Please refer to my previous (and relevant) post regarding my husband. We have since discussed his crush and are seeing a marriage counselor. Meanwhile, he has been trying to keep his distance from this girl although they are often paired up for work (at least two days this week.)
My problem at the moment is he has told me he had lunch at co-workers' houses this week (3 times at least). All his co-workers are women and these two women are apparently not at all attractive (his words). They basically fixed him lunch and talked about work. My question is, am I being too controlling? Not trustng enough? I just feel I have been too trusting in the past and now look where it has gotten me. What should I do? Do you think he is trying to avoid his crush even more by doing this? I have already told him it makes me feel uncomfortable because he has never done this in the past at other jobs. I told him I would make him lunch instead if he wanted.
2007-10-24 14:16:34 · 8 answers · asked by em 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok...i couldnt really get past his crush? what? im sorry, but if my husband told me he had a crush on someone, i would definately let him have her...forever. when you are married, you will notice people, but never have a crush...thats crap!
2007-10-24 14:40:50 · answer #1 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Any chance he can change jobs so he doesn't have to see this woman he had a crush on? That would really help with the problem as he has an attraction to her; is fighting it, but he sees her at least twice a week; not a good situation.
I really think he is just having lunch with these women, but it isn't a good idea and is certainly not helping you deal with his confessions. I believe it was a good thing he told you the truth about his feelings; turning to you instead of acting on the attraction. Get him out of this company and away from it all, if you possibly can.
2007-10-24 21:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I don't think you're being too controlling.
Lets be honest, why does he need to go to some woman he works with house for lunch?
That's not professional.
Co-wokers are co-wokers, not buddies. I mean, yes, you can be friends with your co-wokers, but the business should be professional.. they shouldn't be cooking for your husband.
You have the right to feel uncomfortable.
I would understand if it was a one time deal, but they're cooking for him three times a week? That's just insane.
Please continue seeing your marriage counselor and bring up these things at the sessions.
2007-10-24 21:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are seeing a therapist for his crush you have a problem. He is telling you what you want to hear. He needs to get a new job. I don't know how to refer to your other post. He should not be going over to women's houses. He told you what happened there. He can tell you anything. I would look into this more.
2007-10-24 21:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not overreacting. Your husband should not be going to women's houses and eating lunch. If he can not get over his crush he should find another job. Is this job really that important that he would risk his marriage? If you do not trust him leave him. I read your other posts and to tell you the truth I would have already been gone.
2007-10-24 21:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by Cristy 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
wake up he is probley having more than lunch he should not be at no lady's having lunch unless he is with you that is not cool and no don't trust him at all he is like most men check up on him i bet youll get your answers it is better to find out then to be deseved good luck
2007-10-24 21:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by daisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's just going to lunch, it's nothing. I wouldn't be spazzing at this point. If more mysterious things happen, then confront him and ask him seriously if he's committed.
I have tons of male friends, but girls sometimes see their male friends as brothers/cousins and would never date them.
So unless he's attending orgies for lunch... don't worry.
2007-10-24 21:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
wow my lady, he's got quite a bit of action there! get him a cell plan with additional minutes for all the ladies
2007-10-24 21:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋