why does everyone think that divorce is the answer???????/?

Question

when a person is mad at the hubby or wife everyone yells divorce him /her?

Answer 1

Divorce is never the answer but, when you have tried everything else what else is left to do??? If you can't be together then why continue to fight and be unhappy with each other....Especially if its been a long time.....Sometimes you have to accepct it is what it may be and decide to move on from there.....

Answer 2

I've wondered the same question. Some people just don't want to do the work to work out marriage problems and they don't think anyone else should either. It also appears that they don't think about their answers before they write them. There are often easy solutions to marriage questions on here and too often, people just say......get a divorce...you deserve to be happy. I answer a lot of marriage questions and I'm sad when I read that so many of the answers say......if you're not happy, then leave. I wonder how many single people are happy? I wonder why so many people expect that all relationships must make them happy all the time in life or they are not worth being in. I have been through some major marriage problems.......and I have been divorced. I am not judging people that go through divorce. My first marriage was to an abusive man that eventually was unfaithful to me. I tried for 7 years to make that work even though I knew in the first year that I had made a terrible mistake. There were no kids, by the way....thankfully. I learned from that experience. I have had serious problems in my current marriage and most people on Y/A have advised me to "leave my husband, get a divorce, move on" and they don't mention "leave your children to suffer the trauma of divorce and separate households" and parents fighting over custody. The times I have wondered about divorce (my unsuspecting 3 year old daughter would draw a picture of our family and happily say, "We need one happy family!" and proudly point to each of our pictures in her drawing. Just a sweet little reminder of what I will always fight for. :o) Sometimes divorce is just the easy way out. Thank God I haven't followed all the marriage advice I have gotten on Y/A. I've learned that marriage is very difficult and most are worth fighting for and even many of the most difficult situations can be overcome with enough work, prayer, and communication. I think some people are just too self centered to work hard at marriage. It's sad how often people just give up because they "aren't happy". I'm glad you asked this question. I'm not trying to be a hypocrit because as I mentioned above, I HAVE been divorced, but there are good reasons for divorce and there are bad ones and often these two are confused.

Answer 3

it's unfortunate. it seems like the "easy way out", but it's got to be painful going through a divorce. i think it would be more painful than trying to work on my marriage if there were a serious problem. i know it has its place, but it's not the answer to everything, and it's not really what people need to hear all the time. marriage is not meant to be so disposable.
even when my cousin was having serious problems in her marriage, i didn't tell her to get a divorce (even though i thought she should). i told her that i would be there for her, what i thought she could do to help the situation, and i let her know that no matter what she decided i would support her. ultimately, people have to live with their own decisions, and it's not our place to yell DIVORCE at everyone's problems (though abuse and continual cheating are definitely divorce-worthy in my opinion).

Answer 4

Because they never consider the relationship, or the commitment it takes in a marriage .... It's a fight, so the first thing anyone without a truly committed relationship would say.. "DIVORCE"... That's why there is so many unhappy people in this world.
If you had a fight. Talk it out. It just may find a little easier than to say ah! let's get a divorce... Because once it's done reality hits hard, weather it was a good/bad divorce.
Talk it out!!!!

Answer 5

not everyone, but I know what you mean... its evident not only in marriages but in almost all forms of relationship. Nowadays, there is no incentive to keep together or work things out (in general) because men are finding that they can do everything they need to do or maybe want to do on their own, women can work (I don't find that a bad thing) and live on their own... people these days don't even need to be with someone any more in order to satisfy their desires. People are replacing the solitary close communication and trust with the one person they love most ... with friends, and friends are good, but people are relying more on friends than on relationships with loved ones (for whatever reason). People don't even need to be married or even dating someone they like in order to fool around with them, some people don't even care who they do it with so long as they do it... as society progresses in the way it is now, there will be less and less reason to build a trusting and loving relationship between yourself and one other person... the ever more common answer is "why have one person when you can have hundreds or thousands" and without any consequences except maybe STDs, and Doctors are solving that problem as well... eventually there will be no obvious NEED to love someone as a wife or husband or fiance etc... because why do that and risk the effort when you can talk all your stuff out with a shrink or a friend, and get your desires satisfied without any form of permanent relation. I am a huge follower of the concept of living a life and finding someone to marry and getting married eventually, to the point of trusting them and loving them and living with them and dealing with the troubles of the world one thing at a time as a whole but as 2 in which hopefully the strengths of eachother defend eachother's weaknesses... and that as a whole unit together we could take on almost any challenge we need to. Also, statistically children are most likely to become a great person when they had 2 loving parents helping them grow up. But we should all just know that the world's not perfect and neither are we, problems are meant to be worked on to solve and not to be avoided by running away.
---Also, I think that some of that problem would go away if people who don't really know their husband / wife all that well wouldn't rush into marriage, I mean shouldn't it go: Meeting eachother, dating, boyfriend and girlfriend, engaged, Marriage? (could take years, but then less people would jump the gun to divorce)

Answer 6

I know, it's ridiculous.

In fact, I just read an article that said the vast majority of couples who were considering divorce and instead opted to work through their problems reported having happy marriages again 5 years later. Why throw away a potential lifetime of happiness for a couple of rough spots?

Answer 7

I agree. Hubby doesnt do the dishes; divorce him.
Wife is out shopping with a friend who just happens to be a guy' divorce her.

Seriously, people do not take marriage seriously these days.

Answer 8

I think it's a bad idea. And with kids involved I think they should make you stay together till the kids are 18. I think people have the Walt Disney view of what marriage, Happily ever after fairy tail dream world idea. It's alot of work, there's times you won't get along. You will get mad at each other. Get over it and get back to being a family. I had my wife leave me and the kids for a married man. She wrecked two homes. I think she was having her midlife thing. Lord knows I was planning a midlife crisis myself I was thinking.......little red sports car.

Answer 9

Because it is a cowards way out. This generation only knows of divorce. They know nothing else. Being married is hard work and requires alot of give and take. I have heard that the only reason you should get divorced is if there is adultery, addiction, or abuse.

Answer 10

Not everyone is right (as stated above). Having said that, many people today are so used to instant gratification that the common assumption seems to be that anything can be solved in the standard 30 minute sitcom time span. When reality raises its' ugly head and does not cooperate, many seem unable to cope. One guys' opinion.