My boyfriend is very verbally abusive. What should i do?

Question

He's not supportive in anything i do, he call me stupid, dumb ***,etc...

Answer 1

he wants u to feel just as bad as he does, i would not stay with someone who disrespects and name calls, because its who he is and part of his character and not easily changed. focus on yourself, all this verbal abuse will get u nothing but a low self esteem and after awhile u will feel as if u deserve this, get out now and don't marry him, no one deserves to be treated like this. often times verbal abuse turns into physical abuse later on. if your smart u will leave this relationship and move on, as there are many good men out there looking for love, u don't have to settle for this.

Answer 2

Okay, besides cut his tongue out you have options.
Figure out if it's really worth you staying in the relationship.
Remember, the only thing different between verbal abuse and physical abuse is a slap.Can you see a slap in your future?
Tell him he needs to chill with all that abuse.He can go to therapy, anger management, whatever .Just do something.And fast.
You probably don't realize the toll it is taking on you, yet but you are paying .
Every time he calls you a name or makes you feel less than you are paying.
And there will come a time that you will SEEK relations with abusive men.
Is that what you want? A lifetime of what you're going through now.
Nip that stuff in the bud.
There have been so many good women ruined by abusive 'boyfriends' that it makes me want to get abusive to the guy just to show them how it feels.

Answer 3

Wow, Lot's of folks here want you to leave your boyfriend. Well that because it's not their boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse and their own relationship they run so strictly.
Fact is he became your boyfriend because he acted right at one time right? Now he has changed and acts out these hostilities on you.
There is a way back to that good place like it was back then but you have to make it happen. You have to be strong enough to be willing to walk away if he's not going to go back to being a sweetheart. You must tell the guy how you feel and how he makes you feel and tell him you won't tolerate it and be willing to accept that he may decide he would rather go. Just think so what, he'll find some other girl to hurt on.

Answer 4

I know it's much easier said than done....but you need to leave his sorry ***. Nobody should have go through such mental abuse. It sounds like his self esteem is so low that he has to make you feel horrible so he can feel a little bit better about himself. Situations like these often turn to physical abuse sooner or later. It will not get better. The longer you stay in this relationship, the harder it will be to break free. You need to leave and never look back.

Answer 5

I know it can be really tough sometimes to get out of an abusive relationship and I know it may take some time. You need to find a free slot in your daily schedule to leave him. You don't deserve to take any kind of **** from any man. You are much stronger than that. You could even do like on Madea's family reunion and fix some hot grits then ask him if he wants some breakfast and throw the pot of hot grits on him. Then hit him upside his dumb head and show him who's boss. No woman should ever take abuse from a man no matter what. Do yourself a favor and leave him.

Answer 6

You have 2 choices, remain with the jerk and wait for the inevitable physical abuse to begin, or you can use your brain and leave him immediately. He is both a controller and an abuser and it will get worse as time goes on. If you value you life, self worth and future, kick him to the curb NO woman or man deserves to be abused in any way, shape or form. He may proclaim to love you, apologize, and swear it will never happen again....ALL lies, until he gets professional help he will continue and it will escalate.

Answer 7

girl you may love him and all but really hes not good enough for you if hes not supportive and emotionaly abusive its not good or healthy for you. get rid of him and you will be much better off. if he wont leave you alone get a restraining order and make sure you let your friends and family know what is going on for saftey reasons. then just move on in your life you will have someone that will care about you and treat you the way you need too be treated. best of luck

Answer 8

Some men test their strength on a woman to see how much control he has over her. It first starts emotionally, if he get his way in abusing her in that manner, he loses respect for her then one day he will try it physically. Some women feel like it is their fault (this mentality usually comes from poor upbringing as a child who came from a home with no dad or dysfunctional parenting). Some women feel that the man will change if she does as he say. For the most women see their men like they see their children. That their jobs is to help this person grow into a better person and if he has a problem, to treat it like a disability that they just live with.

For those who break the cycle, they constantly carry a feeling of victim-ism which is also not healthy. If you feel that you are in this situation, get out. You will be a hero to yourself and your love ones for getting out of that situation. Better yet listen to this song "I'm Not a Victim" for inspiration from the website: http://www.broadjam.com/artists/artistindex.asp?artistID=52975
Another place for them to get help is at http://www.ndvh.org/ or 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Answer 9

Leave him - and sooner rather than later! You're worth more than that no good, piece of s..t can ever be. Why wait for the verbal abuse to turn into physical abuse - get out while you can - he's a bully!

Answer 10

Leave him. The sooner the better. He'll try to convince you to stay. He'll say he's sorry and he didn't mean anything by it. Things will be better for a few days and then the same BS. Call the police, get out and get counseling. When he tries to call you, and he will; tell him you're not interested. When he shows up, mace him. I wish you luck.