I have this roommate...she is, let's say...very open about sex. She's constantly bringing her boyfriend over to have sex, and honestly...they don't care where they do the deed. I'll come home, and they're getting it on in the living room or something, and it's just quite nasty! What should I do about the situation?
2007-10-24 13:21:18 · 29 answers · asked by Jewlz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell her you find it really inappropriate. if she doesn't stop kick her out or move yourself.
2007-10-24 13:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by Laura S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be honest and vocal since she is technically a huge part of your life being roommates and all. Just tell her that if she wants to have a healthy relationship as roommates for the both of you, then she needs to respect your privacy and rights as an equal resident of your home.
If she still continues to disregard your feelings then get out of there or kick her out. There is no sense with trying to have a civil relationship with her if she doesn't care about you.
2007-10-24 13:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by deSHiaTzZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You need to put your foot down immediately. She is showing you no respect at all. You need to sit down with her and her boyfriend, and get this out in the open. (Not the sex!) You should tell her that this is just as much your home as it is hers, and that anything past kissing should go on behind her bedroom door. And, she shouldn't be having her boyfriend over so much that it feels like you are the visitor instead of him. You have a right to enjoy the common areas of your apartment without having to worry about what you will see. Tell her it stops, or you will be forced to move out.
2007-10-24 13:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find another roommate! Obviously your morals and hers do not jive. This is only the beginning. There will be more issues where she disrespects your rights and environment in the future. I mean doesn't she know that you might come home when shes boinkin' in the living room. Come on! No one is that stupid unless they are expecting you to join them.
2007-10-24 13:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are going to have to sit her down and have some house rules. one being you dont' want her out and about having sex when you come walking through the door. and that she can keep it to her bedroom .
and anything else you find bothering you now is a good time to set ground rules so you both know whats what.
2007-10-24 14:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to your friend. Tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable when they do that right out in the open. Just ask her to do that kind of stuff in her room, or at least give you some warning when her boyfriend is coming over. I'm sure she will understand.
2007-10-24 13:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, first of all calm down.
think of things you want to talk about her, not only that thing, because there might be some things you want to discuss with her, other than that.
then, one time, have a talk with her, and try to be reserved.
tell her the things you don't want, and ask her for some respect you deserve. if you don't mind that her BF visit her and do their thing, you may at least say do it in her room, or maybe just don't do it in your place. remember, there are things that we want other people to understand, but sometimes no matter what we do, it always ends up in no no...
2007-10-24 13:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either kick her out or move yourself if she was there first.
It's a complete lack of respect on her part, and you shouldn't have to put up with it. If you still want to live with her, have an open and honest conversation with her, then set up some rules that you BOTH have to follow. If she still doesn't respect you or the rules, then take action. Good luck.
2007-10-24 13:24:27 · answer #8 · answered by Katiecat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to set boundaries. Lay down some rules. Be ready for her to expect to have some things to say about you to and don't get offended. If nothing changes, then the living situation needs to change.
2007-10-24 13:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Vicki J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're is a 50/50 split of everything stand up for yourself and let her know that she needs to respect your wishes.
2007-10-24 13:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by COWBOY07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your roomates father and let him know his little girl is having hot sex all over the house lol
2007-10-24 13:26:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋