two days ago i had a miscarridge. i asked a question on here about it and i got so much S*** given to me by people answering saying i could of saved the baby bla bla bla. but if a miscarridge starts im sure you bodys doing what it thinks is right? so how could you stop it? could i have stoped it from happening at the time?
2007-10-24 10:50:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I guess it depends on how far along you were.
I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and I was told there was nothing I could do. All they did was have me come in for a blood test 2 days apart to see if my levels went down, and if they did I was having a miscarriage. What are they going to do for a baby that is 8 weeks old
2007-10-24 10:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really really sorry! It's just something that happens.
There isn't much of anything you can do - usually the baby has already died long before your body knows it. I carried one for 14 weeks and had morning sickness and everything still before any signs of miscarriage started. They told me the baby had passed at 10 weeks. Thankfully, everything was fine, but it was the worst to go through - I wanted that baby so much.
I'm really sorry for your loss. I've been there too. There is nothing you did wrong. It wasn't your fault. It feels like the worst thing in the world, I know. I was so sad when it happened to me.
There is hope though - I have 4 healthy beautiful children now and I know I have 2 waiting in Heaven - God has my first and my last.
Time helps a lot. Don't let others hurt your feelings - I had some of the nicest people say some of the dumbest things to me. They meant well - it was just not helping. If I could hug you I would! Don't beat yourself up about it. You should wait 6 weeks or so (whatever the doctor tells you) and you can try again as soon as you're ready. Having a miscarriage doesn't put you at any higher risk to have another one either. You could go on to have lots of successful pregnancies and healthy babies. Take care of yourself. Rest and heal and try again when you're ready. I felt a lot better becoming pregnant a few months after I lost my first baby - it made all the difference in the world. Best Wishes!!!
2007-10-24 11:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lamont 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once they've started, they usually go to the end. Sometimes it's the body's way of saying, there's something not right. That doesn't make it any easier on you, though. I doubt very much that you could have stopped it. And I'm pretty sure, you would not have wanted to if you knew what was wrong with the fetus. I'm not being heartless, but speak from experience.
A miscarriage can be a blessing in disguise; that still does not make it easy to understand or endure. Don't listen to
ignorant people who make remarks like that, they do it out of
lack of understanding about how the body works. God bless.
2007-10-24 10:57:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CANNOT stop a miscarriage from happening. It is nobody's fault, and nothing can be done. Sadly, milllions of pregnancies end in miscarriage, if you look at the research it is way more than you think. I am so sorry people have been so unsympathetic, they clearly dont have hearts. Unfortunately, some pregnancies are just not meant to be, but it is nothing you or anyone else has done wrong, and any doctor will tell you that once a miscarriage starts, they are powerless to do anything. Please do not listen to people who are deliberately trying to hurt you. They must be sick in the head
2007-10-25 09:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by pinkygazoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if it is meant to be, you can't stop it. My sister-in-law had 3 miscarriages before she finally carried a baby. If you start to miscarry and catch it soon enough, the dr can give you a hormone shot and you have to stay completely off of your feet for a few days, absolutely no activity!! But...My sister-in-law did this the 3 times before this last one and lost those 3. Finally it worked with the last one and now she has a healthy baby boy. Sometimes it just happens though and there is nothing you can do. Sorry for your loss! :(
2007-10-24 10:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by arachelle008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant stop it. it doesnt matter what you do. once you start miscarriaging or your body decides that it can not keep the baby there isnt anything anyone can do. it you are i think 24 weeks + i believe they can try to save your child but you would have had to deliver.. im so sorry for your loss. God Bless You and know your child is now in a better place.
2007-10-24 11:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you could not have stopped it, otherwise there would be no such thing as miscarrages
I had one a little over a year ago and If I could have prevented it I sure would have like most moms out there.
Miscarrages happen in over 90 % of prego's however most happen beforethe mom even knows there is a baby
Take care of yourself and don't blame yourslef there was nothing you could do
2007-10-24 10:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by sam k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CANNOT stop a miscarriage. An early miscarriage is an indication that there is something seriously wrong with the cells in the baby. If it is problems in the 2nd or 3rd trimester bedrest may help.
2007-10-24 10:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, probably not, if your going to misscarry chances are, theres someting wrong with the baby. Sorry for your loss.
2007-10-24 10:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jorja and Rykah's Mummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a miscarrige starts there is no way to stop it..whoever told you this is a liar! i am very sorry for your loss but there is absolutley nothing you can do to stop it once it has started
2007-10-24 11:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by jscangel18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋