldn't. Like I said porn isn't real, Men are more visually sexually aroused than women. and you know that what's going on in the porn ain't gonna happen to you. You are the real, the physical, the emotional, and that is very clear in men, and you have everything he needs for real life. I can have thoughts of sex during the day, and it is with a real live woman that i love or loved. I can watch porn and not really remember it that well that because it wasn't real. So if you want to stir something up you could watch it with him and find out what happens, But most guys are not confused about porn it;s visually stimulating, But it's not a substitute for sex if you have a partner. If you don't, it keeps you from going insane.
2007-10-24 15:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going to watch it anyway, but how he watchs it is in your control. Instead of letting him watch it simply to get off, watch it together as a means of getting new ideas. Trying new things can really spice up your sex life, and porn is the perfect source for finding new things to try. He will be far less interested in the porn itself than you practicing the same moves on him.
2007-10-24 15:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best not to try and change that sort of thing about a guy......most guys watch porn and even masturbate to it. It doesn't mean he is doing it because he thinks the girls in porn are more attractive, if you have an active sex life and the porn is not interfering in your sex life then you have nothing to worry about.
Just be glad that he is as normal as any other guy.
2007-10-25 17:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by GH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn has nothing to do with you. It's living in a fantasy. It's not that you're not attractive to him, it's just sex.
So long as porn doesn't take the place of sex in a relationship, it's a casual thing, realize it's normal. Guys like to see naked women.
You can talk to him about it, how it makes you feel, but it's really not about you for him.
Just Do It.
2007-10-24 14:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by Chad m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried renting XXX movies that were made by women and for women. maybe that will spice things up and he will be more into you than those bimbos on the tv. if that doesn't work then just tell him how you feel, but if you've been together this long, then you should maybe come to a compromise or something.
2007-10-24 14:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by S A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can probably separate reality from fantasy. Do you ever look at the Abercrombie ads and think they're hot? It doesn't mean you are going to leave your boyfriend for a fantasy. It is just that for him. I'd give him a little space to have his fantasies. The fact is he's with you, and has been for a while.
2007-10-24 14:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jody 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try going to the video store with him and picking out a X-rated movie together,,,
It might spice things up for you in the bedroom...
2007-10-24 14:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by Chi Town Jaki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
every guy on earth watch porn..even your priest, pastor, bishop..even the pope when he was young..whats the big deal..its sometimes we want to see them rather than we are doing it..i dont know..im only 16 and virgin but as male teen thats my opinion.
2007-10-24 14:37:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
make him stop, im serious. my fience has a porn addiction and its tearing us apart, he just came out and admitted he needs help, now he is going to meetings. its a real addiction. i threatened to leave my man.
2007-10-24 14:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋