I am 21 he is 38...he is an amazing guy got divorced almost 5 yrs ago weve been dating 4 3yrs now....i was just wondering how long does it take to get over ur cheating ex wife that left u and broke ur heart in a milion peices... i am fun and easy going i have my own business and dont need anything from him ....but he keeps her pics...he still talks about her a lot....and every time he runs into her he becoms cold and distant. i love him with all my heart but sometimes i feel like hes not over her even after 5 yrs apart and 3 yrs with me .... is it normal for a divorced man to do that???
2007-10-24 10:54:41 · 18 answers · asked by Ginger86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
obviously he has been cheated so it will probably take a lot of time to heal and forget her.
does he understand that he is in relationship with you now and doesnt treat you like some 'kid' by referring to your and his age gap
its great that you are understanding
maybe he needs extra time with you
try to move somewhere where he wont meet her and tell him to let go of the pics
he'll soon return
chuck everything that reminds him of her and put your stamp on everything
xx
2007-10-24 11:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by Perfectionist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that he's telling the truth about her cheating? Just wondering...my current husband whom I'm separated from is 17 yrs older than me. We got married when I was 22 almost 23 and he just turned 40. If he still keeps her pics and stuff then he is not over her. I want to add that you should be careful, and this is experiencing talking...just make sure he doesn't do things or say things to control or manipulate you. He's much older so he knows how to play all those games. But since he has been with you for 3 yrs...sounds like it's okay. I don't think I will remarry an older man again though.
2007-10-24 11:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to my first wife for 26 years. It seems almost stupid to get a divorce after so long. But the love that a man has for a wife had gone. Still, I had & still have love for her as a person, as a friend, and as the mother of our children. She has remarried and I am happy for her that she has found someone that loves her like I couldn't. I missed her and I missed our home because they were a part of my life for so many years, but I never wanted to go back to her. We had simply gone down different roads and though it hurt to end it, there seemed to be no turning back.
2016-05-25 14:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my heart wasn't broken in a million pieces so I'm not sure how my answer will be valued. I was over her before the divorce was final. The only thing holding me back now is: I'm raising two teenage kids alone. It's hard to bring someone else into their lives. It's also hard to let them into someone elses life. So I have a time limit of till my daughter is out of high school. 4yrs left.
2007-10-24 11:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I threw out her pics soon after we divorced and I moved out and yes she broke my heart and it took me nearly a year to get over because I was with the wrong person after I left my ex due to cheating. I am with the right person now and I don't think twice about my ex.
2007-10-24 10:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by purelyvdubz 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They say it takes a month for every year you were married. I was happy to be done with her but after 10 months for my 10 years I could barely remember ever being married to her. After 5 years, I don't understand what is going on. Seventeen years age difference makes me worry that he is a control freak and maybe he can not get over her leaving since he could not control her. I hope I am wrong, good luck.
2007-10-24 11:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by toledogolf 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why hang on to a guy who still have feelings for his ex? he have yet to moved on from that phase of his life. There are alot of guys out there who hv been hurt and have moved on in a short time. If he still loves her...where does that put you in? A rebound girl?? Or someone to hold on to jus in case?? He is not being fair to you at all....so insensitive for your feelings...did he really love you? If he won't moved on why waste your time?? your still young there's still time.....don't stop your life just becoz he have done so....live a little!
2007-10-24 11:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...Sometimes its not about love...Men like to be in control of their lives, their woman and even her life. He may be more upset that he has no control over the situation than actually missing or loving her.
But if he is still having issues as you say...he isn't ready to move forward even if he says he is.
2007-10-24 11:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he is divorced? This is definetly not normal. This is why they are the ex. BTW, what is a 38 year old man doing with a 21 year old--- he's inadequate. Be very careful!!!
2007-10-24 11:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by Lucci 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not normal. Evidently he still has feelings for her. If you keep up this relationship you really need to understand that fact. It's tough to have a quality relationship when one person is still hung up on an ex.
2007-10-24 10:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by Bull in a china shop 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋