Honest answers please. Who here would dump a gf/bf or spouse if s/he lets her/his appearance go?

Answer 1

for richer or poorer, good times and bad, till death do you part......I would not.....

Answer 2

My husband didnt dump me, he had an affair. I dont think I would go as far as saying I let myself go 100% but slacked off a bit. I never gained a pound in the 10 years we have been married, ( i weighed 110 then, and still weigh 110) so weight gain was not an issue. I guess you could say I got too comfortable. I was a stay at home mom and I eventually got to the point where i would still be in my pajamas when he got home from work. No make up on, my hair thrown back in a pony tail, just a plain jane. i let my house work go and dinner on the table...what was that? and sex became a boring mundane chore for me.

I dont blame him or blame myself. I think we both f'ed up in two major ways. I shouldnt have slacked off like i did and he should have come to me to tell me how bad it was getting for him. we have stayed married and my house is always clean, supper is still an issue, as i now work late into the evening now, but he understands, and i always look like a million bucks when he walks in the door from work (he works later than I do so I have time to freshen up) and our sex life is off the charts now.

Marriage is a two way street and should be full of communication and responsibility on two sides. I look at life a whole lot differently now and my attitude has become this: I'll be damned if I'm gonna loose my husband to some whore because I don't want to be a wife in every sense of the word. So i went "back in time" about 12 years and remembered the woman he fell in love with and I am her again. A little different and more mature, but in a sense, I am her again.

Answer 3

This is a sad question .

Deserves a sad answer.

The whole point of Question's and Answer's is having a place we can come and vent our problems , ask for help and take on board the advice given and be able to process the BS from the real people wanting to help the situation , while not all Question'ers actually heed the advice after processing it and use it to make their live's less stressful and more comfortable / manageable a lot of people do actually move on after the advice is given.

When I give advice it's usually based on a double sided coin , I tend to give the side where the problem is real and does need tending to and advise moving on and giving yourself time to mourn the loss of a marriage or a loved 1 and then taking up some hobbies like art classes or theatre group's , what ever is needed to rebuild the self esteem and the inner soul.

On the other side of the coin I give the negative , where I dont totally believe 100% that the question is actually viable or true and honest , like when someone just gets bored and basically writes a question that sounds like something out of a story they read some where.

Answer 4

That would be a pretty poor reason to end a marriage. I would try to find out what has made them let their appearance go such as depression or illness. I love my husband and I would be with him through thick or thin, bathed or dirty, and any other way he can let himself go. I try to instill a sense of pride in my husband just by the way I respond to him and make him believe he is the most handsome, sexy man alive.

Answer 5

I wouldn't. I married for love, I married for who he is on the inside. Looks fade, people age, they gain weight etc. NONE of that should have any bearing on the love you have for them. Our society today is so bloody shallow. Since it is, I chose to meet my spouse on the internet, not out of desperation, but because I wanted him to love me for ME, not how I looked. He loved me before he ever had a clue what I looked like and I felt the same about him. As it turns out, he is 2 inches shorter than I am, and he is about 50 pounds overweight. I didn't care. If he grew 4 inches and got slim over night it wouldn't make me love him any more or less, because the core of who he is would be the same.

Answer 6

I would never leave my loved 1 if her appearence changed. its the person I fell in love with not the body. You would have to be a shallow self absorbed person to do something like that and will most likely will never be happy in any relationship.

Answer 7

I know that I would not. That is very shallow. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and your first answerer mentioned the other reasons, For Better or For Worse...
I would however encourage them to take care of themselves so they feel good about themselves.

Answer 8

I don't think I would dump them but I would sit them down and talk to them about it. YOUR appearance is very important. It shows how you feel about yourself and others pick up on the aura you give off. Just talk to them, I believe you can get themn to come around to your way of thinking ...

Answer 9

Just reading the answers to see how many superficial people answer.

Answer 10

If I was with a boyfriend, I guess it wouldn't really matter to leave him if he let himself go really bad. On the other hand, if I were married...stick to the vows.

Answer 11

I/Me/We would definitely dump my bf/gf, spouse because she/he/it let his/her/their appearance go/up/down/around.

Oh dear you got me so confused I don't know which one I am :(