Inter-racial dating / marriage .... Are there stereotypes ? Or is it just what I've seen?

Question

First off - let me state that I have NO problem with interracial couples... several of my firends are in interracial marriages....

However - within my group of friends and work-mates, etc... I have noticed a few "stereotypes" to the interracial couple....

I'd like to know if you find this to be true and if so, WHY you think it is true ?

Stereotype #1 -

Most black / white couples are made up of a black man and a white woman. Very rarely is it the other way around - especially if the female is very dark skinned. I have only known ONE black woman / white male couple in my life and the gal was so light she could have easily passed for Hispanic or Med. / Persian pretty easily.

Stereotype #2 -

Most Asian / White couples consist of a white man with an Asian female. Rarely does a white gal end up with an Asian guy. Why ?

Stereotype #3 -

Most Latin / Hispanic / white couples seem to be a L/H male with a w/ gal. L/H gals seem to stay w/ their own race. Why?

Answer 1

I think when you already have stereotypical thoughts in your head then you tend you see more of it. Where as a person who doesn't know of stereotyping would probably have a broader spectrum of things. I've actually seen more white women with black men then the other way around. And as for the Hispanic stereotype, let me tell you that there are hispanics who are white. Not every spanish person is tan. I am spanish but am white and most people don't even believe that I'm spanish. My husband on the other hand is spanish and tan so when people see us they probably think he's a spanish guy with a white girl which would be wrong. Regardless of all of this, as long as the couple is happy and good to one another then why stereotype? I think it just narrows your vision of things.

Answer 2

You hit it on the head without even knowing what you have hit.

That is exactly it JUST A STEREOTYPE.

My wife is From Japan and I am from the US, but race in our marriage has so little to do with it, you just have no clue.
What it really is about at it's very core is what is inside the human heart. If I were not the man that I am in my heart, she and I would not be married.

What I believe most people need to learn is to look beyond the surface and look into their own hearts and souls. When people realize that the body (regardless of the body's nation of origin) is just a vehicle for the Spirit that drives it.
Marriage by it's very definition is a joining hearts and souls. That being the case, does nationality really matter all that much? Now ask yourself... why am I still single? Are you looking at nationality, or are you looking at the person's heart and soul?

Answer 3

You are right, I mean I know you asked why but that is just how it is. I actually am white and prefer black guys. But I also like hispanic guys, and although I think white guys are very handsome I couldn't really end up being with one.

My moms white, and my dad is white...and my dad never dated a black woman until he met my stepmom and she is black.

I notice the same things you do with interracial couples. I guess it is all just what the person is more attracted to. I think most people don't care about interracial relationships, but sometimes when people of one culture see another person of their own culture with someone out of their race it's like they feel like they are being abandoned.

I know because I have witnessed it a lot even though I have gotten used to it. But the one thing I didn't even think about before is the hispanic girl an white guy. You are so right most of the time I just see white girls and hispanic guys. So crazy.

Answer 4

Stereotype #2 buster: I am a white female married to a Chinese man. I think that Asian men just don't have a reputation of being "hot" and thus attractive to white women, however, we've noticed a few couples of our same mix when we're out and about. When I started dating my husband, it was fashionable to have an Asian boyfriend! I advise women on YA who want a reliable, kind, loving family man to "look Eastward".

Stereptype #3 buster: my former nanny is Latin-American married to an American man of Honduran descent. He's dark-complexioned but I'm not sure if he considers himself black or not. I also had a Cuban friend who married a white guy. She saw how her male cousin treated women and decided she didn't want to marry a Cuban guy!

But you are right, the black female/white male combo is rare. There is one in our community but I've rarely seen such couples in public.

Answer 5

I dated an Asian guy, so I have seen couples of an Asian guy and Caucasian girl. But you make a good point here. Most of the couples that I know are in the exactly way as you mentioned here.

I don't know why.

What about Asian and Latino/a couple? Or Asian and Black? Just wondering. Is it really that rare? Anyone has any idea why?

Answer 6

The first two I can agree on, but I have seen more white males with hispanic females then the other way around. Even in my family.

Answer 7

first of all im married to a black man. but my brother is married to a real dark skin black woman and they have a 3 year old son. bu your right most of the time the man is black and i don't know why.

Answer 8

i am in an interracial marriage so i know the sterotypes. but at the end of the day why does anyone care who someone else is married to. there are a lot of sterotypes but most of them come from ignorance.

Answer 9

I'm black, and yes #1 does seem so, but as far as Asians and Latins go, it's they're usually dating white people, because they think it will raise they from the bottom of the totem pole. And the white man dating the Asian woman is that I think Asian women will do anything for them. And the Latin male, as I said before, dates white women, because he's down at the bottom of the social totem pole.

Answer 10

Those aren't stereotypes, those are statistical observances. It would be stereotyping if you gave a REASON why.

The worst reason I've ever heard (which I completely disagree with) is for your #2: White men marry Asian women because they have pedophilic tendencies, and Asian women are small like children. (How horrible is that???)