Ugh. My husband routinely complains of having an overdrawn account and no money. Yet his last couple cell phone bills were over 600 dollars. he has a smoking and drinking problem and whenever I call and ask how his day went, he's always nasty because I make sure our bills are paid before he gets a chance to blow his money on stupid stuff. Any suggestions to help save money?
2007-10-24 10:54:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
(fyi) he's in the military and i have no access to his account to monitor his spending. he's also 17. too much freedom too soon. i know. (and too young to be mature enough to handle finances)
2007-10-24 10:59:33 · update #1
plus we have a little girl...5 weeks old
2007-10-24 11:03:28 · update #2
he's only 17? good god! why are you married to him? and how old are you? he's acting this way because he's still a kid. plain and simple. you have to deal with it, make him grow up, or leave. sorry, i hate saying that (the leaving part), but i think it's a legitimate option in this case.
2007-10-24 11:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by hh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You actually have two children,and if you stay in this marriage is poverty lane for you and the other kids you will have.I am sorry to say you need to end it,he's too inmature to realize he is a married man,a father and his family comes first and it will be a long hard road for you if he ever does.The fact that he is in the military doesn't have anything to do with the kind of person he is as he probably has always been selfish and self centered.Get rid of him and start your life over,not only will you save money but your sanity as well.
2007-10-24 19:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by Georgewasmyfavorite 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is 17? Sounds like his parents were only too happy to give their consent to #1- join the military and #2- get married.
Looks like he's your problem now. I hope you didn't get married only because of the baby. If you did- then it's time to call your mom and dad- ask them to come get you and the baby- and then file for divorce. Staying with a man who has a smoking, drinking and money problem isn't the best thing for the baby.
Good luck.
EDIT: Staying with a BOY who has a smoking, drinking and money problem isn't the best thing for you or the baby.
2007-10-24 18:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 17 he has no concept of saving or what is important. You should keep access to the account to make sure the baby is taken care of. If he is not ready to be a father and husband, then you better get ready to take care of yourself and child.
2007-10-24 18:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what exactly does he bring to your marriage? He sounds like a whiney baby who has absolutely no self control....if you two don't have any kids, I'd really consider cutting him loose...he's a drain financially and apparently emotionally since he's got a drinking problem, drunks can cause havoc in your life. So, what do you get from staying with him exactly?
2007-10-24 17:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take any extra money after the bills are paid and hide it from him.
2007-10-24 18:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by S K 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is 17?? And you already have a child?
2007-10-24 18:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody should ever spend more than $20 on the crappy food at Hooter's in their lifetime.
2007-10-24 18:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would get a divorce and save alot of money.
2007-10-24 17:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by patches 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dump your loser husband. That'll save you enough to buy a house.
2007-10-24 18:00:12 · answer #10 · answered by wineboy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋