My sister's friend recently got married and decided that her ring was not good enough soooo...she exchanged it for a diamond that she already had from a previous engagement (don't ask why she did not return it, she didn't) anyway her husband asked her why she changed it and she said that her friend (a jeweler) got a good price on the "new" one. Her husband seemed satisfied with that answer. So now she wears a $20,000 5 Karat ring from her ex fiancee as if her husband gave it to her. Isn't that a lie???
2007-10-24 13:53:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it was poorly done. I would be quite upset if my wife dumped the ring I gave her for another without me in the loop. What she should have done, was give the ex's ring to the jeweler, then drag the hubby to the jeweler and say look honey, this is an awesome deal can we please upgrade???
I have upgraded my wife's wedding ring twice, as our income and financial security allowed. But we did it together, and we both chose the stone and the setting.
2007-10-24 14:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The lie is not in wearing the ring. A ring is a ring. But when she formed her mouth to deceive her husband she opened a gate that must be Swiftly closed, or it will grow.
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." Deceiving her husband was natural for her. She has been telling lies all her life. You don't just wake up one day and say I'm going to start lying. She feels that it's OK, nobody got hurt. She does not realize the that core principle of marriage and it's longevity is founded in truth. When that truth is violated and not repaired it becomes a wound that will eat her marriage away consuming everything and everyone in it's path, including her childern.
She will be fearful of telling him the truth, now. And the fact of the matter is she really doesn't care for her husband, nor does she know him very well. If she did, she would not have to lie him to begin with.
Pray for her.
2007-10-24 21:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by wondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty this is much bigger than a lie. I mean she not only lied to her future hubby about the whole jeweler business. But at the same time, its like she is marrying her ex instead of the actual guy that gave her the ring he picked out for her upcoming wedding. Usually I would tell others to not get so involved in such a thing. But I think as a really decent person, you should tell her fiance. I know it might get them all broken up and what not. But this man needs to know what type of man he is going to be spending the rest of his days with. I mean she has not only put a price on her fiance's love, she is saying quote, unquote that her ex has better taste and is much more capable at providing for her. So in esscence she has brought her past back in a much bigger way. And saying that it is more than acceptable. I really think you should tell the fiance here. Because its more than a little obvious this chick is not above keeping other people's gifts/feelings and exchanging them for something much better from some dude she wouldn't even marry.
2007-10-24 21:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a lie. If she wanted to keep the ring that was her decision. She should have kept the ring her husband gave her though. That is very disrespectful. If she is that disrespectful with her husband the marriage is not going to work. She could have always wore the other ring on another finger
2007-10-24 21:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Cristy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the husband sounds like a wonderful guy but as for his wife she is shallow and didnt consider the ring that her husband bought her was from the heart and his love ! she just gave away his love for her for the exes ring thats not right and yes it is a lie she is materialistic girl instead of thinking with the heart i hope that ring doesnt come back and haunt her of her selfishness that she is
2007-10-24 21:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by lil momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's a lie but i don't blame her i would rather wear a 20,000 dollar ring. 10 years ago i would of said no way your wedding ring shouldn't be taken off but sense my husband cheated and placed know importance on the ring he wore my ring means less to me.
2007-10-24 21:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is sick. she has cursed her marriage. Hopefully she will get robbed for the Ring of false love. She must be a materialistic person and does not deserve to be married. I would tell her husband.
2007-10-24 20:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by mob_logic 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women are materialistic. If it makes her happy and her husband isn't the wiser. Why start trouble
2007-10-24 23:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just soo wrong. And A big Lie. If her hubby knew the truth I think he would be highly pissed off.
2007-10-24 21:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,,, that is not a nice thing to do at all,,, but there is some things that is better left alone ,,,
sometimes its hard to see something that bothers you so much that you want to say something,,,, but i think that you need to just sit back and see what happens,,,
good luck
Leena
2007-10-24 21:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by leena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋