I've been with him 8 years. he's 30. I'm 29. I been trying to get him to quit for years. He is one of the most kind hearted people u'd meet but I know for a fact that his we-d addiction is out of hand the root to all our problems. I left him over it numerous times. He is really sweet to me when he's Hi-h, but when he doesn't have it he is miserable and fights with me till he does have it. We have a business but I can only limit the amount of money I give him because he will blow it all and I have to take care of the bills. I also go to school. He has no-body really, but me and I feel quilty and like I'm sinning when I can't give him money. I don't know what to do. He really stresses me out. I can't take it any more. I can't live with feeling quilty all the time. It causes most our problems. It makes him lazy, mean(when he's out of it), he doesn't have his liscense, doesn't have his GED, and only works in our business, but I take care of EVERYTHING. Should I leave him?
2007-10-24 11:57:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is so sweet to me and loves to buy me everything. He is only mean when he's feening, which can be a lot. Sould I feel guilty for holding the money when he does %50 of the business and I take care of his and my bills?, should I feel quilty for not letting him have money because I'm affraid he'll waste it and jepordize our bills?
59 minutes ago
yes it does get that bad. He sold rings of mine once and other stuff as well. I know thc isn't addicting, BUT it IS mentally addicting. I've been telling him to quit for at least a month and he will go back to normal, but he wont.
56 minutes ago
he works for his money in our business, but when we're struggling, i'm affraid he'll waste his portion. Should I feel quilty for not letting him hold his money, if I'mn affraid he'll blow it and jeapordize things?
2007-10-24 11:59:20 · update #1
if he really makes u feel that terrible all the time then i really think u need to give him the choice, give it up or give u up. cuz u don't deserve to be with a man who cant do at least something like that for u. u shouldnt feel giulty he should he is the one toruring u. its good that u hold his money cuz its showing that u have responibilty and can take charge. he needs to no ur seroius and u need to let him no it. and if hee cant be a full part in it then u need to get out of there before it gets really bad. it may hurt u at first and u may think it will be easier to stay but trust me it will be easier on u after a lil time. so yes leave him it will make u feel better, or he has to stop
2007-10-24 12:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This all sounds all too familiar, because I have a close friend with a husband exactly like yours. He is hooked on pot.
Don't let anyone tell you its not addictive, for it certainly is.
Like you, my friend has left her Hubby many times over the pot smoking, but he always goes back to it in a little while.
And, yes, they are much nicer when high. Without the pot, they get ill-tempered and can even get violent. They cannot seem to function without the calming effects of the drug.
Don't expect any real changes for the better unless he seeks rehab help. The incessant use of pot will keep him from ever growing up or becoming responsible.
I can tell you still love this guy and want to do the right thing.
Ask yourself if you really wish to play Mommie to him for the rest of your life? That is the only role you will have, as the wife of a pothead. I feel for you.
2007-10-24 19:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
drug addicts are master manipulators , you wont change him quit trying and leave , my brother's are addicts and dealer's cop's cant touch em seem's if you break the law here like that you can get away with it hmmm funny that.
Stop wasting your time .All the love in the world isnt going to stop him from being the way he is despite what everyone tell's you like getting him into re-hab and seeking counciling and what ever other brainless idea they write. A drug addict can only gani help when and IF they realise they have an addiction and want help.
2007-10-24 19:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, you don't get addicted to the POT,he might be having trouble getting use to NOT being hi!! Maybe since he's not hi, he just dosen't like yu any more!! You sound very controlling, and maybe he has issues with that?? Only he knows, but if you 2 have a business, it would be time fo him to be serious about the job at hand!!
2007-10-24 20:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should leave him. You have your whole life ahead of you and you shouldn't stay with someone like this.
2007-10-24 19:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's bad news...
2007-10-24 19:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋